I started working out more. Running, weightlifting, Pilates, yoga, and a healthy diet of protein and veggies made my body look a lot better. Add clothes that flatter my shape and coloring, and the difference in the way people treat me is crazy.
Stand straight, like imagine a string is lifting you up, shoulders back, back straight, do exercise like Pilates, barre, yoga which builds lean muscle, builds confidence, self awareness, core strength, and makes you move more “elegantly”. It really helps mobility. It reduces inflammation and leans out your face and legs. Makes your skin bright. Costs a lot less than a new wardrobe lol.
Skincare. It doesn’t need to be a ton of steps. I use 3 products (if you don’t count makeup remover) and my face looks great now. It helped me a lot. I still can’t say I feel prettier over all, but it feels nice and it’s nice to look ok even without makeup
Started wearing girl colors. Lol black, grey and brown dont show dirt. So now my pinkz purple and reds have stains from me doing whatever i do out there. Haha today its caulking the porch and foundation whoot
I only wear clothes and colors that flatter my body type and coloring. It makes getting dressed and doing my makeup and even shopping for that stuff so much easier and the effect is really dramatic, I just looked dramatically better when I dress for my body type and wear my specific color palette
Treated my acne, got a conventional hairstyle, avoid wearing glasses unless needed to read also got new glasses , wear standard clean cut style clothing even if it’s not a colour or fabric that spark joy so that I can fit in
Healthy weight 2. Switched the wardrobe up to nicer items that fit better and were ONLY in my best colors. 3. Learned actual makeup technique instead of being super duper amateur with it.
I started curling my hair to give it the beach wave effect. My hairstylist (was new to me at the time) taught me how and I bought a long barrel curling iron. I feel like I will never do my hair another way. I also started using self tanner again. St Tropez is my tried and true. In my opinion, they are all a pain to apply but the results are worth it if being tanned makes you feel better like it does me!
Started getting my hair bleached, lost 2 stone, started getting Botox and cheek filler. It’s all made such a world of difference. I look like a totally different person, compared with me two years ago.
I just feel so much better.
Using makeup to enhance and compliment my features instead of following trends to cover things up. A nice natural look but slight changes help. I love lip liner, couldn’t live without it now.
About a year ago, changed my eating habits, got back to exercising, and keep a decent sleep schedule. Getting the right amount of sleep is so important to one’s overall well-being. Also, got more ear piercings, which thankfully is not a big issue at work. But most importantly, just trying to live each day on a positive note – no comparisons amongst others, just be a better version of myself.
I removed about 40% of my eyebrow (yes, singular) which also extended to my forehead and temples. That and getting rid of my stache LOL. It wasnt enough so then i deleted tiktok and Instagram. Works like a charm
Learned about my facial proportions, my body type, my coloring, and my overall “essence.” Then, made strategic style changes. Generic advice that could be useful to anyone:
Good health is the foundation of beauty.
Eyebrows and haircut have a drastic effect on how your face looks.
No matter your body type, a fit and athletic look suits everyone and gets you instant respect from people.
The color season stuff is useful for figuring out what colors and jewelry look best on you.
You look best when you go with your natural “essence.” This is hard to define but for example…I have a tomboyish vibe whether I like it or not. I like girly looks but they are always going to look weird on me. I lean into sporty, casual looks instead.
Keep in mind that what works for you might not always be the “trendy” look.
Some people might hate this, but getting my eyebrows tatted made a big difference to me. I’m able to go out without makeup now without feeling too self conscious.
Extensions with a bit of curl. My hair was stick-straight and I was having trouble growing it past my shoulders. Now it’s at the middle of my back and fuller than ever. I feel so pretty!
Fixing my diet made a huge difference. Less junk, more water, and real food… my skin cleared up, my body felt better, and I just started looking fresher overall.
Lifting weights consistently, eating healthy, drinking less alcohol, castor oil on eyelashes and skin, simplified my skincare routine, dyed hair darker, became happier and more confident in myself by working on myself and my anxiety
Finally learned to stop over plucking my eyebrows. Turns out caterpillar brows weren’t doing me any favors in 2010. Now they’re actually shaped like eyebrows instead of confused punctuation marks.
Started wearing sunscreen religiously at 25. My mom always nagged me about it but I never listened until I saw the difference between her skin and my aunt’s.
