Depends. Is it with someone I already know and i’m sure we’re attracted to each other and first date is more so to confirm we’re becoming a thing-yes bring the flowers. Online first date? – no flowers
Weird. I feel like you don’t know me yet, I haven’t done anything to deserve flowers lol.
Bringing flowers just because it’s a date feel very old-fashioned to me, and although I’m sure it’s a polite thing for some people, it doesn’t allign with my values.
On a first date from a dating app or something where you haven’t met each other before, it’s too much. If there is a history of friendship or flirting it can be very cute (flowers on a SECOND date melt my heart)
If it was someone that knew me well enough then I would think it’s old fashioned and sweet. Chivalry shouldn’t be dead. If it was an online date I would find it creepy and would assume its one of the many guys that think a small gesture or paying for something buys him something at the end of the date. There are far too many of this type.
Very sweet. I think that’s a lovely gesture and I always keep flowers around my place so I get pretty excited when someone gets me flowers regardless of the number of dates we’ve been on.
I would love it. My current partner told me on our first date that he wanted to bring me roses but his buddies talked him out of it, and I was so bummed! I would’ve melted! But then again I’m Italian, I’m all about big displays of affection.
That would be too much for me, and I’d definitely feel awkward. I adore flowers, but I’d rather get them when I get serious with somebody 🙂
At the beginning of this year I went on a date with a guy who was working in the nearby building, and after the date the next morning he texted me to come down and was waiting for me with a rose – I’m glad it was just one, and not the full bouquet, but I felt awkward since I didn’t like the guy, and since my colleagues saw that flower on my desk, they kept making fun of me for weeks 😂
I hate cut flowers. They’re already dead. I like flowering plants. I mention that early on in talking to people. If I get cut flowers, I know they didn’t listen and probably won’t in the future.
absolutely yes for me!! it’s such a sweet and thoughtful gesture. it shows you put in just a little extra effort and wanted to make the date feel special right from the start. flowers aren’t necessary, but that’s what makes it so meaningful
you chose to go out of your way to do something kind and romantic just because you wanted to. it sets a really lovely tone for the rest of the date!
I would like them but, it have to be though through. Like for example i don’t have a vase and i don’t want to spend next hour looking for it and getting it. Also if it’s a walk, i don’t want to carry them in my hands constantly, so either a man has to arrange giving them by the end, or that date would be somewhere where they could be stored, like some restaurants will keep them in a vase during dinner. Without all those thoughts i would feel like it’s a cliche and feel like it’s a good gesture but problematic too.
Its a traditional romantic gesture. Its a little corny to me; too movie-esque and a little over the top, especially if on a date where I havent built enough rapport with them (hookup or blind date).
But if I were to be given flowers Id find it somewhat special, since boquets arent cheap, and colors and traditional (or non traditional) meanings behind flowers can show up in its composition.
However Id at least prefer that my partner (who would probably be someone I already knew; I dont prefer blind dates and am a bit of an introvert) payed attention to the fact that I adore flowers mainly when theyre living; if I were to recieve a plant as a gift or token, I’d rather recieve a plant I could take care of rather than what will later amount to compost material (or trash) and likely plastic waste.
Its the meaning behind a gift that means more than the gift itself, and that meaning is personal so I wont elaborate.
And all this matters less to me than how they will treat me and reciprocate affection, trust, love, and other important things necessary to a partnership. But on a first date? Sure, flowers is a cute first gesture of interest.
I dislike getting flowers. I hate watching them wither and die, I hate having to find a vase for them and I hate how useless they are. I’ve never liked decorations and flowers just feel like an empty generic gesture to me. Anyone can buy flowers and give them to someone, it’s not special.
I love flowers, and I garden. On a first date, it’s old fashioned and cute. It depends on the date context though. Where do I put them? If we’re not meeting at my place, don’t give me something I have to carry around on the date. I do also prefer whole plants to add to my collection.
I don’t like getting gifts from anyone I don’t really know especially initial dates. It makes me uncomfortable and it makes me feel like they’re buying my affecting and it makes me feel like I owe them something. I know it might just be a nice gesture on their part but there’s no way they don’t think it’ll give them brownie points (esp if it’s the first few dates!)
I’d be uncomfortable with it. That’s far too large of a gesture and burden when first meeting someone – because I’d have to carry them around and keep them from wilting the whole time when I’m supposed to be getting to know you. There’s also the implied expectation that I’m also supposed to bring a grand gesture to the table – which usually means physical intimacy after the date is done.
I’d personally really like it. You can get flowers really cheap at a grocery store so it’s not like you need to break the bank for it. It’s a nice gesture and I like flowers
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It’s nice that they bought them. It’s clearly meant to be a nice gesture. I don’t know that it would fix a bad date. It’s just a nice touch.
It’s wild that we’ve taken things to an extreme and instantly dismiss kind gestures. People’s intentions matter. If a guy is trying to be kind, then that’s great. If he’s trying to buy me with flowers, less great.
