She has everything you want in a dream girl but she’s 10 years older than you. Would you date her? Why or why not? Is the age gap a dealbreaker?
Would you ever date a girl that’s 10 or more years older? Why or why not?
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She has everything you want in a dream girl but she’s 10 years older than you. Would you date her? Why or why not? Is the age gap a dealbreaker?
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Sure. It doesn’t seem weird at my age. I’m 44. I wouldn’t mind dating a 54 year old if I was single and met someone I clicked with.
Uhm yes I’m 34 so that’s not too bad
Absolutely yea
if i was 26 or older yeah. i’m 19 so 19 and 29 are significantly different life stages
Probably not. I think I max at 5 years in either direction. Just don’t see be appeal in being with someone in a vastly different phase of life.
(I’m 28 fwiw)
Yup, no qualms.
Not lesbian so no.
If it were a guy… they’d have to be otherwise a really good catch because I don’t really like “age gaps” that are over 2-3years. 10y age gap isn’t much (I’m in my early 30s) but when you’re 70 and he’s 80… it can go downhill really fast healthwise. 10y is probably the max age gap I’d tolerate.
No… but it’s only bc I am married to someone that’s about 14 years older than me, and it’s not been a good experience. if I were to ever date again, I’d stick to about 5 years either direction.
I’d date an older woman but I’m not interested in dating men that much older anymore
Sure. I’m already in an age gap relationship so I don’t have qualms with them as long as there’s compatibility.
As long as we’re both established adults with careers or an income source, age doesn’t matter to me. My wife is well over ten years my senior.
I’ve always been into women who were around twenty years older than me, but since lesbian women weren’t into cradle robbing me the way straight men were, I just dated someone my age :)…
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I’m straight AF but my husband is 12 years my senior. I’m 42. It’s not a big deal.
Yes. I’m not into older men but I’m very into older women.
I’m with someone who is 20+ years older than me (albeit a man) so yes.
It is not a deal breaker for me!
May not be a popular opinion but just as age gaps seem larger in younger years like 19-29, the gaps also feel larger in elderly age too. They could potentially retire 10 years before you and the health decline in elderly age happens much rapidly for most that it does in younger years. A 30 year old and a 40 year old might be in similar stages but there’s a HUGE difference between 75 and 85. That might not be a deal breaker if it’s the ONLY reason not to pursue someone but it is something to think about.
I think I would be uncomfortable but I am sure it would change quickly when living the situation
Nope not at 66.
Uh, I’m very interested in someone 12 years older than me. The age gap isn’t the problem though lol
I wouldn’t because I prefer having a max 5 year age gap with my partner. So I guess they wouldn’t even be a dream girl to me!
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Not at my age, but maybe when I’m older and the gap isn’t so significant.
I would absolutely.
10 years is probably the MAX age difference for me and I’d really prefer it be a little smaller
In my experience, just socializing with older and younger people, I do think there is a big difference in connecting with another generation. At most, I would go out with someone 3 years younger and 4 years older.
If vibe matches age limit should be anywhere between 18+ to coffin
i wouldn’t actively search for it, i prefer women around my age. but if we click, it wouldn’t be an issue (I’m in my late 20s)
If they had everything I wanted and were my dream partner… absolutely! Why the hell not?
Oh no, someone who’s hot, funny, smart, has similar interests, is financially secure and sexually compatible…I’m not going to give it a pass because of something that MIGHT happen in 10 or 20 or 40 years.
If the vibe is right and we connect, age isn’t a dealbreaker. A 10-year gap means nothing if we’re on the same wavelength, goals align, and there’s mutual respect.
Absolutely yes, and anyways, I really don’t think my dream woman could be my age rn, definitely 5 or more years older
No
Hmm I would rather date someone closer to my age so mid to end 40’s but honestly depends on the woman. When I was younger her I would have dated older that I would now 😅
TLDR: for a legal hookup, yes, fine. For relationship, less automatically fine.
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“Date” can mean a lot of things. A hook up buddy has, and should have, different rules than a potential life-partner.
For a deeper relationship, the problem is Power Differential. Age gaps *can* create a major power differential, just like how a big income gap, or education gap, or a gap in social rank can create a power differential.
In a very short-term or loosely connected relationship, you can play on those gaps, for fun.
But if you try to actually MARRY that professor you boinked, you may discover she targets students because her peers know she’s a jackass.
Or you may find that the hot celebrity you snagged will never prioritize you over her 500k followers.
And watch out especially for rich women, cuz you may start out as the pampered pet, but the leash chafes. How committed to the bit are you? Do you have any other options, or this the only way you get to even live in this country?
To build an ongoing relationship across a power gap requires way more work, skill and luck than people think.
But for simple hookup? Age gaps are fun.
So I think this very much a life phase thing but also a life goals thing. If you want kids for example, it might be a struggle for a woman 45+ for example. I say this as an almost 40 year old.
I once dated a man and we had about this big of an age gap. And we just weren’t in the same place in life. I was still working on getting my career on track. He has already established his. He wanted marriage and children then and now and I just wasn’t there in my life. I still
Wanted to save money and travel, he kind of already done that. I still wanted to do things like explore new places, go to one or two concerts. He didn’t know any of the bands I liked and he was happy just being home. I mean we both wanted a lot of the same things but for me they were years down the line whereas he wanted them now. It just didn’t work out because of that. Would I do it again? No I wouldn’t. My limit it five years older and three years younger. Just like I don’t want to have to raise and adult child I don’t want someone who already did their bucket list and is in a different place in life
My mother was 10 years older than my dad. They were very happy, it never came up at all.
I’m 28 and my ex was 36. Honestly, that much of a gap started causing issues. I’d rather be closer in age to someone.
I’m leaning towards no…it just feels weird to me. As a 21 year old, I would not be comfortable dating someone who’s 31.
My husband is 15 years older than me. I’m in my 30s, though. I feel like that’s a lot different than, say an 18 – 21 year old dating a much older man. But if god forbid I ever have to date again, I’d probably go for people around my own age.
I would, depending on what i want for my life and love life.
Maybe this age gap is what makes us MORE the dream girl. 😎
My bf is 9 years younger than me.