Somehow, the last post made it to the one person I didn’t expect it to. No names, no shade, just truth — and yet, it hit a nerve. Loudly.
Now there’s drama. Again. The guilt trips, the twisted words, the endless back-and-forth. Like clockwork.
What’s exhausting is not the reaction — it’s the pattern. It always circles back to this storm of emotions and blame… …and guess who gets caught in the middle every time? My DH.
He’s trying. He really is. But when the pressure builds from both sides, it wears everyone down. I’m tired of pretending everything’s fine just to keep the peace that only exists when one side stays quiet.
It’s mentally draining. I never wanted conflict — I just wanted space to breathe. To speak. But here we are… again.
This wasn’t supposed to be a battle. But somehow, even silence gets spun into betrayal.
Right now, I don’t know what to do
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The fact that she recognized herself in that post with no details and no real context says more about her than anything she could say about you.
“The shoe fits” apparenty. I totally get the exhaustion!
I would try to ignore this woman, and archive her messages. There is nothing what you can say or do that will make your JNMIL understand. Are you and DH in therapy? I would greatly recommend couples and individual therapy for him.
My reaction would be “So what.”
You vented about her behavior and she found out. Doesn’t make it any more or any less true. If people had agreed with her, you’d be getting a very different reaction.
Stay the course. I’m sure it will be rocky, but nothing will change if you back off “to keep the peace”. Spoiler: people only want you to keep the peace because it is hard FOR THEM. So it will be other loved ones who are copping the brunt of her wrath who ask you to “be the bigger person” because it takes the heat OFF THEM. But nothing improves for you, because you back down and she learns that you can be manipulated to give in.
Don’t give in. Don’t give up. Stay the course. And weather the storm.
Also, therapy for DH asap.
This reads like AI tbh.
> No names, no shade, just truth — and yet, it hit a nerve. Loudly. (…) What’s exhausting is not the reaction — it’s the pattern. (…) It’s mentally draining. I never wanted conflict — I just wanted space to breathe. To speak. But here we are…
Textbook AI style writing