I do not think I am pretty/beautiful but she forces me to do exercises I don’t like and it’s helping shape my body differently and lose weight…I have received a few compliments because of it 🤷🏾♀️
Next up is a trip to MAC/Sephora for a makeup session because I am terrible at it and need to learn how to make myself look nice lol
Lifting weights, calorie deficit, protein goal, step goal. Eating clean and lean meats, eggs, Greek yoghurt etc. A lot of boxes to tick daily but makes me feel good
Occasionally whitening strips on my teeth
Get my brows & hair done regularly
Occasionally go running (not as big on this as lifting though)
Doing this the last 3 years and never felt better
Anything that made me less confident, I have thin fine curly hair that looked terrible no matter what I did so I invested in heat protection products and a nice blow dryer and now I wake up looking pretty everyday. I have weird eyebrows so I get them done every month and it makes me look very well put together even without makeup. I don’t like the pigmentation on my lips so I use lip stains to make them appear more even and that helps too. Tackling the parts that bothered me reaaaallly boosted my confidence and now I’ve settled into just this rhythm and don’t even care much about my appearance bc I know I look great and it doesn’t preoccupy my mind anymore.
Different haircut, research on flattering colors and clothing shapes/material, learning to practice poses and faces in mirrors and cameras so as to better take pictures, sticking to hydration and moisturizer routines, making sure to have better postures.
That was back when I was trying really hard to be conventionally attractive. I still do from time to time but I tend to be more laid back now as I’ve gotten a little older.
Learned to smile more genuinely instead of that awkward forced grin in photos. Had to practice in the mirror like a weirdo but now my pictures actually look like me and not some anxious chipmunk.
I used to dress like Justin Bieber, and add beautiful outfits to my board on Pinterest. Then it occurred to me that I could dress like that, so I started to. Life is too short not to dress cute.
Making sure to curl/blow dry my hair (that revlon brush thing) and then straighten it. Something about it being sleek makes me feel good and put together. Granted I live in Florida so it doesn’t always stay but it starts out good and feels good.
Also red lipstick. I always feel prettier and more put together with that.
When I used to live in NYC, I’d always wear black jeans and a cute top. Why black? Because a lot of upscale places would reject blue jeans but black were fine. I’d always carry red lipstick, heels and a pair of statement earrings. Throw those on and bam! Dressed! And sometimes add a cutely shaped blazer and super dressed.
Truly taking care of yourself everyday in a routine. Lotion, masks, nail care and hair care, working out and stretching, putting thought into outfits, jewelry. Listen to podcasts and music that makes you happy while you take care of yourself. Feed your soul, and take care of yourself physically and emotionally because you’re the only one that can. Use a perfume that makes you happy, pick your clothes wisely. Just put as much time into yourself, as you would in picking things for someone else.
Developed a sense of personal style. What colors I love and look flattering on me. What types of clothes look most flattering followed by always having cute casual clothes. I used to go to the grocery store looking like a bucket of fuck it. But the small interactions and positive (& jealous) feedback worked wonders on my confidence. It’s allllll about fake it till you make it!! Do I have embarrassing moments that keep me up a night? Yes… but I had to make a choice to keep trying and understand failure or goofs are part of the process. Even Sofia vergara & Beyonce misspoke, looked awkward and didn’t always look like perfectly polished women. They were the ones who never stopped trying.
I’m about to start taking weight loss injections. Before I just grew out my natural hair, kept my full clean brows, dressed in a way that isn’t unflattering.
Every night before bed I wash my face and then apply total indifference to the patriarchy. I’ve been doing this for 11 years and I’m assuming it makes me pretty. But it also might be the fuck fascist beauty standards I’ve been spritzing.
Prescription-strength retinol and a super thick moisturizer added to my skincare routine, (because found out my skin is of super dry normally). I already had long hair down to my lower back, but I wanted thicker hair and got extensions.
Traded out all my old mid-2000’s low rise jeans for better fitting jeans in my proper size and got better clothes now.
Was an athlete all my life, (basketball) so just maintained my gym routine and in general I feel and look younger than many of my peers.
I would wear clothes according to my taste. I would use makeup to cover up some things that I prefer not to be seen. It would improve my attitude, too. Attitude is everything!
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My hair to ginger to make my green eyes stand out. And was 100% easier to maintain than highlighted blonde.
Also working out and eating healthy. But that’s a bit obvious.
