I told my MIL that i got pregnant 2 months ago she acted happy she just told us not to tell anybody yet and we agreed for the moment. After the call we had with her she started texting my fiance that she’s worried about the baby and she dosen t trust me also dosen t know me, that i might be iresponsible with money, tho, as she said she dosen t really know me. A few days ago she had a meeting with my fiance’s brothers in which they talked shit about me and my fiance and again telling my fiance that they all worried about the baby for when it arrive but there is still time to “save it”? so they should have a talk without me. I want to specify that i didn t talk with my MIL for 1 year she never texts call , didn t ask how im feeling jn my whole first trimester and still we don t talk it’s like she’s not interested in me at all. I said to my fiance that he should tell her ‘not to worry cuz she’s not going to have any contact with me or the baby bc i don t want her in our life” he agreed but idk if i did the right thing.. She also just text him insults about me and only worries for the baby, and NEVER talks with me directly
Also told my fiance not to announce the pregnancy on the family group cuz nobody is going to care or react on it.
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So is your fiancé telling her to step off?
I’m sorry if this is horrid but if she’s asking you don’t tell people and having meetings with other of his family members, I have a feeling the topic of termination is going to come up and she’s likely wants you to keep quiet so there’s not questions asked.
The biggest middle finger to her is you and your spouse announce publicly. Bc then that way she’s either forced to show her true colors and hopefully he comes to your defense, or she shuts up and deals with it bc she wants access. Either way, don’t forget, if she doesn’t live or finance your life, she only has the power you and your spouse give her. Treat her like a toddler having a tantrum and ignore it or leave. She’ll cry until she’s blue in the face but eventually she’ll figure out the power dynamics have shifted.
There’s still time to save it?! What’s that mean? They take your baby away from you???
Tell everyone. Every single person.
Fuck her.
No one is EVER prepared for their first baby 😁 But you will be amazing.
She just needs to be told by both of you to butt out.
It’s definitely time to put up a camera doorbell. Don’t allow her in your home again.
Announce your pregnancy. Mil wants you to have a termination and that’s why she wants you to keep quiet.
You owe her nothing and this is the reason she should never see your child.