My decision is probably not wanting to freak out ladies who might end up dating me, I might do it one day once I’m in a stable relationship and my partner would be fine with but as of now, I wouldn’t wanna do it just yet
Men of Reddit, what stops you from donating sperm?
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My decision is probably not wanting to freak out ladies who might end up dating me, I might do it one day once I’m in a stable relationship and my partner would be fine with but as of now, I wouldn’t wanna do it just yet
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Many sperm banks require you to be a certain ethnicity.
Nothing in particular. There are just so many other things I’d rather do than wank into a cup in some strip mall and my time is finite.
Because if someone with my DNA ended up with Helicopter parents, or in a boring buttoned down suburban household, they would go insane.
My vasectomy, mostly
Don’t want to.
I have children and I enjoy being their dad. Don’t want unknown-to-me kids out there.
Also you can possibly get roped into paternal financial responsibilities so no thanks.
Lastly, I’m not into helping rich people.
DNA testing.
I have great physical genes: No disabilities, very tall, in good shape, good looking enough, college + good job (unrelated to physical)
Terrible mental genes: Extreme depression, anger, social anxiety, insecure, negative self image
The depression alone I do not want anyone else to experience, its truly horrible and is exacerbated by substance abuse.
Not tall enough
if i ever have children i want them to be born out of love not some artificial cup beating
The last thing the world needs is another me with all my issues.
One, because it’s weird. Two, precedent has been set in my country that you are financially responsible for the child.
Cause the family line ends with me
I doubt that will be necessary
Bad eyes, short, fat, nothing particularly desirable about my seed.
Sperm banks have deemed my genes unworthy of being passed on because I’m not tall enough.
I don’t want to contribute to the human population.
It’s MY dna, MY sperm, and MY kids.
They don’t take from men my height lol (aside from ethical considerations).
Did look at one of those California Cryo ads with my brother and filled out the questionnaire as joke. Apparently based on their other criteria I’d be a champion racehorse if I had an extra foot
When I was a student at Caltech there were several companies asking for students there to donate sperm, on the theory that as ‘geniuses’ our sperm was more valuable than the average.
The whole idea squicked me, to be honest.
I’d like my potential children to know me, and more importantly I’d like to know who is raising the rascals
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I’m too short per sperm donor places lol
They’re missing out, these here genetic lottery genes don’t get mosquito bites.
nah fk that, why would someone with the eyes open to the world affairs want to consciously bring more slaves to the grinder?
I can’t think of a single reason why somebody would donate sperm.
It would just feel rude to all the other little guys who ended up in tissues and socks, ya know?
I’ve had a vasectomy, so I don’t have any sperm.
(I mean, I technically do, but it has no way out, so I can’t donate it.)
I’ve been asked a couple of times and said no. Because some day some kid is going to do ancestry.com or genetic search and hunt down the guy that fathered him/her and left them to suffer in horrible circumstances or the adoptive parents end up dying and there are no other relatives to care for a kid. So court orders biological parent to step up.
Not risking any kind of bizarre consequences.
Should be promoting Blood donation instead of sperm
Eta: I encourage my fellow people of color to especially donate!
Different racial and ethnic have unique markers in their blood, and that’s hard to find when 75% of blood donations are from white people who may not have those types. It will be finding a needle haystack which delays treatment!
P sure I’m infertile but I don’t want any semblance of knowing that there’s someone out there I could be responsible with.
Most donation centers aren’t super ethical with what they do with sperm. They say there’s a limit on fertilizations and where the stuff goes, but in reality there’s no laws that prevent them from selling it as often as they can.
I don’t want kids. Not at all. Also I’m pretty sure there are many, many better options for donors.
I have deep feelings about this… my sister has two kids from a sperm bank… she has no job currently and no partner… she wanted kids for the simple fact of “wanting them”. So she got a loan and bought the sperm. This is commodifying people… my niece and nephew will only grow up in a life of poverty, they will only have family on my side… there resources are limited…
I believe suffering is inherent to this reality and by choosing to have a kid you’re creating suffering.
I am strongly against any type of sperm donation or life creation.
I’m short and have a chronic illness that may be genetically linked.
I wanted to donate 10 years ago when I was in my mid 30s. The place I wanted to donate to said I was too old
Someone made a joke about suing their sperm donor on TikTok about a year go, but, as far as I’m aware, two men have been ordered to pay, except this wasn’t done in a clinic, they came to their own agreements, which shot them in the foot, so if you decide to do this, make sure you have a legally binding agreement to prevent you from getting hit with child support.
There is nothing stopping the government from changing the laws to violate the privacy of donors or making donors financially responsible for the resulting children.
In my view, it wouldn’t be unconstitutional in any way.
I’m not even going to take the chance.
Family court doesn’t even respect fathers rights if they did IVF and a DNA test.
Want seed? Be deserving. Bare minimum.
Vasectomy.
rheumatoid arthritis already disqualifies me from being a blood donor. They probably don’t want my sperm.
