my gf (19f) said that me (18m) and her need a break. this is my first relationship and idk what to do honestly. i’ve heard about “breaks” and they usually don’t end up good… what should i do?
my gf says we need a “break” what does that mean??
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Break one foot out the door. Give her space, don’t chase, stay ready for the worst.
respect her request
You need to ask specifically, there are a lot of stories where miscommuncation happens because people assume different things when it comes to the word “break”, she could just want some space and for you not to call or text her for a while, or she could want to fuck other dudes, ask specifically what it means. If she wants to be temporarily like actually broken up, then that never gets better and you should just offer to break up for real
breaks are just breakups in disguise give her space but don’t lose yourself waiting know your worth.
Means you need to “break” up
It means she wants to cheat without feeling the remorse of cheating. I don’t want to hear any pushback from this. Breaks DO NOT exist in any good terms. Someone’s been speaking to her & trying to convince her to leave you. She wants a free trial with out feeling guilty of actually “cheating” while dating. Been there done that ( she wanted a break ). No im not some miserable person… im actually happily engaged now so before anyone says anything to me lol i speak from experience. Breaks are never beneficial. Either you hash it out and speak your issues like adults or it’s a no-go. Honest to god answer. Good luck OP
Have you asked her what makes her want to take a break?
You’re going to have to give her space. If she decides she actually wants to break up, then you’re going to have to respect that and move on.
She just likes someone else and wants to test the waters without a guilty conscience. It’s summertime slay brother
Whatever the case, you should also make sure you are great without her, in the sense that you don’t need anyone to make you great. The relationships that work amazing are two individuals who are great by themselves, and then added together to make a strong team.
So in this time, make sure you are happy with yourself
She wants to break up but she doesn’t want to tell you and wants to break up.
It’s a soft launch into a full on break up. She just doesn’t want to hurt your feelings
There are only 3 things to do.
1.) Regardless of what the next step is, the first step is to ask for clarification. She could just have some stuff going on in her life that wouldn’t reflect well on your relationship, and if that’s the case, then respect it and give her the space she needs (also, skip step 2 if she is just busy with life). Be available for her emotionally and try your best to avoid putting extra pressure on her.
2.) So, you’ve gotten clarification, and it turns out she just wants a break. The next step is to make your choice based on why she needed a break. My ex GF Chloe wanted a break because her ex was in town and she wanted to meet up with him, so I broke up with her. Ideally, you won’t be put in this situation, but if you are I’m sorry: relationships where one partner is willing to step out on another partner for someone else tend not to last, and you should probably end it there.
3.) Regardless of which ends up being the case, the third step is self-improvement. Go to the gym, clean your house, cook for yourself, and take care of all of the things you’ve been putting off. Keep yourself busy and working to avoid thinking about it. And if unfortunately its the second option, don’t let her weasel her way back in
As a man, you should respect her request. It may turn into a permanent breakup or she may want to reconcile. You should prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for either answer.
Let her go, millions of fish on the sea.
It means she wants to see and have sex with other people, but keep you in the wings in case it doesn’t work out.
Means ur cooked bro
She 95% wants to break up with you. She will have some alone time to “think this through” (meaning she will probably not think about it at all). I’ve known only one couple that worked for them, but they are extremely weird.
Focus on yourself, be ready, be strong. Don’t run into a burning house with cup of water. Don’t try to build any relationship right away. It will hurt like hell, but in the end you will find someone else. Good luck.
She is breaking up with you. Don’t wait for her
After a year or so of dating my now husband I wanted a break because I personally needed to evaluate continuing our relationship on my own-without his influence. I wanted one week (7 days) of no contact, other than continuing our snap streak (lol) to which we just sent a random pic every day with the word streak… Anyways, He respected my wishes. We met day 7 and had a long convo after the break where we discussed everything that we both felt needed to improve for our relationship to work. The break was good for him to think about our relationship without my influence as well. It was the best thing for us but we were very open and honest and did not have ANY trust issues (neither of us wanted to seek other relations). Our problems centered around communication, effort, and outside family problems.
I think breaks can be good when being utilized to consider the quality of a relationship. But many people use breaks to consider other relationships/other people which negates the point of exclusivity, in which case a breakup would be better for you if you want monogamy. So it really depends what her motive behind a break is and how much trust you have in her.
It means she’s breaking up with you. Don’t take her back, she could already be seeing someone else.
You’re young, there are plenty of relationships ahead of you.
A break from a relationship typically means spending a week apart without the expectations of a relationship, although many choose to place boundaries on those breaks. For example, not sleeping with someone else. Always make sure there is a time frame on the break. Most go for a week or two.
Having said all of that, which is really only to answer the question, my personal belief is that if your relationship needs a break, it’s pretty much already over and living on life support.
The only time a break has been introduced into a previous relationship of mine, what followed was 6 months of being messed around and losing myself in the process, only to be replaced by another guy at the end of it, who came into her workplace a few weeks before she wanted a break. You can probably read between the lines on this one – she was keeping me strung along as a backup while she pursued something with this married man. Looking back on it with clarity, I see now that she was manipulating both of us, so I dodged a bullet there.
If I could turn back time, or if someone were to introduce the idea of a break in the future, I would take control of the situation and break up with them myself.
She just wanna fuck another dude