Hey guys, I’d (F 27) really love your perspective here — especially from men in relationships who’ve had rough patches. I think my bf is in a tired or emotionally drained phase and I’m trying to understand his POV
So….
- When you’re in a tough place emotionally, how do you show love to your partner (or do you just… not)?
- Do you disassociate more easily or become emotionally unavailable?
- Can a kind of “safe but distant” feeling happen even early in a relationship?
- What could your girlfriend do to help you feel more connected?
Want to support my bf without losing myself in the process. Trying not to be that partner who brings the same concerns up every few days. Would love any honest insight.
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Hey guys, I’d really love your perspective here — especially from men in relationships who’ve had rough patches.
Want to support mine without losing myself in the process. Trying not to be that partner who brings the same concerns up every few days. Would love any honest insight.
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I was in a ldr for more than 3 years, i used to just tell her that I’m drained or tired whenever i am, and we would just have a chill day together, watch a series or something or just have her on video call while i chill. She understood that i could have these days, and it doesn’t mean i love her less if i go through these days
Excellent communication is crucial to any relationship. But if it’s a long distance relationship, it’s even more important. I understand not wanting to vent to your partner about the same thing over and over. But if that is what has you out of sorts, then hopefully your partner understands and wants you to get it off your chest. Preference by Telling them that you are growing concerned about being repetitive and boring. Ask if it’s OK if you vent about an ongoing subject. And then limit the amount of time you spend venting about it. Give yourself 10 minutes or whatever, and then force yourself to drop it and change the subject.
I would question why is this a LDR, thats really just a penpal, i assume there is an end date or goal for the LDR to return to a normal relationship ?