I don’t think I can just stop loving my ex, but I need to stop caring about him. I know he doesn’t care about me, I know the thought of me probably annoys him, and I know he probably doesn’t even think of me all that much. Why isn’t this enough to stop caring about him?
How to stop caring about someone?
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Hate to tell you but time was my only help. Iam in the same boat as you hope it gets better
unfortunately i have no advice but i am literally in the same boat as you (dumped 3 hours ago) and so will be following this thread
It’s ok to care for a past partner. What I suspect you want to know is when does the hurting stop because that person doesn’t care for you anymore. Time heals this. You might be able to make the process go faster with a therapist but it will still take time. What you are feeling is normal. You can’t stop feeling in any sort of healthy way. It more of a moving through and coming to terms process. It sucks to feel this way, but it’s also very human.
I know exactly how you feel. I wish I had the answers, for you and for me. I don’t know that I want to stop caring/loving him but I wish I could go a day without constantly thinking of him.
Just delete every single memory, block him everywhere, find hobbies or try to do things you like if it’s not working speak to a professional if you can afford it. Meet new people and try your best to move on.
You don’t have to stop caring, it’s just human nature to care about someone who was big part of your life.
As long as you can accept that it’s over and respect the ex’s feeling, you caring for him has no effects on him.
If thinking of him hurts you, there is no easy solution for that. Only time will heal you.
This is called grief. People don’t realize that grief isn’t simply limited for the deceased. Take time, feel, and grieve. Time will tell and heal better than deleting everything and pretending they don’t exist because everything will surface again. Be kind to yourself, do what you love and distract yourself, don’t avoid your emotions.