I started working out more. Running, weightlifting, Pilates, yoga, and a healthy diet of protein and veggies made my body look a lot better. Add clothes that flatter my shape and coloring, and the difference in the way people treat me is crazy.
Got a better hairstyle (I let the stylist do what she wanted, and she has a talent for choosing what will look great on an individual).
Weights
sunscreen everyday
I stopped comparing myself to others and focused on what makes me feel good. That mindset shift made the biggest difference in how I see myself.
I stopped straightening my hair and started spending money on proper hair and skin products. No idea if it’s made any difference, but it feels nice.
Changed my diet, hit the gym 3 x week, get lashes and nails done, buy clothes I feel good in, wax, style my hair.
I was always pretty for others It was me not seeing my beauty.
So I grow up and started to like myself. How? I grow up I guess.
The rest is just normal stuff, i do my hair in a way I like it, keep it healthy and well taken care of.
The same for my body, work out, drink water, be active, take care of your skin and your hygine.
Have hobbies and passions, take care of your teeth.
Have a nice style and be nice.
Using high quality tinted moisturiser. People respect you more if they think you have nice skin but in a natural way.
Also tucking my hair behind my ears.
And being more whimsical.
I had worked out and got a six pack 😌
Now I miss it lol, I might work out to get it again. I still have my muscle on my arms though 🙂
I started curling the front few strands of my hair and it made me feel prettier
I realized my clothes made me feel frumpy. So I figured out what kind of clothes worked on my body and I redid my wardrobe. It made all the difference
Ive stopped using heat products on my naturally curly hair and embrced the curls lmao, now I buy products to help with curls and natural hair.
Added plus is not heat damaging my hair too.
Stand straight, like imagine a string is lifting you up, shoulders back, back straight, do exercise like Pilates, barre, yoga which builds lean muscle, builds confidence, self awareness, core strength, and makes you move more “elegantly”. It really helps mobility. It reduces inflammation and leans out your face and legs. Makes your skin bright. Costs a lot less than a new wardrobe lol.
I started wearing earrings.
I didn’t, I embraced the chaos as was my initial purpose in life.
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Wash my face every morning lol (if I dont shower).
Im slackin now but fr it made a difference when I didnt skip. Less breakouts mainly.
Got my clothes tailored to my height and size
Started moisturising my face before bed and before I do a full face of makeup
A couple swipes of mascara makes me feel instantly prettier
Lost weight and started lifting
Skincare. It doesn’t need to be a ton of steps. I use 3 products (if you don’t count makeup remover) and my face looks great now. It helped me a lot. I still can’t say I feel prettier over all, but it feels nice and it’s nice to look ok even without makeup
losing weight
Started wearing girl colors. Lol black, grey and brown dont show dirt. So now my pinkz purple and reds have stains from me doing whatever i do out there. Haha today its caulking the porch and foundation whoot
I dye my hair darker
Everyday I put on 3 makeup items
Workout, eat healthy, drink water, take vitamins
And I’m getting my boobs done this year 🥰
I only wear clothes and colors that flatter my body type and coloring. It makes getting dressed and doing my makeup and even shopping for that stuff so much easier and the effect is really dramatic, I just looked dramatically better when I dress for my body type and wear my specific color palette
Nothing. I just dress for my body type. I am what I am. I’m not starting a body project, once you start one it’s impossible to stop.
My hair is white/grey and using blush or bronzer makes me look “alive” and not washed out or pale. Also, only buying clothes that fit really well.
working out and eating right.
Treated my acne, got a conventional hairstyle, avoid wearing glasses unless needed to read also got new glasses , wear standard clean cut style clothing even if it’s not a colour or fabric that spark joy so that I can fit in
My environment
Just ate healthier. I made my skin better.
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I changed my perspective of myself.
I started curling my hair to give it the beach wave effect. My hairstylist (was new to me at the time) taught me how and I bought a long barrel curling iron. I feel like I will never do my hair another way. I also started using self tanner again. St Tropez is my tried and true. In my opinion, they are all a pain to apply but the results are worth it if being tanned makes you feel better like it does me!
start taking better care of my hair and skin
Started getting my hair bleached, lost 2 stone, started getting Botox and cheek filler. It’s all made such a world of difference. I look like a totally different person, compared with me two years ago.
I just feel so much better.
