How do yall have motivation to keep going when everything feels so overwhelming?
How do yall have motivation to keep going when everything feels so overwhelming?
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How do yall have motivation to keep going when everything feels so overwhelming?
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Alexithymia
There’s no motivation, I just keep going bc I have no other choice. Or at least, the other choices are not okay for me, so I chose to just do what I have to.
Occasionally I’ll take a few minutes (ok, maybe more than a few) and allow myself to have a meltdown in the privacy of my bathroom, then I wipe my face and keep going.
I find lifting weights helps me immensely. The time I spend in the gym is just for me and my benefit, everything else disappears for a couple of hours every day.
There’s no real motivation. I just keep going because I have to. I have to keep going because stopping isn’t an option for me. Even when it sucks, I choose to deal with it the best I can.
It’s not really motivation..but I make sure to feel everything I need to feel and just go with life. I’ve come to realise this is how it is going to be (good & bad) – and giving up is just not an option for me.
Can’t give up without a fight and have convinced myself that even just surviving means I’m still fighting. If I have to jump ship, I’ll do it, but only if it’s to protect myself as well as my loved ones.
I don’t always have motivation. I just take it one step at a time and remind myself I’ve made it through hard days before. That keeps me going.
I just focus on the little things and look forward to vacation
I am unemployed and struggling to get companies intrested in my profile I don’t know what’s in my future and have Two plans but things are looking bad for me.
My mental health is in the floor and I am hopless but some part of me holds on faith that I did it once I can do it again.
Naive 100% but we keep pushing there is no other way
Because its life u gotta live it
Years ago I had a therapist tell me it’s important to always have something to look forward to. Anything, big or small- a vacation, a new outfit, a hot bath, a great cup of coffee, a date night, relaxing with a good book. Just some that feels like a reward.
I don’t really.
But you either have a mental breakdown, or you suck it up and get the fuck over it, and carry on because you don’t have a choice.
I refuse to let myself breakdown over things that can not be helped in my life, because what is that going to help or achieve? Fuckin nothing lmao.
It’s not motivation it’s obligation.
My kiddos motivate me. My own mom was overwhelmed and had severe depression and anxiety. All she did was play computer games and sleep. She gave up on life. I always swore I would never, if anything for my kids. So I get up, I show up, I smile, I listen. Some days it’s a serious struggle and I have no motivation. But then my kids might say, “remember you promised we would.” And that little promise I made, the excitement they have, it motivates me.
What’s the alternative?
Motivation is nice, but not really beneficial. It’s what you use when you’re feeling good and positive, you don’t feel motivated when things aren’t going well. Develop positive habits and discipline. Discipline is what keeps you showing up when you don’t want to. Think about people that are consistent with the gym- they don’t want to go every day, but they discipline themselves to show up regardless of if they want to. Building discipline by doing things when you don’t want to also improves neuroplasticity- in fact doing something when you don’t want to has an exponentially greater impact on the brain than consistently doing something you like or don’t mind.
The fact that I’m overwhelmed itself is the motivation for me. As I check things off the list, the overwhelming sensation decreases
Strong sense of discipline/duty
I order somethings online so i have smt to look forward to for the week and keeps me going. Im a shopaholic now
It’s a skill I have developed over 50 years of living where the trauma and crappy genes.
I have learned that getting from park to first gear is the hardest part. So that is where I focus my efforts.
It’s okay to be totally overwhelmed right now. This shit ain’t normal
remembering that i want to do good in the world, make it a better place
One thing at a time. Even if it’s small.
Stop looking at the big picture and EVERYthing you need to get done and focus on a single step.
Don’t see it as “I need to lose 50 lbs”, see it as “I’m going to take a nice walk today and get some extra steps in. Don’t see it as “I have to find a new job”, just say “I’m going to update my job history on my resume”.
Even tiny accomplishments can feel like you’ve taken a ton off your plate and get you closer to where you need to be!
Knowing that it won’t always be like this. But ya gotta have a plan to make it better. Gotta have something to work towards. And you just keep going because you have to. You’ve survived all of your worst days thus far.
Motivation is nonexistant. Discipline is all there is.
Because there’s no other choice 🤷🏻♀️
Your post squeezed my heart. I had asked myself this same question when I was going through one of the hardest times of my life about 6 years ago. My motivation was my dog’s love, and holding on to the hope that with time things would get better. That’s all I had but it was enough.❤️🩹 Don’t lose hope. You will get through this. I’m rooting for you.
While this is bleak: I take a few minutes each morning after wake up, think of all the reasons I want to give up, evaluate if I have anything to fight for, pick the one I want to overcome that day (if possible) then put my feet on the ground, one foot in front of the other and move. Remember I have 2 kids that need to see me overcome all the lies they hear and Just keep moving.
I’m not trying to outrun anything but tackle at least one feeling or problem a day because ya know there’s many and new ones each day but knowing it won’t always be this way and that I’ve overcome worse reminds me I still have a fighting chance
I just do it. Can’t just sit around and wait to die that takes too long. Might as well keep chuggin along
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Real talk? Sometimes I just sit in my car and scream. Then I get a coffee put on my favorite playlist from high school and remind myself I’ve survived 100% of my worst days so far.