I lost weight and was super depressed. I got way more male attention than normal and it seemed like they all had a “let me take care of you” kind of thing going. Reallllly put me off. I’m not depressed anymore but kept the weight off and I don’t get as much attention.
Started eating real food, ditched the processed junk, and actually committed to working out — not for the looks, but for the energy. Getting hot didn’t fix everything, but damn, the confidence glow-up is real
I recently just lost 80 pounds and am at my lowest weight in 15 years. I bought a whole new wardrobe to finally dress the way I’ve been wanting to for so long. I got my teeth fixed finallyyyyyy (the front bottom ones were crowded and crooked and have always made me very self-conscious), and I cut my hair into a short bob which looks so freaking cute on me. I have confidence again and tbh, confidence is attractive.
Losing weight also for me. People treat you so different – men and women 😭 it’s actually kind of sad. But I’m happy I got to see both sides, so I can tell what’s genuine from people and what’s not. People also seem to think the best of me without really knowing me, or want to hate me without really knowing me.
I was very awkward and gangly in high school, by the time I had gotten into my early 20s I had took exercise fairly seriously, eat well, lots of fresh fruits and vegetables to try to offset all the red meat and alcohol.
I learned to dress well, or at least not poorly or tacky
I would say the biggest difference I noticed was just how people treated me, not just getting attention from women, but in general people treated me with more respect.
I went from being fairly skinny as teen, to slim with curves after having a child and hitting the gym.
The male attention has increased and not in a good way.
Only thing they are interested in is my body, some don’t even hide it. Others pretend to want to be friends before quickly making weird comments.
It’s made me unconsciously tie my worth to my body and I absolutely hate it and try to rewire my brain constantly.
I didn’t just “get hot.” I’ve always been considered attractive, even throughout my short life so far, but because of my teenage brain, I didn’t truly see or believe it until I was 26. Now that I’m in my 30s, my confidence with men has changed drastically.
I don’t seek their approval anymore. Yes, it still feels good when I get looks or when men express how beautiful I am to them—but I’m someone who values real connection over fleeting infatuation. So in that sense, nothing has really changed.
What has changed is how I feel about myself. Knowing what I want and recognizing that looks alone don’t guarantee meaningful relationships has grounded me. It’s helped me grow in so many ways. I’m much more aware now of what it truly takes to make a connection work.
I also feel good going out not looking “nice” cuz I really like myself even more in the days When I don’t want to impresa anyone and believe me if people see you not in your best they will make you know it.
Personally, I lost a lot of friends. As a nerd, I mostly hung out with boy-centered crowds for the majority of my childhood. When I grew up (physically), I noticed that a lot of my friends either grew uncomfortable to be around me or began to view me as a romantic interest. I wouldn’t trade ‘getting hot’ for anything though, as it really helped shaped the confidence that I needed throughout my teenage years.
In all honestly, I didn’t really ‘try’ per se: I grew up, I grew my hair longer and dyed it lighter, I ditched the glasses, I got a tan, and I started going to the gym (I would consider myself obsessed with the endorphins I get from working out though, not the results). The main difference for me was the development of my confidence: a confident girl might not be for everyone, but they sure are special to the people that do want them.
In high school I was pretty awkward and skinny in the awkward teenager way. I didn’t know how to dress well and I had a bad haircut. I also had braces for most of high school. Around 18, I started working out and got curvier. I also got myself a better hairstyle, learned about fashion and started dressing well, and got the braces off.
It changed my life in so many ways! Romantic attention obviously, but I also felt like people were significantly friendlier and nicer to me in general. It was way easier to make friends. I noticed that people treated me better at work, as well.
Honestly? It’s weird. Strangers suddenly being nice felt fake at first. But working out and eating better wasn’t just about looks—it gave me discipline and peace. That part changed my life the most.
Intermittent fasting changed my whole body composition. The attention I gained was not as enjoyable as I anticipated and have become kind of jaded now.
Found a better skincare routine , better makeup, braces, started wearing contacts. I’ve always been skinny so my body hasn’t changed much . I’ve seen both sides. I agree with comments of people projecting who they think I am vs who I really am but also things like harassment happen very frequently. There were periods where I was too afraid to leave my house or wear certain clothes . I’ve also had ex boyfriends get mad about me being attractive because they thought I’d cheat (but surprise surprise all projection) and the ocasional jealous friend . People think you don’t have real problems when you’re attractive but the reality is life doesn’t care who you are to throw shit at you . When I was ugly I was bullied wayyy more or ignored . Both are lonely for different reasons
I grew up as an overweight tomboy lol. Lost about 20 Kg last year of my undergrad degree and started dressing feminine. Goodness did i get a lot of male attention. I have a very distinct hour glass figure so i sometimes get very “decorative/graphic compliments”.
