It’s almost feels like I’m on a completely different wavelength to most people around me. I feel like they just don’t listen and understand my mindset and the perspective im coming from. I try to talk to people about it and it’s almost like they just push you down. It’s so irritating because there’s hardly anyone to talk to about it if you understand what I’m saying
How do you feel about others understanding you?
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It’s almost feels like I’m on a completely different wavelength to most people around me. I feel like they just don’t listen and understand my mindset and the perspective im coming from. I try to talk to people about it and it’s almost like they just push you down. It’s so irritating because there’s hardly anyone to talk to about it if you understand what I’m saying
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It sucks, but it is what it is.
Instead of talking to people about my “mindset”, I just hang out with friends and have a good time.
Agreed. I found it even harder in the US because people really do not even understand me and sometimes I can’t understand them. Then there’s understanding perspective and opinions which is a deep, dark hole in itself.
I learned to communicate better.
That’s life pal I’m afraid. A lot of people quote opinions as facts and think they’re the only ones that matter. Acceptance will get you further than trying to understand it and will allow you to decide if these people are worth spending time with, or not.
> It’s so irritating
Felt like that in the past too, but that feeling went away. Main reason it did was because I gave it a fair chance – do the things I believe lead me to something good? When it did, I concluded that irrespective of the feedback I got from people willing to voice their opinions, things didn’t became any less better for me.
These days I am absolutely fine with people disagreeing with me, not understanding me etc. In the end I am not asking them to do anything for me, nor do I harm others with the things I believe or do, so the things I have are the results of me using just my own resources and energy, not forcing anyone in disagreement to support me on that. And that in my opinion is how respect works – I respect that others are not with me on things and I don’t demand them in any way to be. In turn I get to keep the good things that come from it to myself as well.
And after all of that, I found people who are on the same page as me, who I wouldn’t have gotten to know if I had hidden from the world just because some people did not approve.
Here’s the thing, people don’t have to listen to you. Most the time, we don’t care am getting on With my day. It’s life. Maybe learn to communicate better OR if its really everyone that’s irritating you, maybe they’re not the problem…..
You assume they do
YES! I feel like I can’t ever see myself reflected in other people’s eyes. I feel like I’m too different from other people. Once in a blue moon, I’ll find someone I click with but it’s rare. I usually try to find a way to keep that person in my life.
This might be a universal experience. I don’t know because nobody ever talks about it. Maybe we all feel like that?
Having this lately. Jiffy Lube fucked my engine shield up and I made it a point they will have to replace it, as they should because it was damaged by negligence that I can easily prove. I told a coworker who tells me “why don’t you just go to the junkyard and zip tie one on?” Uh… Because they have no choice but to get me a new one or drag this out in civil court? Why am I paying for THEIR mistake?
They’ll get mad when I cut the conversation off and walk away, but it feels like such a simple concept that I shouldn’t have to explain. It’s just common sense. The frustration of breaking my stance down into even more digestable bits isn’t worth the lack of satisfaction when they maybe see it my way.
It’s been that way my whole life, it’s like people deliberately take everything I say the worst way possible. If I ask something simple like “When’s dinner?” just out of curiosity they act like I said “hurry up and provide food you peasant!” So the response I get will be something like “shut up asshole, it’ll be ready when it’s ready!”
I assume they do understand me but at the end of the day if they aren’t family or friends or work colleagues i dont really care.
It really is a mood booster because it is rare that people understand me fully.
I don’t need anybody to understand me. Understanding myself is enough. I don’t people to “listen” to me either. I have a journal for that.