It’s a nice gesture, but the one and only time it happened, in my mid 20’s. We met on a dating app. When he showed up, I had ZERO attraction to him. So, suffice to say, the flowers didn’t mean anything to me other than “poor dude thought he’d win me over with flowers, when in reality I ended up having no interest in him.”
If it had been someone I’d met organically and we had already developed some sort of chemistry, I would have not felt weird about it.
It’s happened for me once, & I loved it. It was genuine, he wasn’t doing it on the premise that things would work out. He did it because he “wanted me to have something beautiful to look at later.”
It didn’t work out after a couple dates, for whatever reason. But i always smile when i remember how he did that
Mixed feelings here. It’s thoughtful, but now I’m stuck carrying flowers while we’re trying to get to know each other. Plus if the date goes terribly those flowers just become a sad reminder in my apartment.
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Too much, and I can’t keep flowers, so useless to me.
Depends. Is it with someone I already know and i’m sure we’re attracted to each other and first date is more so to confirm we’re becoming a thing-yes bring the flowers. Online first date? – no flowers
Weird. I feel like you don’t know me yet, I haven’t done anything to deserve flowers lol.
Bringing flowers just because it’s a date feel very old-fashioned to me, and although I’m sure it’s a polite thing for some people, it doesn’t allign with my values.
On a first date from a dating app or something where you haven’t met each other before, it’s too much. If there is a history of friendship or flirting it can be very cute (flowers on a SECOND date melt my heart)
I love flowers but they die. I would prefer a plant or tacos. Tacos would be my go too and then we can share them.
Well, I don’t mind, it’s a sweet gesture. But I’d rather be treated to good food or chocolate. 😋
Too much. So what, now I have to carry these around during our date? Flowers are for a few dates in.
I wouldn’t mind. It’s a sweet gesture.
Too much. Save flowers for a 4-5 date.
If it was someone that knew me well enough then I would think it’s old fashioned and sweet. Chivalry shouldn’t be dead. If it was an online date I would find it creepy and would assume its one of the many guys that think a small gesture or paying for something buys him something at the end of the date. There are far too many of this type.
My ex bf brought me flowers on our first date . Half dozen of yellow roses. I liked them
Very sweet. I think that’s a lovely gesture and I always keep flowers around my place so I get pretty excited when someone gets me flowers regardless of the number of dates we’ve been on.
I would love it. My current partner told me on our first date that he wanted to bring me roses but his buddies talked him out of it, and I was so bummed! I would’ve melted! But then again I’m Italian, I’m all about big displays of affection.
I’ve never received flowers on a first date! I don’t think I’d mind but I don’t expect to get them.
That would be too much for me, and I’d definitely feel awkward. I adore flowers, but I’d rather get them when I get serious with somebody 🙂
At the beginning of this year I went on a date with a guy who was working in the nearby building, and after the date the next morning he texted me to come down and was waiting for me with a rose – I’m glad it was just one, and not the full bouquet, but I felt awkward since I didn’t like the guy, and since my colleagues saw that flower on my desk, they kept making fun of me for weeks 😂
Send me flowers after a first date, yep. On a date – whether it is date #1 or date #101 – is a nuisance. Don’t make me carry them around all evening.
I hate cut flowers. They’re already dead. I like flowering plants. I mention that early on in talking to people. If I get cut flowers, I know they didn’t listen and probably won’t in the future.
Nope. Too much of a try hard. It is not a prom.
Kind of weird. I’d have to either hold them the whole time, or find somewhere to put them.
I actually think this is amazing and a great way to start off a date.
It’s way too much.
absolutely yes for me!! it’s such a sweet and thoughtful gesture. it shows you put in just a little extra effort and wanted to make the date feel special right from the start. flowers aren’t necessary, but that’s what makes it so meaningful
you chose to go out of your way to do something kind and romantic just because you wanted to. it sets a really lovely tone for the rest of the date!
I would like them but, it have to be though through. Like for example i don’t have a vase and i don’t want to spend next hour looking for it and getting it. Also if it’s a walk, i don’t want to carry them in my hands constantly, so either a man has to arrange giving them by the end, or that date would be somewhere where they could be stored, like some restaurants will keep them in a vase during dinner. Without all those thoughts i would feel like it’s a cliche and feel like it’s a good gesture but problematic too.
It would be really nice.
Its a traditional romantic gesture. Its a little corny to me; too movie-esque and a little over the top, especially if on a date where I havent built enough rapport with them (hookup or blind date).
But if I were to be given flowers Id find it somewhat special, since boquets arent cheap, and colors and traditional (or non traditional) meanings behind flowers can show up in its composition.
However Id at least prefer that my partner (who would probably be someone I already knew; I dont prefer blind dates and am a bit of an introvert) payed attention to the fact that I adore flowers mainly when theyre living; if I were to recieve a plant as a gift or token, I’d rather recieve a plant I could take care of rather than what will later amount to compost material (or trash) and likely plastic waste.
