TIFUpdate: my friend’s proposal

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Backstory:

Based on my original post.

My friend, who did amateur porn with his gf, decided to manipulate me, a freelance photographer and videographer, into filming him and his gf about to have sex. He asked me to do his videos many times before, but I always declined. However, when he asked me to film him proposing to his gf, I said yes. It sounded wholesome, on paper, but all of that wholesomeness went out the window when my friend ended up going Only Fans in front of me with his gf, who was under the impression that my friend finally convinced me to film them fucking. I was like “did you forget to pop the question, like, what is happening?” My friend got upset at me for exposing his plan to propose and I got upset at him for putting me in an uncomfortable position. Our friendship was in limbo for a long time until we eventually made peace and moved on.

Update:

It’s literally been years since my original post. My friend, who is no longer engaged or in a relationship or involved in porn, asked me to film another thing for him. My first reaction was like “no, sir… not doing that shit again”, but my friend explained that he wanted someone to film him tripping on magic mushrooms. Based on his explanation, a shaman was gonna facilitate his psychedelic journey, and apparently the shaman was willing to give me access with my camera, as long as I was discreet, respected the process, and never entered the “sacred circle”, which was the space designated for the shaman and the shroom user during the ceremony. My friend said it was his first time doing something like this, so it would mean a lot to him if I was present, not only to film his experience, but also to hold his hand so to speak.

Fuck Up:

I agreed to film the whole thing. As soon as my friend and I arrived at the shaman’s sanctuary, the shaman advised me not to film the start of the ceremony. I was not even allowed to be in the same room at first. I waited outside in the garden area until the shaman gave me the green light to come inside and film the rest of the ceremony. I started filming when the shaman gave my friend what she referred to as a “hero dose” of magic mushrooms. I was told beforehand that my friend would be tripping his balls off for approximately 6 hours. I didn’t have enough memory cards for 6 hours, so my plan was to film moments. Nothing happened for the first hour, so I stepped outside to smoke my vape. My friend was laying on a mattress, staring into space when I left.

When I returned, my friend was sitting upright with my camera in his hand. I left my camera in the room to record whatever might happen while I was not there. My friend was pointing the camera at himself with the adjustable LCD screen facing him so that he could see his own face, which made him laugh hysterically, almost as if he couldn’t believe what he looked like. I automatically wanted to grab my camera because it’s not cheap, but the shaman stopped me from entering the “sacred circle.” Even though I was stressing, I did my best to respect the process, so instead of raising my voice over the loud Jumanji music, I used sign language to tell the shaman to grab my camera from my friend who’s obviously fucked out of his mind.

By the time the shaman reacted to what I was telling her, it was too late. My friend suddenly saw his face melt or whatever and dropped the most expensive thing I own on the ground. My camera managed to survive the fall, but the glass of the lens was cracked and the LCD screen was bent, leaving my camera unusable. Needless to say, I didn’t record anything after that. My friend offered to pay for the damages when I explained to him what happened, which I appreciated. I sent the lens in for an assessment. Still waiting for feedback.

Tl:dr Agreed to film my friend tripping on magic mushrooms, which ended up with my friend almost destroyed my camera.

Comments

  1. caughtinatramp Avatar

    You don’t learn do ya?

  2. Samtoast Avatar

    No sir absolutely not!

    Proceeds to do it

    You sir are a coward.

  3. TechnologyEmpty808 Avatar

    This is literally your own fault.

  4. Lem0n_Lem0n Avatar

    From almost becoming a pornographer to a brokengrapher.. and back again to a photographer.

    Glad he offered to pay.

    Is the shaman deaf ?

  5. Sunbro_Sao Avatar

    This friend is incredibly shitty. They’ve put you in really uncomfortable situations multiple times now. You really should just cut ties here and be done with his manipulation.

  6. CrustyFlapsCleanser Avatar

    Gotta be rage bait. People this stupid only exist in brain rot TV shows right?… Right?

  7. sh0wst0pper Avatar

    What’s that saying?? Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

  8. Soomroz Avatar

    The actual FU is that OP is still trusting his friend.

  9. GnomeToTheDome Avatar

    You need a new friend

  10. Tension27 Avatar

    You really need to stick to your guns and say no. They’ve screwed with you before, and now they’ve broken your stuff. My money is on him pulling out of paying for it when it’s more expensive than he thought it was going to be.

