My fiance and I get married next year and I just found out his oldest (he has 2 boys) is saying he doesn’t want to go because his dad doesn’t show up for him like he does his little brother. My fiance never seems them separately and is not allowed to have their phone numbers because of their POS mom so he’s not reaching out to one and not the other. I believe the oldest is just making things up so his mom feels validated.
Anyways, I’m just curious to know if anyone
Who has had their kids kept from them, if years later the child learned the truth about their mother and I guess what was said and how the relationship is now.
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I’ve seen this play out many times with friends. The kids always eventually figure out who the POS is, even if it is twenty years later.
Yeah. Worst mother ever. The bitch has 4 kids and outside of nursing them seemed to happily pawn them off to what amount to total strangers.
She doesn’t seem to care at all about what they’re doing now or their wellbeing. Sometimes I don’t even think she remembers them.
To top of it off she still think it’s my duty to feed her, house her, hell she even experts me to clean her shit up afterwards. And while she practically worships me as a God, it’s really off putting.
Still love my dog though.
This is my niece’s mom, 0 interest in being a mother. Worst part is, she already has a daughter, she doesn’t have custody of which barring extremes, is not something you usually see with young children, so I have no idea why my brother knocked her up (except I do, he’s a numbnut who wanted to play house).
She’s way too young to need to know anything outside of love and support and it would require her mom actually wanting to be involved for there to be a problem, but I certainly hope (and will make sure) my niece always remembers who raised her.
Did your fiance not take the legal route to have proper rights to his kids?
My parents are divorced and had literal bloody battles over divorce proceedings and custody. Mind you neither should have had kids and is garbage in their own right- however it took a solid 18-20 years to really figure out the truth about my egg donor.
Kids will eventually figure it out and as painful as it is for the parent on the bad side of parental alienation, if they want anything to do with that child they have to continue to make efforts to reach out and be around their kids. When it all finally starts clicking into place, kids have to see effort and positive things/attempts from that parent. It’s the only way there’s ever a chance at a relationship with that child at some point.
Yep they did. I have a 21 and 23 yo son from a previous marriage. Their mom was a toxic POS for their entire childhood and it nearly pushed my (current) wife and I to divorce.
As adults they understand how they were manipulated and are incredibly resentful. Unfortunately it doesn’t really end there. They both have a ton of baggage now so my wife and I are constantly trying to reassure them that it’s not their fault, that they matter, and we’re proud of them always.
A buddy of mine has this. Ex-wife maintained primary custody and was always asking for more child support until a judge eventually saw the light, awarded split custody and ended child support (short version).
I Spent some time with him and his sons, they absolutely hate her. I wouldn’t be surprised if once the last kid graduates, they collectively ghost her.
Yes and no.
My two children from first ex-wife…no.
My one child from the second…yes.