Using makeup to enhance and compliment my features instead of following trends to cover things up. A nice natural look but slight changes help. I love lip liner, couldn’t live without it now.
About a year ago, changed my eating habits, got back to exercising, and keep a decent sleep schedule. Getting the right amount of sleep is so important to one’s overall well-being. Also, got more ear piercings, which thankfully is not a big issue at work. But most importantly, just trying to live each day on a positive note – no comparisons amongst others, just be a better version of myself.
Lots of accessories, always groomed eyelashes and foundation
Exercise, cleaning up my diet, and a tan
I removed about 40% of my eyebrow (yes, singular) which also extended to my forehead and temples. That and getting rid of my stache LOL. It wasnt enough so then i deleted tiktok and Instagram. Works like a charm
I now regularly die my hair about two shades darker. My natural shade washes out my face.
Learned about my facial proportions, my body type, my coloring, and my overall “essence.” Then, made strategic style changes. Generic advice that could be useful to anyone:
Jewelry, blush + i curl my lashes and sometimes wear mascara
I stopped wearing make up
embraced my natural wavy curly hair. stopped wearing oversized pants with oversized tees. started smiling with my teeth in photos 🙂
Stop dressing casual and embracing the more feminine and more extra looks! Better make up but still light to only enhance my beauty.
Starved periodically
Started prioritising my sleep.
Also I buzzed my head. I have kept it really short. It works well for my head shape and I am more confident cause I have to carry it.
Tinted my eyebrows
Some people might hate this, but getting my eyebrows tatted made a big difference to me. I’m able to go out without makeup now without feeling too self conscious.
I got bangs, mushroom earrings, and started wearing blush!
I let my eyebrows grow out
My thoughts
Botox to combat resting bitch face and spironolactone.
But honestly since I had my baby, I don’t even care anymore about impressing other people. I just wanna look pretty for my husband and baby.
Extensions with a bit of curl. My hair was stick-straight and I was having trouble growing it past my shoulders. Now it’s at the middle of my back and fuller than ever. I feel so pretty!
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my whole self
Died my hair darker and do 1 brushing every week
Injections every 6 months: Botox (forehead), hyaluronic acid (chin, lips)
Lost weight
Fixing my diet made a huge difference. Less junk, more water, and real food… my skin cleared up, my body felt better, and I just started looking fresher overall.
I fixed my posture (also to prevent back problems:))
Lifting weights consistently, eating healthy, drinking less alcohol, castor oil on eyelashes and skin, simplified my skincare routine, dyed hair darker, became happier and more confident in myself by working on myself and my anxiety
Finally learned to stop over plucking my eyebrows. Turns out caterpillar brows weren’t doing me any favors in 2010. Now they’re actually shaped like eyebrows instead of confused punctuation marks.
Started wearing sunscreen religiously at 25. My mom always nagged me about it but I never listened until I saw the difference between her skin and my aunt’s.
Lose weight, take care of my skin, dress better and apply make-up. I definitely look prettier now but I still don’t feel pretty.
I started taking self defense class, which both helps me physically (I think), and helps my confidence in myself.
I feel good, so I appear prettier. 👌
I made a life change vs a diet to lose weight via fasting. Slowly the weight dropped as I learned better make up tricks.
Ladies – full eyebrows that look real take years off. A push up bra. Now that I am ideal weight I have lots of cute clothes.
I can affirm your confidence shoots up as women and men compliment and give you authority that I can only attribute to more beauty/confidence.
I always forget to stand up straight. Ugh. My posture is so bad.
Got a personal trainer 😂
I do not think I am pretty/beautiful but she forces me to do exercises I don’t like and it’s helping shape my body differently and lose weight…I have received a few compliments because of it 🤷🏾♀️
Next up is a trip to MAC/Sephora for a makeup session because I am terrible at it and need to learn how to make myself look nice lol
Lifting weights, calorie deficit, protein goal, step goal. Eating clean and lean meats, eggs, Greek yoghurt etc. A lot of boxes to tick daily but makes me feel good
Occasionally whitening strips on my teeth
Get my brows & hair done regularly
Occasionally go running (not as big on this as lifting though)
Doing this the last 3 years and never felt better
Anything that made me less confident, I have thin fine curly hair that looked terrible no matter what I did so I invested in heat protection products and a nice blow dryer and now I wake up looking pretty everyday. I have weird eyebrows so I get them done every month and it makes me look very well put together even without makeup. I don’t like the pigmentation on my lips so I use lip stains to make them appear more even and that helps too. Tackling the parts that bothered me reaaaallly boosted my confidence and now I’ve settled into just this rhythm and don’t even care much about my appearance bc I know I look great and it doesn’t preoccupy my mind anymore.