I really don’t care too much about physical beauty so the fleeting confidence boost from the attention is not so much a life changing thing . Unlike finding clothes that fit (i am also short), being able to run /be active without exhaustion , feel good and having energy.
Getting hot? Idk you’re hot if you believe you are at any size. It’s more a mindset than anything. I went to therapy and healed my trauma. Sexiest thing you can do for yourself I think.
I had a huge glow up in college. Now in my early 30s. I face daily sexual harassment on public transportation. It’s actually horrible and wouldn’t wish it on anyone.
I’ve never been ugly or unattractive, but I’ve stepped it up ~a lot~ in my late 20s. People have always been super nice to me and I definitely have gotten privileges because of appearances, but now I feel like I get way more attention when I’m super casual not looking my best. I notice I get more stares when I run errands.
As for what I did… legit just got in the best shape of my life. I focused a lot on strength training, so now I have a pretty defined hour glass body shape and a low bf%. I also embraced my natural features. I used to try so hard to be sorority girl hot with fake blonde hair, but it’s just not flattering on me as a hispanic woman. I went back to my natural dark brunette color and grew my hair back out so it’s very long again. Embracing my features instead of trying to fit a mold helped a lot because I was never going to be able to pull off that other look well or authentically, but I can pull off being myself perfectly.
I got hot before and it was mostly confidence as another user said. (Edit: but even then I didn’t have the body i desired: loose skin from weight loss, acne scars)
Im now financially ready for a few more things:
Laser for some remnant acne scars
Breast lift
Cellulite removal
Hope this helps!
I had WLS when I was 29. I went from about 280 lbs to 115/120 lbs. I’ve kept it off for almost 17 years now. It changed my life in many ways, but the most useful is that I can shop anywhere and wear basically anything. I can deal with summer heat. I have plenty of energy. And I just plain like how I look now.
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I lost weight and was super depressed. I got way more male attention than normal and it seemed like they all had a “let me take care of you” kind of thing going. Reallllly put me off. I’m not depressed anymore but kept the weight off and I don’t get as much attention.
Started eating real food, ditched the processed junk, and actually committed to working out — not for the looks, but for the energy. Getting hot didn’t fix everything, but damn, the confidence glow-up is real
I recently just lost 80 pounds and am at my lowest weight in 15 years. I bought a whole new wardrobe to finally dress the way I’ve been wanting to for so long. I got my teeth fixed finallyyyyyy (the front bottom ones were crowded and crooked and have always made me very self-conscious), and I cut my hair into a short bob which looks so freaking cute on me. I have confidence again and tbh, confidence is attractive.
Losing weight also for me. People treat you so different – men and women 😭 it’s actually kind of sad. But I’m happy I got to see both sides, so I can tell what’s genuine from people and what’s not. People also seem to think the best of me without really knowing me, or want to hate me without really knowing me.
Got vaneers. I smile and laugh a lot more now
I was very awkward and gangly in high school, by the time I had gotten into my early 20s I had took exercise fairly seriously, eat well, lots of fresh fruits and vegetables to try to offset all the red meat and alcohol.
I learned to dress well, or at least not poorly or tacky
I would say the biggest difference I noticed was just how people treated me, not just getting attention from women, but in general people treated me with more respect.
I literally thought you meant hot flashes … after last night’s sweat storm that’s where my mind is at LOL go perimenopause
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I went from being fairly skinny as teen, to slim with curves after having a child and hitting the gym.
The male attention has increased and not in a good way.
Only thing they are interested in is my body, some don’t even hide it. Others pretend to want to be friends before quickly making weird comments.
It’s made me unconsciously tie my worth to my body and I absolutely hate it and try to rewire my brain constantly.
I didn’t just “get hot.” I’ve always been considered attractive, even throughout my short life so far, but because of my teenage brain, I didn’t truly see or believe it until I was 26. Now that I’m in my 30s, my confidence with men has changed drastically.
I don’t seek their approval anymore. Yes, it still feels good when I get looks or when men express how beautiful I am to them—but I’m someone who values real connection over fleeting infatuation. So in that sense, nothing has really changed.
What has changed is how I feel about myself. Knowing what I want and recognizing that looks alone don’t guarantee meaningful relationships has grounded me. It’s helped me grow in so many ways. I’m much more aware now of what it truly takes to make a connection work.
