Will I regret putting my dating and social life on hold for a research opportunity that involves a lot of moving and rural living?

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(I’m 23F, will be 27/28 when I can start dating again)

how old are most people when they find their long term partners?

tldr: Currently 23F, got offered a great research opportunity overseas that will take up 4-5 years of my life, BUT I’ll need to move around quite a bit + it’s mostly in rural areas in a foreign country (canada). Not conducive for dating. 
oh, also, I am worried about the social isolation and the loneliness i may face moving around so much, being away from any support groups. 

i do wanna take up the research opportunity as it’s what I want for my career, plus its a chance for me to potentially start a career in a different country! 

BUT I do want a partner and a family, and I’m scared if I only start dating at 27 years old most of the good guys will be taken? and it may be even harder for me to find someone with 0 relationship experience??

i’m also worried as i hear its even harder for women to date at older ages?? 

If I don’t take up this research stint I will probably take up a low-paying hr admin job instead that doesn’t relate to my major at all. i mean, i can probably climb the ranks and pivot into something else later, but it isnt my top career choice.

I will say though, I do value having a relationship more than the best career choice, but ofc if i can have both that’d be the best.

anyone has any insights? ty! 

Comments

  1. weaponized_seal Avatar

    I really REALLY doubt that you will be in constant isolation for 4 years, even if there is few people

  2. saltyholty Avatar

    The men getting married before they’re 27 aren’t the good ones getting snapped up early, they’re just the ones who got married young.

  3. mediumbiggiesmalls Avatar

    I feel like doing your research project shouldn’t stop you from dating? There are men who live in rural areas, lol. 

    Even if it doesnt end up being a long term relationship, you can still experience dating?

    But if you want a blunt answer, for me personally: 

    I take advancing my career over a relationship, any day.