First post here and gosh I’ve got some stories far worse than the below but for some reason this has tipped me over the edge today.
My husband (Indian) has just been home to India to visit his parents. I decided to stay at home in UK with our 8 month old (I’m British). Throughout his trip, my MIL made absolutely everything about how our son must be missing his father. Couple of examples:
- Video calling whilst our son eats his dinner and inevitably half of it is chucked overboard. My mother in law says he’s not eating because he misses his daddy. Wtf?!
- Our son’s sleep is absolutely horrific so I decided to do some gentle sleep training when my husband was away (he was in agreement, I just couldn’t take it anymore). And lo and behold on my husband’s return sleep is much improved, thanks to MY hard work and determination. What does MIL say, he’s sleeping better cos his dad is home. PLEASE WOMAN.
She has NEVER acknowledged me as a mother, even when she lived in our house when I returned from hospital after delivery and I cleaned up after her. The only thing she will acknowledge is how freaking fantastic my husband is. Well I’ll tell you something love, you did not do that great of a job. EURGH!!!
Edit to add: I stayed at home as my father is in end of life care. I would normally make the trip with my husband but obviously not in a position to travel.
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Yeah, that’s annoying. If you are feeling mischievous, I’d be tempted to start proactively doing it yourself to take steal her thunder for increasingly ridiculous baby activity. I bet part of her is doing it to make your husband feel like his mom appreciates and loves him sooo much. Like: “Today, Baby burped after just two taps instead of three, I bet it’s cuz Husband smiled at him before leaving for work!”
She sounds like she thinks she raised Gandhi and married off Jesus.
Meanwhile you’re solo parenting, grieving, and still getting backhanded shade from someone whose main skill is rewriting reality to make her son look divine.
You’re doing the real work and she’s just narrating fiction.
Why would u answer a videocall during dinner? Thats on you OP. Do better.
Classic MIL: worships husband like a deity, erases your effort like it’s invisible.
She’s not blind, she just refuses to see you. That’s not love, that’s ego.
Your son sleeps better because you put in the work, not because Daddy’s home. Don’t let her rewrite the story.
You’re the real MVP here.