Do not follow “rules.” If you were feeling that person and there was a connection, reach out as soon as you want. I’ve had guys reach out on instagram same night/next morning. It’s flattering and always a green flag that they were excited to ask me out vs sitting around for a week
Through text, at LEAST a month maybe longer.. Start to understand their text habits and what they like and simple stuff like that. If you’ve met them in person and have gotten to know them then probably a couple weeks. It’s honestly just a vibe. If you’ve met really like them and they seem interested maybe a week or so. If it makes you nervous and they don’t mind to wait then wait a little
Honestly, there’s no rule for that. If it feels right, go for it. Just read the vibe and don’t make it weird. Sometimes the best stuff happens when you trust your gut.
If this was someone that I would continue to see normally, not long. Once you’re in the friend zone, you’re never coming out. (When it comes to me.) So within a handful of seeing me would be a good bet. But it really depends on the situation. How many people are around, how often we see each other… Professional… Friend circle, etc. It could make a big difference.
If it’s someone who I gave my number to because we were specifically flirting… As in strangers… I better get a call RIGHT away! Like, same day or next day! If he isn’t super interested, he can find someone else!
I met my husband on a dating app and asked him out on the day after I started talking to him (we then met on the following day, a Friday). We had a nice time and met up on Sat and Sun as well, which was the day he asked me to go steady. If you two have a connection, there is no too soon.
There’s no set time frame for this. Obviously keep your guard up and don’t be too naive. My advice would be to get every deal breaker out of the way and make sure both of you want the same type of future together.
If something isn’t compatible there, there’s no point starting a relationship to begin with! However, if everything lines up, there’s nothing wrong with going with the flow.
Whenever we have built enough rapport that that feels appropriate (which might never happen, if I’m not into them or am too busy/distracted at that time in my life, etc). I don’t want to be asked out by someone I’ve barely spoken to, as I have no way of knowing at that point whether I’d want to commit to spending an hour+ talking to them one-on-one on a date.
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Maybe like half a week to week. I don’t want to jump into anything too fast but also don’t keep me waiting!
Depends on the person and the vibe!
Do not follow “rules.” If you were feeling that person and there was a connection, reach out as soon as you want. I’ve had guys reach out on instagram same night/next morning. It’s flattering and always a green flag that they were excited to ask me out vs sitting around for a week
3 months.
Through text, at LEAST a month maybe longer.. Start to understand their text habits and what they like and simple stuff like that. If you’ve met them in person and have gotten to know them then probably a couple weeks. It’s honestly just a vibe. If you’ve met really like them and they seem interested maybe a week or so. If it makes you nervous and they don’t mind to wait then wait a little
I ended up asking my now husband out after of week of texting. I was sick of waiting for him to ask me.
Depends on how we vibe
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If they’re interested, I wouldn’t mind them asking within 5 seconds from meeting me.
Honestly,if the convo flows and the vibe’s there, even the same day’s fine. Don’t waste time. Let them know you like talking to them.
I don’t mind immediately, like why wait. If we feel attraction and chemistry, I want to explore that and our compatibility together.
Honestly, there’s no rule for that. If it feels right, go for it. Just read the vibe and don’t make it weird. Sometimes the best stuff happens when you trust your gut.
ASAP.
If this was someone that I would continue to see normally, not long. Once you’re in the friend zone, you’re never coming out. (When it comes to me.) So within a handful of seeing me would be a good bet. But it really depends on the situation. How many people are around, how often we see each other… Professional… Friend circle, etc. It could make a big difference.
If it’s someone who I gave my number to because we were specifically flirting… As in strangers… I better get a call RIGHT away! Like, same day or next day! If he isn’t super interested, he can find someone else!
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I met my husband on a dating app and asked him out on the day after I started talking to him (we then met on the following day, a Friday). We had a nice time and met up on Sat and Sun as well, which was the day he asked me to go steady. If you two have a connection, there is no too soon.
Immediately
Whenever is the nearest opportunity
It depends on the person. Somewhere between 10 minutes and forever. With me, best practices are to wait for me to pursue you.
There’s no set time frame for this. Obviously keep your guard up and don’t be too naive. My advice would be to get every deal breaker out of the way and make sure both of you want the same type of future together.
If something isn’t compatible there, there’s no point starting a relationship to begin with! However, if everything lines up, there’s nothing wrong with going with the flow.
Not long. Usually I did the asking because fuck waiting around.
Whenever we have built enough rapport that that feels appropriate (which might never happen, if I’m not into them or am too busy/distracted at that time in my life, etc). I don’t want to be asked out by someone I’ve barely spoken to, as I have no way of knowing at that point whether I’d want to commit to spending an hour+ talking to them one-on-one on a date.
Why wait? If we click, just ask.