First of all we live in Austria and are Austrian. So this is really unusual and not tolerant due to some “culture.”.
I had a one night stand with the pilot of my delayed flight. I met him before the flight. I am also not a teen. 24. He is 33.
We used protection so I didn’t even think of plan B. Fast forward, my period sometimes skips one month due to other issues I have. I found out about pregnancy when I simply couldn’t bring myself to abort even though it was still within legal range.
I told my family. And my dad who is an aggressive man, the reason I moved out at 18, pushed me to the floor and kicked me in stomach.
I reported him to the police but he was released in 30 days.
I have no real help. I will have a daughter. I have a stable income. I talked to the guy and he is now paying my rent and all the medical checks. (We did the paternity test).
But what else to do? He will be paying child support and we get along pretty well. He visited me 3 times. Would it be too much if I wanted we become a couple? We do couple stuff. Not anymore but we used to for the past months.
Got pregnant with a stranger and my father kicked me in stomach
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Focus on your well-being first; you’ve been through so much already.
Hey, I just want to say first, your strength is showing, even if you don’t feel it. You’ve been through something brutal, and still you’re standing. Still protecting life. That speaks volumes.
What you’re going through isn’t small. It’s more than just a surprise pregnancy or a complicated relationship. This is about building something sacred out of something that started messy. And you’re not crazy for wanting more. We’re wired for connection. You’ve already bonded with this man in more than just a physical way and now there’s a life between you. Of course part of you wonders if there’s something deeper.
But here’s the thing: wanting clarity doesn’t make you needy. It makes you honest.
If I were in your shoes, I’d ask him to sit down face to face. Not to pressure him. Not to corner him. Just to have a real conversation with no masks on. Something like:
“I’m grateful you’ve stepped up. That means a lot. But I need to know where you truly stand. Not just about the baby, but about us. Is this something you see as a one-time bond of responsibility? Or is there something growing here for you too? Because I don’t want to guess anymore. I want to build something rooted in truth, for me, for our daughter, and for the future.”
However he answers, that’s your compass. Don’t try to bend yourself around what you wish he’d say. Pay attention to what he actually says. And how he says it.
And if he’s unsure? Then give him time, but guard your heart in the meantime. You deserve love that’s chosen, not just convenient.
Also, just from a spiritual lens: your story isn’t over. This child might be the beginning of a whole new legacy. Sometimes God uses strange roads to lead to sacred destinations. So don’t bury your hope. Just plant it in truth.
You’re not broken. You’re becoming.
>Would it be too much if I wanted we become a couple? We do couple stuff. Not anymore but we used to for the past months.
Your focusing on the wrong thing 🤦♀️ focus on the baby now. If you are keeping the child then come up with a plan and maybe find subreddits regarding pregnancy.
For the guy maybe see what kind of parents you are going to be and how y’all are going to work together.
I applaud you for having the child. We Europeans are disappearing because of plummeting birthrates. I do say I’d give it a go with him. Love can grow, and it is important to have a stable home family life. Once again, good for you not to abort. Your pilot sounds very responsible (so far). If it remains so, there could be a life for you two and I hope it works out. No, it is not too much to want to be a couple. It’s a natural instinct. All relationships take work, commitment, and communication, are paramount.
You did that paternity test in vitro? I’m sorry but there’s a lot of things that just make this sound fake.
First your title, which has absolutely nothing to do with your question. You did that for attention.
Then you say he visited you three times but you say you do couples stuff. But not anymore, but you used to for the past months.
So many inconsistencies here i’m doubting.