Today has been a heavy day my dog of 18 years nearly died, I found him choking and unable to breathe and passed out upstairs. I took him to the vet 3 min drive who did an X-ray and told me he has heart failure, his hirrle heart has been pounding nonstop all evening since we got home and his breathing so heavy it is breaking my heart, I’m terrified he won’t live through the night. I’m in tears.
And with all of this going on..
My grandad I visit once a month was hospitalised today. I took him to a test a few weeks ago and after being hospitalised today they said he will be lucky to live a mo th. I have been crying all evening, I don’t know what to do he is in his 90’s and we had promised to do so much together, go to the movies, watch the sunset together.
Option 1: They said he can get treated at hospital but his condition is so severe he would be unlikely to survive the surgery.
Option 2. Be glued to a needle and Mable it will help with his vitamins and hydrations etc. he said no I want to go home.
Option 3. My mum said that he said he just wants to go home and die.. he’s done fighting and he’s given up.
He chose this option and we are honouring his wish. But my heart is breaking…./
What should I do, iam in a fortunate position. Where I can and will visit him everyday
I was thinking of bringing of my camera equipment and helping him film a farewell/ future happy birthdays to his family and newly born grandchild
It would be a surprise to the family I won’t tell them.
I have a gut feeling it won’t be a month I know it’s sooner; he has turned completely yellow, he doesn’t eat, he looks like a skeleton already.
Have I waited too late to spend time with him? Should I have taken him to the hospital
Sooner??
I would do anything to have more time together.
Please help me I don’t know what to do with the few weeks I have left…
I’m overwhelmed I don’t know what to do…. I love grandad and I love my dog.. I don’t want them to feel alone…
TLDR: my dog of 18y is dying and so is my grandad in his 90’s they will be gone in a month, I regret not spending more time with them, how do I choose who to spend time with: please help me
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You didn’t fuck up, you’re put in an impossible situation.
Follow your heart. That’s all I can tell you. There’s no right or wrong.
Sorry to hear how hard of a time you are having at the moment. Spend your time with your Grandad, all of the feelings you are having of not having spent enough time with them and not being able to do the things you thought you would and now it’s too late are intrinsically linked with losing someone. It is hard not to feel guilt about this, but try to go easy on yourself, death is part of life and what really matters is being there for your Grandad. Your idea of a video is nice, but of course make sure he has the energy and likes the idea.
I say see your Grandad partly because my own perspective is that your own family comes first, even over a beloved pet. But also because you will have likely spent more time with your dog naturally, and you will have plenty of moments to treasure and hold on to. To me, as a stranger, it seems more important to make sure you get these last memories with your Grandad before he moves on. I happened to see my Grandad a day before he passed, and they are moment I will treasure forever.
You should humanely have your dog euthanized so he doesn’t suffer in his final moments. Get him a big cheeseburger and take them for a car ride with the windows down and drive around to his favorite spots so he can get some good sniffs in and let him die with some dignity, please.
If your dog is suffering, you should do something about that so that the suffering stops. It is selfish to keep the dog in a state of suffering.
To be clear, I am saying that you should put your dog to sleep. It sounds horrible. It is horrible. Likewise, it’s horrible for your beloved pet to suffer.
Your grandfather sounds like has made the same decision for himself.
End your dog’s suffering, and spend whatever time you have left with your grandfather.