I have a son due in July, my first. I was researching colleges using AI and it asked a weird question in regards to what college they would best benefit attending. It said it depends what my kid’s like. When do you get a pretty good idea about what your kid’s like?
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Firstly, congratulations 🎉 Secondly, you’re jumping the gun here bud. You’ve got the rest of your lifetime to try and figure out what your kid is like. It will change many times over, especially when they’re young. You’re about to have a baby. It’s a creature that cries, poops, sucks nipples, and sleeps. That’s it. It will start to resemble a human after a few months. In a couple of years it will start having coherent thoughts. Maybe by 2040, your kid will start to have an idea of what they’re like.
I’m 34 and I’m not sure I know what I like yet. Is this my final form?
By the time they’re ready for college, you’ll have a pretty good idea of what they like. You’ll know what their interests and hobbies are, what extracurricular activities they did, how social they are, and what kind of career they’re interested in. You’ll observe some of it, and they’ll tell you some of it.
“What your kid’s like” is going to be a moving target for the rest of your life, because your kid is going to continue to grow and change throughout their life. That will slow down once they hit adulthood, but for at least the first few years, you’re going to be playing a game of catch up, where just when you have this whole “kid” thing figured out, your son will yank the rug out from under you. Welcome to parenting.
That said, you’re trying to figure out college when your initial concerns should be food, sleep, and diapers. You might be getting a little ahead of yourself. Focus on the baby stuff before worrying about anything else. Trust me—that will keep you plenty busy.
When she was four, I knew what she was like… as a four year old. She loved rainbows, the colors pink and purple, unicorns, and robots.
She’s 10, and now I know what she’s like as a 10 year old. She loves cats, the color red, Pokemon, Minecraft, video games, Brandon Sanderson, Dogman, and coding.
They change so much. If your kid isn’t even born yet, you have no hope picking a college for them. Wait until they’re at least in high school to start choosing a school.
Also, don’t trust AI for anything. Especially not how to parent your child. That could seriously be life-threatening. AI has zero guarantee of accuracy. It’ll tell you lots of good things, but out of six of those good things, one of them will kill or seriously hurt your child. And you won’t be able to tell which one.
I don’t understand people like this. Why do you care? Why is it important your son isn’t even born yet.
They start showing strong personality traits at surprisingly young age. From many, many hours of observation you will learn a lot about them. Some of their personality traits you will recognise from yourself or your partner. Some you had all along, but you can only see from the outside.