Its the meaning behind a gift that means more than the gift itself, and that meaning is personal so I wont elaborate.
And all this matters less to me than how they will treat me and reciprocate affection, trust, love, and other important things necessary to a partnership. But on a first date? Sure, flowers is a cute first gesture of interest.
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I dislike getting flowers. I hate watching them wither and die, I hate having to find a vase for them and I hate how useless they are. I’ve never liked decorations and flowers just feel like an empty generic gesture to me. Anyone can buy flowers and give them to someone, it’s not special.
I would be tickled pink. I absolutely love flowers. I wouldn’t care if it was a first date.
A bit much for a first date even if I knew the person years .
Not as meaningful as second date flowers but still shows a thoughtful gesture
Flowers on a first date can be sweet and thoughtful, but some might find it too much. If genuine, it’s a nice touch.
I like it 🥹 i am a sucker for flowers tho 🤷🏾♀️
I’m old, raised in the day of chivalry. I think flowers on a first date are corny and awkward. I always have.
I love flowers, and I garden. On a first date, it’s old fashioned and cute. It depends on the date context though. Where do I put them? If we’re not meeting at my place, don’t give me something I have to carry around on the date. I do also prefer whole plants to add to my collection.
Its too much if were strangers. Its more if a 3rd date gesture imo.
But if we’ve known each other more than a few months, then its sweet.
I don’t like getting gifts from anyone I don’t really know especially initial dates. It makes me uncomfortable and it makes me feel like they’re buying my affecting and it makes me feel like I owe them something. I know it might just be a nice gesture on their part but there’s no way they don’t think it’ll give them brownie points (esp if it’s the first few dates!)
Yes, thank you!!! YES, THANK YOU!!!!!!!!
Amazing!!!!!!!!!!! I think it’s really sweet!!!
I think it’s sweet, but not if it’s a huge bouquet. Something small as a sweet gesture is a nice touch.
Sounds super romantic. A nice thoughtful gesture 🥰
I’d be uncomfortable with it. That’s far too large of a gesture and burden when first meeting someone – because I’d have to carry them around and keep them from wilting the whole time when I’m supposed to be getting to know you. There’s also the implied expectation that I’m also supposed to bring a grand gesture to the table – which usually means physical intimacy after the date is done.
Thanks but no thanks.
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I’d personally really like it. You can get flowers really cheap at a grocery store so it’s not like you need to break the bank for it. It’s a nice gesture and I like flowers
It’s nice but not for me.
A bouquet, no. A single flower? Maybe.
My husband made me an origami flower from a table napkin on our first date. Does that count?
They have to actually be pretty flowers, not a lame Schnucks check-out line bouquet (I’m not saying super expensive tho).
Id probably appreciate it. Especially if it was someone I had built rapport with already speaking online for awhile or someone I already knew
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Like the date brought them? That’s sweet.
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I love flowers and I think it’s a great first impression!!
I like flowers.
It’s nice that they bought them. It’s clearly meant to be a nice gesture. I don’t know that it would fix a bad date. It’s just a nice touch.
It’s wild that we’ve taken things to an extreme and instantly dismiss kind gestures. People’s intentions matter. If a guy is trying to be kind, then that’s great. If he’s trying to buy me with flowers, less great.
I like it
I think it’s sweet.
Don’t do it yet
I love it. It’s unusual IME on a first date but I think it’s really sweet.
It’s too much for the first date unless we were friend previously.
Oh that’s nice, I will like it! Maybe a small boquet something small but cute.
Gimme all the flowers! 💐 🌸 all the time and everytime. ☺️
Hot.
Not expected, but would be a super nice gesture
Weird every time. It’s a nuisance
I feel like it would be a perfect second or third date thing, but I love flowers in general.
It’s a nice gesture, but the one and only time it happened, in my mid 20’s. We met on a dating app. When he showed up, I had ZERO attraction to him. So, suffice to say, the flowers didn’t mean anything to me other than “poor dude thought he’d win me over with flowers, when in reality I ended up having no interest in him.”
If it had been someone I’d met organically and we had already developed some sort of chemistry, I would have not felt weird about it.
It’s happened for me once, & I loved it. It was genuine, he wasn’t doing it on the premise that things would work out. He did it because he “wanted me to have something beautiful to look at later.”
It didn’t work out after a couple dates, for whatever reason. But i always smile when i remember how he did that
Personally I love receiving flowers, I feel like now in day nobody really does that let alone on the first date!
I think it’s weird to get flowers anyways…. A first date would be really weird and uncomfortable for me.
Mixed feelings here. It’s thoughtful, but now I’m stuck carrying flowers while we’re trying to get to know each other. Plus if the date goes terribly those flowers just become a sad reminder in my apartment.