  11. guajojo Avatar

    Both stories are made up or this guy’s is stupid, take your pick

  12. Martianmallo Avatar

    To quote William S. Burroughs, “Avoid fuck-ups. You all know the type. Anything they have anything to do with, no matter how good it sounds, turns into a disaster.”

  13. baltinerdist Avatar

    Why. Are. You. Still. Friends. With. This. Person?

    He’s manipulated you for years. He’s taken advantage of you. He’s endangered your career. He’s damaged equipment you need for your livelihood. He’s involving you in illicit activities you explicitly don’t want to do.

    What on earth could you possibly get out of this relationship that outweighs the drain he is on your life? Get the check to fix your camera and then block him on everything dude.

  14. SrgSevChenko Avatar

    You’ve gotta be the biggest dumbass on this app. I wish I had a crown to give you.

  15. MythOfLaur Avatar

    This guy is not your friend 

  16. BloomingMosaic Avatar

    dude please drop this friend. or at least stop fucking filming him!!

  17. Past_Negotiation_121 Avatar

    So he left the sacred circle to pick up your camera? I’d have been straight back in the circle to get it, if there were such a circle, or friend, or anything else.

  18. DarkLordArbitur Avatar

    This friend lives their best life at the expense of everyone around them.

  19. jadayne Avatar

    fool me once…

  20. braytag Avatar

    When spray by a skunk, there are 2 types of dog in the world, the ones that learn the first time, and the ones that will never learn.

    You’re the smelly one aren’t you?

  21. Hillyleopard Avatar

    Jesus Christ the original post is mental lol that’s so fked up

  22. infectedsense Avatar

    If this is real why the hell wouldn’t you take your camera with you when you stepped out to vape, are you stupid?

  23. Travelgrrl Avatar

    Your camera was outside the sacred circle, yet your friend somehow accessed it while he was tripping balls? Was the mattress in the sacred circle? Your friend could free range but you could not? None of this makes sense.

  24. I_make_switch_a_roos Avatar

    your friend needs therapy lol

  25. lokregarlogull Avatar

    You see all the monkeys, know he is a clown but you refuse to leave, so I guess it really is your circus. Jokes aside thanks for the update, it’s a great story and an actual TIFU.

    I haven’t fucked up in the past year but both job and budding relationship went right out the window.

  26. step_uneasily Avatar

    This is what happens when you don’t respect the sacred circle.

  27. 50FootClown Avatar

    Well I thoroughly expected OP to come into the tent only to find his buddy nailing the shaman on camera, and honestly that story would have been funnier.

  28. MakeHerSquirtIe Avatar

    Love these creative writing assignments…

    The first story is literally sexual harassment, bordering on assault depending on any details we weren’t told. That’s an easy lawsuit and someone you never interact with again. Of course, that would have to imply the story is true.

    Now we get a follow up with the same guy and same theme of video taping? Come on people, don’t be so gullible.

  29. Ronin2369 Avatar

    So let’s get this right. You, and I stress YOU left YOUR expensive ass camera unattended near a person highly under the influence and… what had happened again

  30. sh00rs1gn Avatar

    I’m impressed that after the first experience and after being told what the second experience was, you didn’t outright say no.

    Sorry chief, it wasn’t your friend who dropped the most expensive thing you own to the ground, it was your own stupidity.

  31. Funny_Box_6755 Avatar

    The guy seems like an A grade Narcissist, wanting you to film all these things with him as the main character. Best if you get reimbursed; and then get out.

  32. Chimpchar Avatar

    What happened with the porn video? Did he delete it/remove your name as asked?

  33. GuerrOCorvino Avatar

    You’re an idiot. Just straight up stupid. I genuinely can’t believe people like you are allowed to sit behind a steering wheel.

  34. DuckCleaning Avatar

    All that build up to the story and the FU was, “my friend dropped my camera and cracked the lens”.

  35. BadassBokoblinPsycho Avatar

    OP, why are you still friends with said person?

  36. mellowtronic Avatar

    ehh i get it, it sucks. if you have ever been on a large dose youll get it tho. atleast they felt bad and offered to pay. Shitty friend, for sure. dont hold it over their head though, just get your payment and move on.

  37. Matasa89 Avatar

    You need better friends.

  38. markdepace Avatar

    the only person to blame here is you for continuing to be friends with an absolute dipshit of a human

  39. peacefulshrimp Avatar

    When I saw the post I clicked on the original link to check the story and as I started reading I had a feeling like I had already read that a long time ago. Went to check and the og post is 3 years old, I’m getting old af

  40. cinnapear Avatar

    Your friend is crap and your intelligence is highly suspect.

