Me (28f) and my husband (32m) have been together for 12 years and had our first child in 2023.
During a casual family conversation at my BILs house the other day my MIL admitted she still holds a grudge against me for not letting her be in the room when we had our daughter.
First of all, it was just myself and my husband. No other family or friends, not even my own mom. We had decided that it was going to be stressful and intense and we wanted it to be as intimate as possible.
Second of all, my MIL has (graciously) taken to me A&E a few times in the past decade and each time has been horrible.
One time I was visiting their home while they were building their own deck and stood on a 3” nail that went through the sole of my foot. Went to A&E, they X-rayed my foot and found the nail was resting between two bones in my foot and numbed the limb and had to slowly pull the nail over a 15 min period. The entire time she’s sat next to the bed LAUGHING and after it was over asked if she could have the nail back and ended up using it in the deck 😐
So no, I didn’t want her in the delivery room.
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No and no
Wow. She sounds like a psychopath. No way in hell would let her anywhere near me if I were vulnerable.
She sounds mentally unwell.
If I didn’t have the MIL that I do, I might have a hard time believing this. Unfortunately, I do…
I have no words. She sounds awful. Id reinforce that grudge as often as possible if i were you.
She WHAT? she can hang on to that grudge bc something is clearly wrong with her.
Just say “I’m sorry you feel that way” and drop it
You might consider responding along these lines:
It’s unfortunate that you feel that you had a right to be there. We have no regrets and would again choose to be on our own without any other family.
Delivery is not a spectator sport FFS! Why don’t people get this? It’s messy, painful and you are at a very vulnerable point, so she can kick rocks.