I also feel good going out not looking “nice” cuz I really like myself even more in the days When I don’t want to impresa anyone and believe me if people see you not in your best they will make you know it.
Personally, I lost a lot of friends. As a nerd, I mostly hung out with boy-centered crowds for the majority of my childhood. When I grew up (physically), I noticed that a lot of my friends either grew uncomfortable to be around me or began to view me as a romantic interest. I wouldn’t trade ‘getting hot’ for anything though, as it really helped shaped the confidence that I needed throughout my teenage years.
In all honestly, I didn’t really ‘try’ per se: I grew up, I grew my hair longer and dyed it lighter, I ditched the glasses, I got a tan, and I started going to the gym (I would consider myself obsessed with the endorphins I get from working out though, not the results). The main difference for me was the development of my confidence: a confident girl might not be for everyone, but they sure are special to the people that do want them.
In high school I was pretty awkward and skinny in the awkward teenager way. I didn’t know how to dress well and I had a bad haircut. I also had braces for most of high school. Around 18, I started working out and got curvier. I also got myself a better hairstyle, learned about fashion and started dressing well, and got the braces off.
It changed my life in so many ways! Romantic attention obviously, but I also felt like people were significantly friendlier and nicer to me in general. It was way easier to make friends. I noticed that people treated me better at work, as well.
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Honestly? It’s weird. Strangers suddenly being nice felt fake at first. But working out and eating better wasn’t just about looks—it gave me discipline and peace. That part changed my life the most.
Intermittent fasting changed my whole body composition. The attention I gained was not as enjoyable as I anticipated and have become kind of jaded now.
Found a better skincare routine , better makeup, braces, started wearing contacts. I’ve always been skinny so my body hasn’t changed much . I’ve seen both sides. I agree with comments of people projecting who they think I am vs who I really am but also things like harassment happen very frequently. There were periods where I was too afraid to leave my house or wear certain clothes . I’ve also had ex boyfriends get mad about me being attractive because they thought I’d cheat (but surprise surprise all projection) and the ocasional jealous friend . People think you don’t have real problems when you’re attractive but the reality is life doesn’t care who you are to throw shit at you . When I was ugly I was bullied wayyy more or ignored . Both are lonely for different reasons
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I grew up as an overweight tomboy lol. Lost about 20 Kg last year of my undergrad degree and started dressing feminine. Goodness did i get a lot of male attention. I have a very distinct hour glass figure so i sometimes get very “decorative/graphic compliments”.
I really don’t care too much about physical beauty so the fleeting confidence boost from the attention is not so much a life changing thing . Unlike finding clothes that fit (i am also short), being able to run /be active without exhaustion , feel good and having energy.
Getting hot? Idk you’re hot if you believe you are at any size. It’s more a mindset than anything. I went to therapy and healed my trauma. Sexiest thing you can do for yourself I think.
I had a huge glow up in college. Now in my early 30s. I face daily sexual harassment on public transportation. It’s actually horrible and wouldn’t wish it on anyone.
I’ve never been ugly or unattractive, but I’ve stepped it up ~a lot~ in my late 20s. People have always been super nice to me and I definitely have gotten privileges because of appearances, but now I feel like I get way more attention when I’m super casual not looking my best. I notice I get more stares when I run errands.
As for what I did… legit just got in the best shape of my life. I focused a lot on strength training, so now I have a pretty defined hour glass body shape and a low bf%. I also embraced my natural features. I used to try so hard to be sorority girl hot with fake blonde hair, but it’s just not flattering on me as a hispanic woman. I went back to my natural dark brunette color and grew my hair back out so it’s very long again. Embracing my features instead of trying to fit a mold helped a lot because I was never going to be able to pull off that other look well or authentically, but I can pull off being myself perfectly.
Lost weight, dressed nice. Women are meaner/less friendly. Men are more friendly and more touchy. However, more doors open in general.
I got hot before and it was mostly confidence as another user said. (Edit: but even then I didn’t have the body i desired: loose skin from weight loss, acne scars)
Im now financially ready for a few more things:
Laser for some remnant acne scars
Breast lift
Cellulite removal
Hope this helps!
I had WLS when I was 29. I went from about 280 lbs to 115/120 lbs. I’ve kept it off for almost 17 years now. It changed my life in many ways, but the most useful is that I can shop anywhere and wear basically anything. I can deal with summer heat. I have plenty of energy. And I just plain like how I look now.