What is it about that certain individual that leaves you constantly thinking about them, or wanting to be around them more?
What is it about that certain individual that leaves you constantly thinking about them, or wanting to be around them more?
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The vibes. When we’re together, there’s a lot of laughter and interesting conversation. The silences are comfortable too.
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We were friends, coworkers and neighbours who surprisingly and secretly turned lovers.
At the essence of it, he understood me. What I was and wouldn’t judge me for it. He was my sounding board of logic at many instances too. I wanted more, he did not. Or rather said, he could not.
Subsequently we had a fallout from very silly circumstances.. so now we don’t talk to one another anymore.
It certainly is very awkward because people around us know things went south but it’s irreconcilable and too far gone to do anything about it anymore.
I think about him all the time. Futile, though.. This even I know. But I’m giving myself time to heal because I don’t see any other option than this.
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He makes me feel seen and understood. He knows the worst parts of me and loves me more because of it. He helps me carry my burdens and ensures that I never go through something alone. He grows with me. He makes me want to be a better person. He brings joy to the mundane. He keeps me laughing. He is the beautiful sunrise to my darkest night.
He’s my best friend. He consistently says funny stuff that I think about all the time. And when something happens even as small as me dropping something I can’t wait to tell him! There are million other reasons but those are some big ones!
They’re kind. They’re open. They’re a little self-deprecating, but not so much so that I have to work extra-hard to build them up. They have lovely smiles and they’re blindingly competent at what they do.
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They actually want to talk to me 🙂
I’m really interested in the way his mind works, I always end up surprised my how our conversations go. In a good way. I want to just experience his reactions to things
the tension, the unknown, what it could be.
Passion. With the way they speak, talk, discuss something they love so much, and their whole being. It’s so rare to find someone talks more about life than gossip
He licks my vagina pretty often, so there’s that
Something about their presence just feels like home.
We don’t know exactly it’s just an energy that’s there. It’s like you can kiss a million frogs or whatnot and then suddenly one day you kiss somebody and you’re flooding with all these emotions that tell you it’s either your person or somebody that you’re attracted to. It’s either limerence or falling in love.. or lust.. either way the emotions are the root of it and it’s part of the blueprint of who you are and that and of itself is what makes you think of that person. It is you it is who you are and what your attracted to.
We just clicked. We never run out of things to talk about and we’re always making each other laugh. Aaaand that’s why I married him 😉
There is a guy I’m constantly thinking about.
We met during a short vacation I had in a different country. We talked for a couple of months after, until I came back to the country he’s residing in, and it ended in a disaster. We’re not talking anymore, and I most likely won’t ever see him again (which breaks my heart). But I think there are several reasons I still think about him, one of them being, as much as I hate to admit it, that I think I fell in love with him.
All my previous relationships, even long-term ones, started with rational thinking. But with him, I felt like something pulled me to him, and I still don’t have an explanation for what it was. I could easily write a list of reasons why we shouldn’t have even kept talking, and I reminded myself of those reasons the whole time we were in contact, but my heart didn’t listen.
It was the first time in my life that my heart completely took over my head. It didn’t care how confused I felt with him. He was a typical avoidant, but I felt like sometimes his shell would crack and I’d catch glimpses of his heart – sensitive, caring, empathetic, but just hidden away. And I really hoped to see more of it, as I was sure of how beautiful heart he has, as well as right morals and values.
Despite some negative feelings he gave me, I still think about how calm and grounded I felt around him, and how much warmth I felt when he smiled. I regret the way it ended and often think about what I could have done or said differently. There were a lot of misunderstandings between us, coming from both sides, and I wish we could just have talked it all out. At least, if not talking, I just wish I could have hugged him for a longer time when we were saying our goodbyes, instead of just running away, as I felt too uncomfortable with my pain in that moment.
I know time will help the memories fade, and eventually I may not even remember his name. But right now, when I think of him, I still see his eyes and his smile. And I miss that, even though he was only in my life for such a short time.
I just hope to meet someone one day I’ll feel the same way about as I did with him. I don’t regret allowing my heart to take the lead and despite how it had ended, it was still worth it. And I really really hope he’s doing well and that he will eventually be able to meet someone who makes him open up, and create a beautiful life together.
So yeah, there are so many things why I’m constantly thinking about him, and I think it will stay that way for sometime, until it all eventually fades away. But he has definitely left a mark in my heart and my life, however short our encounter was 🙂
He’s the one person that makes me feel truly at peace when I’m with him. He never makes me feel like I’ve done something wrong. He’s patient, kind, even tempered, sensitive, loving.
Also, great sex 😆
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I’m surprised no one has said they are aesthetically and sexually attractive
I honestly mean this in a pg way, but the way he touches me. Whenever he’s walking by me my bf will just touch my shoulder, graze my lower back, etc and it brings me so much joy
Their charisma, intensity, and having great banter energy together
Positivity. Givingness. Generosity. Listening. Rapport.
For me its a huge plus whenever I meet someone I dont get butterflies with. Just calm, like my brain can shut down. Doesn’t matter where its going, had the peace for a little while.
Intelligent conversation, that we both appeared to enjoy. Incredibly attractive, physically and intellectually. Very different life history, but some important things in common. Willingness to put mental and physical health first.
It’s been 3 weeks since he decided to “focus on work and kids” and I’ve thought about him hundreds of times a day. I no longer find my previous online interests, to be interesting because they remind me of him
The lovebombing got me bad. I’m trying to redirect my mental energy into gym time, but it’s still depressing af.
He has amazing potential to be a fwb, or boyfriend to some lucky chick, but I suspect he’s terrified of feelings, both his and others.
I’m resentful because I gave up a 5 year celibacy run to do the deed with him and…got 2 quickies out of it. All the nervousness, wondering if I would be too old/sore/out of shape/fat to enjoy it….all to get dumped just when I finally felt comfortable.
How kind he is, and how much he makes me laugh