Cured my acne. And learned to love myself
Different haircut, research on flattering colors and clothing shapes/material, learning to practice poses and faces in mirrors and cameras so as to better take pictures, sticking to hydration and moisturizer routines, making sure to have better postures.
That was back when I was trying really hard to be conventionally attractive. I still do from time to time but I tend to be more laid back now as I’ve gotten a little older.
i changed my sleep pattern, youd be surprised how effective it is
Lightened my hair a few shades. Lost the baby weight.
Learned to smile more genuinely instead of that awkward forced grin in photos. Had to practice in the mirror like a weirdo but now my pictures actually look like me and not some anxious chipmunk.
Weightlifting – it’s made me curvier and feel more feminine in how I look and how clothes fit.
Focus on what makes you feel sexy,not trying to fit in to someone else’s preferences
My tattoos. They make me feel so good about my body and it shines through.
I used to dress like Justin Bieber, and add beautiful outfits to my board on Pinterest. Then it occurred to me that I could dress like that, so I started to. Life is too short not to dress cute.
Making sure to curl/blow dry my hair (that revlon brush thing) and then straighten it. Something about it being sleek makes me feel good and put together. Granted I live in Florida so it doesn’t always stay but it starts out good and feels good.
Also red lipstick. I always feel prettier and more put together with that.
When I used to live in NYC, I’d always wear black jeans and a cute top. Why black? Because a lot of upscale places would reject blue jeans but black were fine. I’d always carry red lipstick, heels and a pair of statement earrings. Throw those on and bam! Dressed! And sometimes add a cutely shaped blazer and super dressed.
Truly taking care of yourself everyday in a routine. Lotion, masks, nail care and hair care, working out and stretching, putting thought into outfits, jewelry. Listen to podcasts and music that makes you happy while you take care of yourself. Feed your soul, and take care of yourself physically and emotionally because you’re the only one that can. Use a perfume that makes you happy, pick your clothes wisely. Just put as much time into yourself, as you would in picking things for someone else.
I started working out! And having warm, inviting energy. And I’ve always been a girly girl but my femininity is always evolving with age.
Proper posture, graceful confident movement. I’m not bad in the looks department, but moving like you own the room is universally attractive.
Brows, posture, stretch daily, shave face, hydration, hair styled, daily movement/turn baby fat to muscle, good night skin care routine, clean teeth.
I think I look prettier with highlights, nails done, and a little sun/self tanner (subtle).
Developed a sense of personal style. What colors I love and look flattering on me. What types of clothes look most flattering followed by always having cute casual clothes. I used to go to the grocery store looking like a bucket of fuck it. But the small interactions and positive (& jealous) feedback worked wonders on my confidence. It’s allllll about fake it till you make it!! Do I have embarrassing moments that keep me up a night? Yes… but I had to make a choice to keep trying and understand failure or goofs are part of the process. Even Sofia vergara & Beyonce misspoke, looked awkward and didn’t always look like perfectly polished women. They were the ones who never stopped trying.
I lost weight.
I’m about to start taking weight loss injections. Before I just grew out my natural hair, kept my full clean brows, dressed in a way that isn’t unflattering.
Every night before bed I wash my face and then apply total indifference to the patriarchy. I’ve been doing this for 11 years and I’m assuming it makes me pretty. But it also might be the fuck fascist beauty standards I’ve been spritzing.
Prescription-strength retinol and a super thick moisturizer added to my skincare routine, (because found out my skin is of super dry normally). I already had long hair down to my lower back, but I wanted thicker hair and got extensions.
Traded out all my old mid-2000’s low rise jeans for better fitting jeans in my proper size and got better clothes now.
Was an athlete all my life, (basketball) so just maintained my gym routine and in general I feel and look younger than many of my peers.
Rhinoplasty
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I would wear clothes according to my taste. I would use makeup to cover up some things that I prefer not to be seen. It would improve my attitude, too. Attitude is everything!
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Actually started drinking water instead of just coffee all day. My skin cleared up within weeks and the dark circles under my eyes got so much better.