So I (M21) have a problem, I cannot flirt at all. I’m perfectly fine with having a conversation and being able to push that conversation further and get to know them better but I never know how to be flirtatious in the conversation and could really use some advice.
Like I’m good with the conversational stuff and can even make girls laugh a lot. I’m very thankful that I can’t make friends because I know how it feels to not be able to do that but I really need help with learning how to be playfully flirty.
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Advice: go outward, not inward.
Focus on the person, you can be “flirty” in the abstract, but it will ring false. It’s dependent on a specific vibe with someone who isn’t here right now.
There’s this guy I work with and everyone has a crush on him, I realized it’s because he makes everyone feel like he notices what is special about them.
It’s more effective than any “flirty” guy I’ve met.
Also keep in mind that if the reason you want to flirt is to get attention from women in order to feel better about yourself, we’re not here to be your validation monkey.
Read a book/pdf on flirting. Try out the techniques.
For instance search filetype:pdf or search Kindle Unlimited
The key of flirting is just to be genuinely interested and attentive. Remember, not all kinds of flirting involve cheesy pick-up lines or overt innuendos. Sometimes, the best flirt is a good listener.
Flirting is a humiliation ritual designed for below average men to embarrass themselves for women’s amusement.
No desirable man ever has to jump through the hoops average and below average men go through just to have a minor chance of success. They initiate a normal conversation (or often even the woman makes the opening move) and next thing you know he’s taking her to his apartment.
I hate to break it to you, but if you have to do all this unnecessary clownery the girl was never into you in the first place.
Try flirting with chatgpt and have it give you feedback
Just tell them they’re pretty ?
Be yourself don’t overthink any situation and all will be as it should be..
Firstly, it’s normal. Lots of people don’t know how to flirt. It’s just one of those things that can get awkward if you force something you’re not comfortable with and the other person isn’t.
You also don’t need to flirt with every woman you meet. When you find someone who you’re interested in, who feels the same way, I think sometimes it just comes naturally.
Try not to force it, and remember you’re still young and it’s totally normal.