Even if that werent the case, I would feel weird about knowing there could potentially be people out there who are of my seed but I have no bond with.
I smoke weed.
No interest. My wife and I have two children and I have zero interest in having other children out there that are potentially mine. I’m not 100% against the idea, but something about the whole sperm bank concept is off-putting to me.
The vasectomy that I got 25 years ago seems to be the main factor
Shitty genetics.
Because I feel a moral obligation to care for and ensure the safety of my offspring. I don’t want a stranger raising my genetic child.
Looks and money
Growing up without a dad.
I couldn’t do that to another human.
If i have a child (and I have two) I want to be the best father I can be to them.
Chainsmoking
I’m 66 and only have so much left. Lol
I don’t wanna pass down my short height on another kid, but another really big reason is bringing that kid into a world with no dad.
I myself think I’m not mature enough to be a dad, but bringing someone into the world without their dad would make me feel extremely guilty.
I don’t want that
My bloodline was never a winner in the genetic lottery. I didn’t have any kids of my own and I wouldn’t curse my bloodline on anyone else.
Antinatalist
Aged out 🤣🤣🤣
Age. They won’t accept donations if the donor is over a certain age
I’m always keen to donate but just haven’t found the right lass yet.
A guy told me he doesn’t want his kid dating his other kid, unknowingly. I can get behind that.
Had a vasectomy. I keep trying to donate but they don’t seem to like my sperm very much.
If someone I personally knew came to me and asked me to donate specifically for them, I’d consider it. Other than that, I’m not going to let someone I don’t know use my genetic material.
Single mother households have horrible stats
My genetics don’t need passed on. Being a depressed suicidal, ugly lazy, unmotivated recluse isn’t a good trait to pass on
As a partner I wouldn’t care if it was an anonymous donation, you have made one couple or Individual extremely happy and I think that’s sweet
The feminist league is always pushing to be able to collect child support from sperm donors. They have been successful in the past. I wouldn’t.
The time coupled with the strangeness is not the worth the little money they give you.
Where I’m from you can’t donate if have mental/physical problems and I have ADHD so I can’t donate, but nowadays even if I could o don’t think I would, I don’t feel like my reproductive rights would matter if the kids ever want to find the dad or even the mom asking for child support
Legal risk later in life: New laws may be retroactive and you don’t want to get stuck supporting 75 kids you don’t know.
More importantly, it’s morally bankrupt. There are too many kids in foster care to justify taking on a pregnancy and medical debt for a child that will never know its biological father.
Further, we are SHORT on doctors, nurses, and healthcare. Any medical professional expending their time and talent on designer babies is a healthcare resource not going to the care of society.
It’s gross.
Donate blood, not sperm.
Lol nobody would want my genetics. I’m a dry-skinned twink on immunosuppressants allergic to a multitude of things.
Hell I don’t even think I’d want my own kids. I think I’ll adopt.
Snip, snap, snip, snap
The nightmare scenario where some kid shows up at your doorstep – or worse yet, a court summons for a child support hearing. Frankly, there is zero way to prove you didn’t actually have sex with the mother, and it was a donation.
I’m afraid people with a pathological view of families like misandrist lesbians and single mothers by choice or families where the man has fertility problems and is being genetically replaced in his own family will damage them. Don’t want to put little mes in that position.
I wasn’t aware of shortage of sperm?
The fact that you cannot waive your parental responsibilities. the state can 100% come after you for child support.
A vasectomy.
A recipient
I’d rather be a dad than just a “biological father”
Donate your old gym socks
Usually the security guard
So, unless you take a massive pay cut to remain anonymous, the state can hold you for parental responsibilities.
Also there’s a schedule you have to follow if you plan on donating.
They don’t let you use lube because it contaminates the sample.
Something something your mom.
I don’t want another monster running around in this world. I’m enough.
Hey friends. Feel free to mail me a donation 401 n Wabash Chicago 60611.
I don’t want some completely unknown individual to be my kid. If I’m going to potentially have children then I’d like to play a decent part in raising them.
I also wouldn’t want them randomly turning up on my doorstep after twenty or so years if I had nothing to do with them beforehand. I’m aware they’re privacy laws and such, but I do know that people can find ways around such things… legal or otherwise.
Finally, I don’t have great genetics. Got one side of the family with lung issues, and the other with MS. Potentially a terrible life for someone.
Don’t qualify, otherwise I would.
I had a vasectomy
too short
This curse ends with me. No spawn of mine needs these generational mental health problems in their life.
I don’t want to.
They don’t just take anyone, you have to pass a bunch of tests. Physical exam, mental health exam, medical history, family medical history, infection disease screening, background check, sperm motility, etc. And you have to stay pretty clean and healthy while you’re donating. And best case scenario, you’re donating a couple of times a week (can’t have sex during that time obviously) for $100 each.
I looked into it in college but I didn’t qualify on several counts.
Because these aren’t sunflower seeds that were talkin…
Did he ask me to give up my children?