  41. markdepace Avatar

    in three years were gonna get another TIFUpdate where the friend contacts him to film again, only this time he’s going to be doing a cage dive with sharks and the shark is going to bite OP’s hand off with the camera attached, but it’s all good because he got paid beforehand. they’ll still be friends though just not as close.

  42. zamphyr444 Avatar

    Never confuse being valued with being needed.

  43. callingshotgun Avatar

    First experience (the “proposal”) was his fault. Sorry to say, second one you gotta chalk up to a learning experience, that one’s on you. It doesn’t sound like there was any dishonesty on the friend’s part as to what the event would consist of, and you left your expensive camera alone in the room with someone on drugs.

    At least your friend didn’t pull any of that “It’s not my fault, I was on drugs!” nonsense, or denied it happened because he couldn’t remember, or anything like that. I know it seems like a pretty low bar, but a lot of “adults” would have absolutely tried to squirrel out of that.

  44. ThrashThunder Avatar

    You’re , my dear sir

    A fucking dumbass

  45. ChuckeeSue Avatar

    You fucked up alright. And then you fucked up AGAIN

  46. Hello_it_is_Joe Avatar

    I really wasn’t sure if your friend and the shaman were gonna start fucking

  47. TheBrODST Avatar

    This one might be on you bud I’m sorry

  48. lolzycakes Avatar

    Can you show us the video of him dropping it?

  49. mark636199 Avatar

    God OP you’re fucking dumb and this is not even an update to the original. It’s just you being stupid again.

  50. _Allfather0din_ Avatar

    I mean the reality is the camera breaking is on you, who the fuck leaves that out just randomly. Especially with a grifter shaman(all religious or spiritual people are grifters to me, not some commentary on shamans specifically).

  51. Andre4k9 Avatar

    This man’s life is just side quests with emotional damage bonuses… are you sure you’re not his guardian NPC at this point?

  52. GeronimoJak Avatar

    Sounds like it’s actually destroyed, not almost destroyed.

  53. HedonismBaht Avatar

    A “shaman” talking about a heroic dose is such a goofy loser, that’s high school talk. Like an adult talking about 420. People who missed out on being stoners in high school, so they lean hard into being cringey adults

  54. FeSO4 Avatar

    Still referring to this person as your “friend” huh?

  55. Ayenul Avatar

    You have bad taste in friends

  56. dupz88 Avatar

    You are way too trusting/gullible. Also screw any “sacred circle” if you need to get your property you get it and leave if you want.

    Hopefully you learn from this, or I guess we’ll see another tifu in the future when you let this “friend” get you to film more nonsense

  57. Equinephilosopher Avatar

    Can’t wait to hear another FU with this guy in a few years! You’ve got a pattern lol

  58. NerdHerder77 Avatar

    Dawg, what blackmail material does this guy have on you? I would have lost his number the first time he pulled this shit, lol.

  59. andronicuspark Avatar

    You have interesting “friends”. I can see why this one is single.

  60. IAmAnimeTrash Avatar

    Stop being friends with them.

  61. ckinz16 Avatar

    Both your friend and you suck

  62. Devee Avatar

    Why is no one questioning this shaman and sacred circle? Is this normal to everyone but me? Do you all know a shaman in real life?

  63. repocin Avatar

    When this guy comes back to ask you to film some other ludicrous shit in another three years from now you’ll say no, right?

  64. Tuna_Sushi Avatar

    “Proposal” makes it sound like it’ll be a wedding misunderstanding. Instead, we get drug-fueled stupidity. Win, I guess?

  65. DemonPlasma Avatar

    I bet he doesn’t pay

  66. Weshtonio Avatar

    You didn’t FU by agreeing to document something potentially interesting.

    You FU by going outside to vape. It’s not allowed to vape in a shaman’s tent, really?

    If you care for something, don’t leave it unattended. That’s the FU here.

  67. Mackerelmore Avatar

    Are you 100% sure this dude is your friend?
    Sounds like a chaos goblin instead.

  68. md28usmc Avatar

    This so called friend of yours sounds like a fuckingg child. I would have been done with him years ago

  69. ConflagrationCat Avatar

    At least you didn’t step in the sacred circle.

  70. spudd3rs Avatar

    You gotta stop recoding this guy

  71. Swaggerony Avatar

    That friend? Barney Stinson.

  72. Slipsonic Avatar

    Your “friend” sounds like a hot mess.