My girlfriend (22F) came over to spend the holiday with me (26M) for 5 days, she didn’t shower a single day in those 5 days and she told me the reason is that i have cheap products that she will never use because it will ruin her hair. Anyways, it didn’t bother me at first until the 5th day when we were having sex the smell was so intense i didn’t feel like doing it anymore so i stopped. She kept asking me why i stopped and i avoided answering until i noticed she was getting mad so i told her the truth gently. Yet still she got so mad and dressed up and wanted to go back home ( she lives 5h away). I tried to comfort her and tell her its okay and am sorry if i hurt her feelings. But her answer was. « I know you are not wrong but you made feel bad about myself and now i feel like am cold towards you » i told her this is a stupid reason to break up for so she told me « i am afraid if we do it again all i will think about is what you said to me ». Am i the asshole? I really didn’t mean to.
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My girlfriend (22F) came over to spend the holiday with me (26M) for 5 days, she didn’t shower a single day in those 5 days and she told me the reason is that i have cheap products that she will never use because it will ruin her hair. Anyways, it didn’t bother me at first until the 5th day when we were having sex the smell was so intense i didn’t feel like doing it anymore so i stopped. She kept asking me why i stopped and i avoided answering until i noticed she was getting mad so i told her the truth gently. Yet still she got so mad and dressed up and wanted to go back home ( she lives 5h away). I tried to comfort her and tell her its okay and am sorry if i hurt her feelings. But her answer was. « I know you are not wrong but you made feel bad about myself and now i feel like am cold towards you » i told her this is a stupid reason to break up for so she told me « i am afraid if we do it again all i will think about is what you said to me ». Am i the asshole? I really didn’t mean to.
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> Its cause i told her she smells bad and thats why ididnt want to have sex and maybe i should have kept it to myself cause now she want to breakup for it
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Why didn’t she bring her products then? NTA.
NTA who goes on a 5 day trip 5 hours from home and doesn’t bring any hygiene products 😭 she hurt her own feelings
She can still shower without products 😭just soap pls
No
NTA. They have no stores near you? She can’t bathe and not ruin her hair permanently? Dump her. She’s gonna be high maintenance.
NTA. not showering for 5 days is crazy unhygienic and literally not good for you mentally.
my guess is the not showering for 5 days goes a little deeper than not wanting to use a man’s shower products 🤣
NTA. I am confused tho because why would she not shower just because your products would ruin her hair? She could just bathe her body and not wash her hair. Also, why would she go to your house for 5 days with no products? That’s disgusting. I wonder if she doesn’t shower at home because I can’t even go 24 hours without showering because I feel gross.
NTA… I cannot imagine 5. This deserved a discussion. I’d rather use cheap products than smell like Coochie.
Okay she could have at least used plain old water.
What did I just read?
If she doesn’t want to use your stuff why didn’t she bring her own or buy more??? Nta
She’s gross af. And you went on her after five days of no hygiene measures? Bro…. Ew
i was so confused because i thought… what scalp is gonna smell that bad after 5 days but i realize you mean showering AT ALL which is absolutely insane 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
NTA ?
that’s so gros
NTA. That is poor hygiene. She could have brought her own products or gone out and bought some. At the very least, she could have just washed her body even if she didn’t want to wash her hair with your shampoo/conditioner. Avoiding a shower for 5 days because she doesn’t like your hair products is bizarre.
I would not want to have sex if I haven’t showered in 24 hours never mind 5 days. That’s ridiculous.
She can still shower and just not wash her hair!! She could go buy stuff then?? 5 days?!? I wish I understood how people can have sex with others who don’t shower for days at a time.
Fam you’re nasty as hell too for diving in after 5 days no shower
NTA no that’s a no. That is a reason to break up poor hygiene. You cannot teach that and should not have to. She should of us dher own products. Could of went to the store or had products delivered. There was other options then sitting in filth. She honestly needs to feel something. You smell yourself before others.
Nah bro!!
I want to know if you guys were having sex all five days 😭
NTA. Your gf is just gross.
Hope you washed your Willy!
She can shower without washing her hair
NTA. What kind of person doesn’t take a bath for 5 days because showering in your products will ‘ruin her hair’? Either she’s lazy or she’s just really high maintenance. Also, why didn’t she bring her own products since she came over to spend the holiday? Did she expect you to buy her some products or something? I’m confused.
Either way, still NTA.
That love must be as strong as her smell cause I could never..