It’s harder to qualify than you think.
I also masturbate almost daily. Holding off between appointments would be rough.
I was told, “It smells funky”
Well, I’m pretty worthless imo, so I doubt anyone would want my sperm.
Sperm donations, in some instances can be used to impregnate eggs for in vitro fertilization. These can then be put on ice for years at a time or even killed. I think it’s disgusting and incredibly immoral
I’m not putting my DNA out there by itself where I can’t see what happens to it and help it through life.
bro, some chicks are suing sperm donors for fucking child support…. let that sink in
I don’t consider procreation a positive. And certainly not with my shitty genes. Mental illnesses and gene defects run in the family.
And also, if someone really, truly wants a child, why not adopt? There are so many children in need of a good home. Making a baby is such a selfish thing to do.
I can’t wrap my mind around the idea of sending my DNA out there into the ether like that. That shit is crazy to me.
There’s orphanages at capacity around the world. You would think that would be the obvious first option for individuals with reproductive issues.
I have a genetic illness, but outside of that I have no desire to.
The vasectomy
What stops me? I don’t know, let’s see… Diabetic, high cholesterol, professional mid-level manager (I was terrible at my job), with a solid C average in college. Yep, I can see women standing in line for the turkey baster with genetics like this.
Brother, I won’t do it, sperm donation, because according to many religious scholars that I follow (and some whom I’m not a follower of), that kind of donation with the purpose of conception is haram. 🙏
I want to parent any children that I contribute genetic material to.
Do I get to veto who gets it? That’s the only way.
I’d need to meet them at least, maybe over coffee or something. Find out what type of person they are. I would need to know if their values align with mine. Also…. Wait a minute. This sounds familiar.
The world is overpopulated and I’m not contributing. Next question
Don’t want something that part of me and looks like me. Out there. It could be neglected or harmed and having that feeling in the back of my head is no bueno
Most people dont meet the criteria for donating sperm. People paying top dollar for sperm have huge expectations and conditions around that sperm. They don’t just take anyone’s juice. The majority of men today wouldn’t meet the criteria.
Edit : only about 5 percent of applicants are excepted. They also will only accept you if you are 18-35 40 at the latest provided everything else is in perfect alignment. In Canada you don’t actually make money off sperm. It’s illegal. They compensate you for your time or travel to the apts.
I prefer to make a direct deposit rather than just mailing it in .
No one would want it. The criteria is super high.
I had a vasectomy 13 years ago
Even if I got accepted or I was a ‘healthy’ candidate physically, I wouldn’t, I’m not spreading my genes with the history of mental illness in my family
Anonymous sperm dotation ought to be illegal. Children deserve to know their family history, for medical purposes, if nothing else. Not always possible, but lets not make it worse. I do think it’s preferable for a child to be raised by their biological parents where possible. Again, nothing against adoption in principle, but lets not make it worse. Sperm dotation is depriving a child of their biological father, possibly a father at all.
And if it’s not anonymous, are you on the hook for child support? Maybe there are contracts, but laws can change, and you might not even like the mother. I’m not letting you bear my child if we’re not even having sex.
Sperm dotation seems like something only a sociopath who doesn’t care about their children would do. Do we really want that type of person reproducing more?
On the other hand, if the potential mother is OK with allowing you a relationship with your child, and you’re OK with that mother bearing your children, and you work out a contract in advance on how child support is supposed to work, there’s absolutely no need for a “donation” through an intermediary. Just have sex.
The thought that no one will want it
The question isn’t what stops me but what motivation there would be in the first place?
I have it in my will to donate to science my entire collection of semen I have collected weekly in bottles since 1983.
I didn’t want any more children after two so I got a vasectomy.
My wife doesn’t want me to.
I’m on the fence about children, I’ve thought about donating and I’ve thought about getting a vasectomy. At 24 everyone advises against it.
Anyway, what stops me is I’d wanna know my children and be a part of their life. Plus if they potentially ended up in an abusive situation.
If I have children out there, I want to be a part of their lives.
I have donated lots just not at the clinics
I don’t think that THAT would benefit anyone.
Just zero desire to assist on that level. I have kids. I don’t really want unknown ones out there.
Requirements
I don’t have 17 billon dollars to give to my children.
I know what I’m like, do you really think I’d want another me out there? No is the answer, and you shouldn’t want to chance that either 👹
Most men are ineligible, only 5% get accepted. I’m just hair under 5′ 10″ – too short for most clinics.
Sources close to me say, the DVD content in those places is sub par.
I don’t need the money
I don’t have a high feeling of self-love
Last time I looked for a sperm bank in my area it was saying there weren’t any. I’d be open to it if I could find somewhere that’ll buy it and didn’t mind my medical history (epilepsy being the main concern)
The fact that might DNA could be out there and while it would biologically be my offspring, I would never be able to interact with them feels somehow just very wrong to me and I wouldn’t want to go through that.
My vasectomy