I am loving the silent treatment from my MIL but it is affecting my DH. She is giving us the silent treatment because we didn’t accept the items she got for LO, even though we have asked her not to buy anything for LO.
My DH mentioned that she got offended that we didn’t accept the gifts last time and we should just accept the items from her and we can donate it right after just to keep the peace. But I am not willing to back down on it. I don’t want her to think that as long as she gives us the silent treatment, she can get what she wants.
I am actually quite interested to see how far this silent treatment will go. Is she willing to miss LO’s birthday because we refused to allow her to break boundaries? But I already know Matt will extend out an olive branch by then. How do I talk to him to get him to wait it out and see how she reacts till after LO’s birthday?
Now it also made me wonder…is this something she has done to DH while he was growing up? Is that why he is so afraid to stand up to her? I just feel so sad for him.
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>How do I talk to him to get him to wait it out and see how she reacts till after LO’s birthday?
You can’t change his mind. You can stand your own ground and that includes standing up to him. Couples will never agree on everything and that is OK.
Your husband needs to understand that if he backs down on the relatively small things like this, she’ll use it as an example for why she should be able to do [LESS SMALL THING] in the future. It starts with small gifts like toys and clothes and escalates to her buying big items that the parents should get, like first bikes and other milestones. Hold your boundaries, and if he accepts anything from her, package it up and ship it back to her.