First off, I just wanted to say thank you to those who gave their thoughts & comments. I took the time to go through them & I received some really good advice from some of you. I took a lot into consideration & ultimately made the decision to go no-contact. It’s now been two weeks & my mental health has already started to improve. I’m also so fortunate to have such a supportive partner who’s been nothing but amazing during this change.
Thank you for reading! 🌸
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I just read your original post and I had to laugh at the irony:
> His argument? People grow to be lonely when they reach his age.
And as a result of trying to push his stupid beliefs onto you, he actually gets to be lonely at his age because his daughter cut contact with him.
You did the right thing. Blood doesn’t mean that someone gets to cross boundaries without consequences. And as you discovered, life and mental health are so much better when we remove toxic people from our lives.
/r/qanoncasualties
I know it’s not a precise match but maybe you’ll find some consolation in seeing how other people are dealing with the loss of relatives or past friends to some of the insidious stuff happening.
The fact that you’re already noticing a positive difference means you made the right decision. Stay strong and we wish you the best.
Your body, your life, your choice. Sorry it came to that for you, but you don’t own fixing your dad; all you can do is cut out the cancer because he has to decide to fix himself on his own.
Good for you prioritizing your own well being!
Also, just read your original post, and this part jumped out at me:
> My sister just had a baby w/ her long-term partner & he very well knows they are struggling to support themselves & their child. He argues that government assistance will help me w/ that…
The sheer gall of him telling you to rely on government assistance as he votes to gut government assistance is actually brain-damaged levels of insanity/stupidity. You don’t need that in your life.
Congratulations on having the courage to go no contact. It can be incredibly hard to make that decision but you deserve to live life without being constantly inundated with that kind of rhetoric.
I went no-contact with one of my older sisters. So tired of her condescending, patronizing bullsh-t. She actually has some good points, but I cannot stand Trumpers anymore. Their minds are gone. They can only bring ugliness and ill-will.
Hi. 1y here, popping in respectfully to say that I’ve been no-contact with my parents now for almost three years; there’ve been brief moments of heartbreak but it’s very necessary and I’m doing better for it. Everything in this post is so affirming, thank you everyone for sharing your stories. 🙏
I would add that just because a question is asked doesn’t make it your responsibility or obligation to provide to them an answer. Often narcs just want to argue a point and tear down your replies.
r/raisedbynarcissists
Ultimately, you made the right call. If your father wasn’t willing to listen to reason or acknowledge how creepy and uncomfortable such discussions about his apparent views that you’re just a baby maker are, that’s someone that will never relent through words alone. He’s probably way too deep into the rabbit hole of MAGA and internet brain rot that he won’t be able to escape it until he finally chooses to (possibly never).
To put it bluntly, that’s just part of the insane reality we’re all forced to live in today and you did what you had to do to find a way to get through all the muck.
Good for you!
He brought his loneliness on himself…