I can’t stop thinking about a girl that is unavailable. It keeps me awake at night.
I am 26 years old and I just can’t stop thinking about one girl. I like her, but she is unavailable. Not only, because she doesn’t really know me also because she has a boyfriend. It’s really unfortunate, but I still like her. I can’t stop thinking about her and imagine how it would be if she was my girlfriend. She is awesome.
Unfortunately it destroys my day and my mood. I think of her at everything I do. If it is my hobby’s, my work or just watching a tv programm. Also I dream about her and her texting me and I wake up in the night and only seeing that she still hasn’t texted me back on a message from 6 days ago. I woke up yesterday so bad and exhausted like I had drunk 2 bottles of wine the night before.
How can I stop thinking about her and let her go? I don’t know if there is any girl that likes me, but at this moment I am exhausted and I need to focus more on my own health. There is never a girl that loved me romantically apart from being friends, but maybe I should accept that rather than thinking all day about the possibility of never finding love.
My friends are already getting relationship, engaged and living their best life. One of hem became a dad some time ago. I would love to become a dad and having a great partner. I feel like I am getting too old. This year I turn 27. I’m already very late to the party still gaving no idea where to find someone.
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Try to stop thinking about her entirely, which will take time.
Don’t worry about your age, it’s pretty normal for people aged 20-30 to not be dating and stuff. 30 year old say they find it better dati g at thar age.
Find another girl or find something else to occupy your mind.
Simple: fall in love with a girl who is available 🤷♂️
But in all seriousness, don’t dwell on it. Knowing someone in public is a lot different than knowing them in private. You never know, she could be an exhausting bitch.
Hello there!
I feel you man. I know its pretty fkd up.
The answer is distraction. Try to focus on things that you actually can change. Like, your shape. Hit the gym and be satisfied with yourself. That alone will not just boost your confidence to engage in conversations and dates, but also can create a healthy habit. + its a great distraction.
Keep it up brother!
The best way to get over a girl is to get under another. Go meet others.
Trust me if you got to know her she isn’t perfect. No one is and either is any relationship. You have glorified her and the life with her. It’s common. Stop comparing your life to your friends. Right now they are at home on reddit asking if they should become single like you. Be happy with what you got and you will meet someone. You sound miserable and if you stay that way no chick will give you the time of day. Go out and have fun and maybe have a few short flings to get you going in the right directions. 27 is young and there is a 50 change when your 47 you will be in the same boat.
Sounds like limerence to me. have you tried to think about why you fall in love with someone already taken ? Maybe there is something to dig .
Try to cut contact as much as possible at least for several months and try to do things to nourish your life. What you feel seems more like an obsession than love.
OP – if you’re not careful you’re going to be 35, still not have this girl, and be wondering why you’re alone.
She’s not into you. Not everyone you like will be into you. When she talks to you, she’s probably just being kind. She’s not flirting with you.
You’re wasting your life holding your breath. Move on.