I don’t want to be ‘relationship material,’ or the type of guy that woman start dating after they have had fun. Things like being nice, or stable or treating her right. I want to be desirable and exciting enough for casual flings.
How do I do this? I don’t want to be an asshole to do it.
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I don’t want to be ‘relationship material,’ or the type of guy that woman start dating after they have had fun. Things like being nice, or stable or treating her right. I want to be desirable and exciting enough for casual flings.
How do I do this? I don’t want to be an asshole to do it.
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Step 1: Be attractive.
Step 2: Don’t be unattractive.
Be the person that is the first one invited to a party and partying without makes no sense
Follow rules 1 & 2
Learn to spot these women and avoid them.
Do the opposite of what you’ve been doing
Looks will play a big part. If you don’t have that going for you it’ll be hard to be what you want.
You need the “it factor”
Be the guy everyone wants to be around at a party.
Funny, witty, clever. Tone down aggression, take the approach of, “I’d rather be loved than feared” with men and women. No one likes or wants to be around an obnoxious asshole.
Once you start to become the life of the party, it’s a question of being at the right places at the right time.
Also, if you want to play the charisma game then you have to get out there. I know this is a common joke across the Internet, but Reddit isn’t real life. You have to “figure out people” to get better EQ and that can’t be done very well online.
Trust me bro, you don’t want that. You are a good hearted guy. If you hook up, you probably fall for them and that only brings pain.
Look for a woman that either already knows what she wants and appreciates you, or stay single.
Charisma over looks
Being nice, stable, and treating another person right aren’t mutually exclusive with being desirable.
Be charismatic, charming, and interesting (alternative read fun) is how you get there.
The bigger problem to that is that those things are somewhat subjective, and like calculus, some people pick it up faster than others.
Be careful with conflating ‘safe/stable’ with ‘boring’. These aren’t interchange words.
I know a guy who made motherfucking insurance sound fascinating and interesting. Most charismatic dude I ever meet.
This is such a dumb reply but… Be confident. And also fuck
I swear women can smell if your in a relationship and hunt you down.
You can be nice, stable and treat someone right even tho you want something casual. Being casual is a decision you speak out clearly about with a potential partner. If you’re on the same page you continue. If not you back out. That’s it.
Be attractive, do not promise any commitment when she for whatever reason does not engage with intimacy too, do not wait for intimacy, be open about it, dont’t lie about it and if she is not on board with that no need to be rude or anything, just move on.
TL;DR: Be attractive, transparent and unapologetic about your wants. – Also dont gossip about it.
Self respect
>I don’t want to be ‘relationship material,’ or the type of guy that woman start dating after they have had fun.
I have a one question.
Do you even LIKE women?
You attitude is far from something women would look, but neither for fun nor relationship.
Be confident in yourself and keep your life exciting and be a Player
become a dj
Confidence, charisma and having multiple dating options.
It depends on looks unfortunately.. average looking guys like us are often the tree branch a woman can grab on her way down before she hits the ground
Be an ALPHA
Be handsome, tall, and fit.
Avoid women known to be acquainted with you who were uninterested without knowledge of your financial status.
Avoid waiting for sex with women that you know did not wait in the past.
Avoid offering commitment and exclusivity without imminent intimacy.
You don’t have to lie if you’re HIM.
Become conveniently attractive and only date women in their 20s
No you don’t. The kind of person that is fling material is the kind of guy that treats women like toys or playthings. Don’t do that to them nor to yourself
You can try and pull beamer chasers if thats a thing where you live as well. Take pictures of you sitting on the hood of various expensive BMWs, spend over half your paycheck monthly on one for yourself, have strong but very safe and popular opinions about which model is good or not take photos of yourself in the gym trying to look tough. Laugh all you want at guys like that but they pull and their personality basically doesn’t matter as long as he isn’t nervous. Coworkers and former classmates of mine did this and they all have stores they cant enter because their ex work there and various baby mamas they secretly, or even openly, wish were dead. And looks didn’t matter, they all wore expensive hoodies and busted up caps they found in their grandpas barn that smelled like dead bird but besides that they were tall, short, fat, skinny, tan, pale, full of zits and one guy actually looked and sounded like he was 15.
That said you obviously cant expect a healthy relationship to form from this and in my opinion its not good for your psyche to spend time with girls like that, you basically only spend time with these gold diggers and it grows in your head like a tumor a belief that all womeb are like that just because all the ones you spent time with actually were.
I’m exaggerating a little here but this is a stereotype for good reason.
I can’t really comment on the casual fling issue.
However my general advice would be: Put yourself first. Your needs come first. Everyone else is second place at best, they get what’s left over after you’ve eaten yourself.
That sounds terribly selfish, but you need to make sure that there’s actually a you present that can be desired. If you’re not paying attention to yourself, then there won’t be anyone others could pay attention to.
(Obvious caveat that any kids you might have would come even before you.)
Be fun to be around, tell good stories, be the wild one. If you barely thoes, you can be that guy