I hope this doesn’t come across as pick me or internalized mysogyny, because that’s not my intention at all. I just feel really frustrated and lonely because in my experience it’s so hard to find women that are not incredibly male-centered to be friends with. I don’t know if it’s a me problem, if it’s because of my age (I’m 23) or I’m just unlucky or socially awkward, but 99% of girls I meet end up only talking about guys, hanging out with their boyfriends 100% of the time, are always suffering over some dude, trying to desperately get into a relationship or ghosting everyone after getting a boyfriend. I have lost contact with many friends that I absolutely loved over the years because the boy obsession got unbearable š
Is this inevitable or am I doing something wrong?
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Yes, and no, but letās face it. Itās really hard to be permanent friends with anyone. Iām an old lady, and in my life there are a lot of people that have bowed in and out of it I can see that they were there for a season and I either learn something or just basically had a good time with them. I only have five friends from high school that I still touch base with. But thatās only because of social media except for two of them. I have learned that people are here for a reason and a season and enjoy it while you can.
I have trouble with friendships with other women too. I believe Iām cursed.
Nah I love my girlies lol. And thanks for the pick-me clarification lol. Mmm a lot of women do talk about men. But it reduces drastically when you are in feminist and queer circles. You have to actively look.
You’re definitely not alone but it’s not inevitable. I have for my whole life had roughly the same amount of friends from either gender and some outside the binary. I hear a lot of other people talk about what you’re feeling but all my xx friends have other xx friends too. I’d try to spread your circle wider and into groups you may not be as familiar withĀ
I sometimes struggle with female friendships because their boyfriends donāt like me