My brother is 17 years old and is in the phase of “looking for himself”. What are some movies we can watch that can have a positive impact on him?
My brother is 17 years old and is in the phase of “looking for himself”. What are some movies we can watch that can have a positive impact on him?
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Les Intouchables – the original with Omar Sy, not the American version with Kevin Hart.
The American sicko
Goodfellas
Dazed and Confused
It changed my life at 16 years old. It’s set in the 1970s and about a shy middle school kid who finds himself hanging out with the cool seniors, who help break him out of his shell. It completely changed my perspective, got me out of the house, and into a social mood. Versus staying home playing Xbox with my other shy friends
Pursuit of happiness.
https://youtu.be/Hpp9Q5sQWUk?si=_8sSAXzKw91HXuq–
Mr. Jones.
Conan the Barbarian
“Salt Lake City Punks”
Rocky IV
Good Will Hunting and Mr Holland’s Opus are great films for life lessons.
Babe Pig in the City or Caligula
American Psycho and Wolf of Wall Street
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Boyz n the hood.
It may not be what you’re looking for necessarily, but some movies that provided good role models for me at various ages:
Dragonheart
Pursuit of Happiness
Click
Bicentennial Man
The 5th Element (don’t ask)
Some shows:
Fullmetal Alchemist Brotherhood
Violet Evergarden
You’re Lie in April
Some are not necessarily about manhood, but about dealing with and processing complex emotions in a healthy way in general.
Requiem for a Dream
The Secret Life of Walter Mitty.
If anything it shows you that even in middle age we’re still finding ourselves and that life is an incredibly long journey
What about The Matrix
Not sure it’s movies that he needs.
Into the Wild. The book it’s based on is excellent too.
Matrix, Batman begins, casino royal 007, Scarface, Fight club, 300, Godfather.
Brokeback Mountain
Boondock Saints.
A Bronx Tale
Donny Darko
Scent of a woman
If he doesnt watch he might end up as a baird bum.
Dead Poets’ Society. This is a must-watch, especially if you are a boy in your late teens. Funny, touching, philosophical.
Pump up the volume
Fight Club… maybe?
I remember loving it when it came out, but I don’t think I understood it quite the way I do now.
The original Blade Runner too.
If you watch them as action flicks they’re good to great, but it might help to explain the darkness (and beauty) inside of the characters. There’s some less obvious stuff going on there.
The Secret Life of Walter Mitty
Inside Out 1 and 2.
Predator. So many one liners, so many cultural references have come since. It was a thriller, borderline horror at the time, now it’s action comedy. Two state governors in that movie!
Fight Club
Groundhog Day.
Waking Life
Vision Quest
Secondhand Lions
Quigley Down Under
Jerimiah Johnson
Australia
O Brother Where Art Thou
Breaking Away
3:10 to yuma
“Passion of the Christ “!
Rudy, Shawshank Redemption, Cool Runnings, How to train your Dragon, Iron Giant
Also the entire series of Mayday air disaster on youtube…emphasizes the weight of adult responsibility, and the need for due care
Second hand lions
Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
American Beauty. Great perspective for each member of a family at different ages/stages.
Hard to say without knowing anything about the guy, but for me at least, I don’t think any movie has spoken to me as much as Everything Everywhere All at Once.
Waymond is what peak performance looks like, and I’m not even kidding.
Donnie darko
Honestly, let him discover what he’s drawn to.
American history X
Repo Man
Movies are make-believe BS. Don’t rely on them for Life guidance.
Not a movie, but the entire series of “Adventure Time”. It starts off very zany for little kids, but the characters learn and grow and develop as people as the seasons go on. It deals a lot of loss, relationships, abandonmemt, family,, coming of age, regret, learning from mistakes, learning self reflection, and all the other life lessons that come along with growing up to be a responsible adult. Again, the first season or so starts off a bit zany, but it’s an incredible show for someone who wants to “find themselves” and learn perspective and emotional growth.
Kids
Detroit Rock city
Dazed and Confused
Menace 2 society
Thin Red Line
All of these made me think a different way after seeing them. idk why but they did.
Breaking Away is a great coming of age film
Legends of the Fall
Swingers
My Own Private Idaho
The Thin Red Line
the secret of my success
Almost Famous
300, be strong as fuck, get wife approval before actions, self sacrifice for the greater good.
Fury, such a good movie.
Brokeback Mountain or Rent for sure! LMAO in all seriousness Scent of A Woman
Valley Uprising- the documentary
The Town, Point Break and Heat.
Something European
I really enjoyed flow. It has no dialogue and is just animals helping each other with a great flood.
Outside of that, therapy, and asking internal questions of who he wants to be and what does that look like.
Lord of the Rings trilogy extended edition
A River Runs Through It.
I mean looking for yourself shouldn’t be a phase, just saying
DIE HARD
the answer is always
DIE HARD
Forrest Gump
Not a movie, but a show, Gurren Lagann. Peak masculinity
Cool Hand Luke (1967)
Trainspotting. A funny and shocking look at the lives of some drug addicts and petty criminals who get the chance to make a lot of money on a drug deal.
It was the breakout film for Ewan McGreggor, Jonny Lee Miller, Robert Carlisle and Kelly MacDonald.
When Harry Met Sally and The Princess Bride are excellent choices
Not a movie but a show: Your Lie in April and Black Clover
As for Movies: Dead Poet’s Society, Good Will Hunting, Fight Club, 500 Days of Summer, and Gladiator
Almost Famous
Paper Towns and Looking for Alaska are books by John Green that really had a big impact on me as a 16-17 year old. There is a movie of Paper Towns and A mini series for Alaska which are both good, but if you can, get him to read the books, or read them with him.
I think John Green does a really good job of laying out how we should see the world and other people in it. In all his books, he talks a lot about how we think of other people as 2-dimensional, simplistic versions of themselves, when in reality, they are fully complex people. I think that was an important message for me to hear as a teenager, and it’s a lesson I still try to remember today.
John Green is sort of notorious for writing sappy teen romance books, but I think they are genuinely really good, even if you don’t care all that much about the romance aspects.
Plus, with Paper Towns and Looking for Alaska, they’re also about high school kids doing crazy shit and getting into all kinds of shananagans, so they’re fun for that alone.
Another off the wall but totally serious suggestion is the Paddington movies.
The good lie, Shawshank redemption, Pursuit of happiness, & Mrs. Doubtfire are a few good ones
American Pie 1 and 2.
Enders Game
Is that a phase people go through? “Looking for yourself?” never even heard of that before
“Powder” is a sad movie with a crappy ending, but had a really powerful message about perspective for me personally
American History X,
The Shawshank Redemption,
City of God,
The Truman Show,
Waking Life.
Empire records
Rocky and the pursuit of happiness
Marcel the Shell with Shoes On. Great movie about embracing change even when it’s scary or uncomfortable.
Green Mile, bring some tissues.
Some good suggestions here. I’ll throw out Awakenings and Fiddler on the Roof as well. I watched the latter with my oldest son when he was 18 and he said he couldn’t believe both how good it was and how relevant so many years after it came out. Awakenings will help him see how precious every moment is and to not waste time.
American Psycho lmao
I just watched My Old Ass with Aubrey Plaza and it was so cute and deep and I maybe cried a little (I never cry!)
Fight club
perks of being a wallflower (maybe)