It’s definitely been asked before, but just turned 25 and feeling like I got a lot wrong age 18-25. What’s been your best years?
Life after 25 vs pre 25? What’s been better?
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It’s definitely been asked before, but just turned 25 and feeling like I got a lot wrong age 18-25. What’s been your best years?
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I’m 38 and it just gets progressively better.
Pre 25 by far
As a dude, my 30s were the best time in my life.
I’m 29 and I feel like my life is getting better. Everyone I know in their mid-30s or older hated their 20s
18-25 were the best years of my life. It’s been a slow decline ever since then.
After is better!
I just had my 2 best years ever, I’m 31.
If you peak in your 20s, you’re doing it wrong. My back may not be what it used to, but everything else is an escalator that only goes up.
Everything… Loses a bit of shine in your 40s though, look after your body. 45M.
Oh, and invest every month in broad base ETFs, you’ll thank me when you’re my age and older. Just a couple hundred each month.
20-25 I was 30k in CC debt, being a stupid “new adult” with a self-admitted “materialistic wife”.
a divorce, 10 years in the military, a new girl, 2 degrees later. im 33 making over 200k.
life after 25 > Pre 25. absolutely. 100%. no takesies backsies.
My 30s were my best years, 40s bring health issues, 20s you’re a broke dumbass. 30s is where it’s at.
Slowing down? It speeds the fuck up for me!
Life just keeps getting better if you are in the right head space.
Thirties are probably the best, overall.
At 25, your adult life has barely even started.
I’m mentally better then where I was when I was in my early to mid 20s. Now I’m just apathetic to the world as a whole for the most part. Just trying to live life avoiding bullshit.
Late 20s early 30s are probably the best years for men.
My 30’s is owning so far. Much better than my 20’s.
After 25, but my best year is yet to come
Post 25:
• Have more qualifications
• More experienced in life
• Fitter, leaner and stronger
• Have more accomplishments
• Have higher income and plenty in savings
• Women (generally) play games less and are more direct with what they want.
• Quit drinking, which = more money, free time and better health
• Rarely get stressed
• Appreciate I you have more
Yeah things just keep getting better post-25.
After 25, hands down for me.
Attention and everything that comes with it, partying, sex, favors, etc was better before 25. Living quite superficially but addicted to quick satisfaction. Validation.
Respect and everything that comes with it, better jobs, promotions, self esteem, long lasting relationships, etc after 25. I find life now less thrilling and more stable.
41 and feeling like I’m just getting things figured out.
25 was pretty awful (thanks great recession!) and I have zero interest in going back.
So far it has all been equally terrible.
After you get a hang on this adulting stuff, it’s gonna pick up again.
After 25 and it’s not even close.
Shit that’s hard.
Life was amazing prior to 25. I dated lots of women had loads of fun in highschool and college had no responsibility just before I turned 25 I got married and bought a house. Money was tight but I was as people use to say free white and 21.
Now 25-39 life is very different but just as amazing. I have a loving and loyal wife 3 kids and tons of responsibilities but I am wealthy and can afford pretty much whatever I want in life.
I honestly can’t say what was better
Turning 35 this year and it’s been progressively better.
At 26 my body started slowing down in that I couldn’t heal from injuries/wear & tear from gym easily and I actually needed sleep.
Aside from that, as I age I have more money to unlock more opportunities and experiences in life, and new found knowledge to supplement said activities.
Unless you’re some pro athlete, your 20s should never be your peak.
The ONLY things I’ve noticed from 25 to 31 is that I’m SLIGHTLY more stiff in the morning and I get more random aches and pains. Still pretty much feel the same. I’m stronger than ever right now.
I will add, that after 25 you really do need to start working for good health. It’s not there by default like it is pre 25. Sleep, diet and exercise becomes more important as you get older. You can maintain good health for decades if you do that. The reason why people complain about aging past 25 is due to lifestyle vs simply getting older.
Both are terrible
Before 25 I had 18 years of free housing, food, clothing, toys, games, etc. Plus 18 years of only having school take up my free time. After 25 I have to work to afford to live and just barely have enough extra for hobbies. Before 25 was definitely better. Before my biggest worry was “Will I pass this test?” After it’s “Will I make enough money to retire at a reasonable age?”
Slowing down at 25? Man, I was just heating up!!!
Post 25 for sure, the body peaks in the 30s.
Jesus.
35, and if feels like it’s getting better by the second.
Before 25 was a mess, poor and didn’t get laid enough. After 25 those things started to align.
Pre 25 definitely because although I had more money after 25 I al buy tired and out of shape and burned out. Pre 25 I was running miles a day, in shape, less stressed and better looking. It was easier to also check out girls. Now I’m considered an old guy
After>>>>>
I just am so more at peace with me and i am not even doing better that When I was 25.
But I feel way better with myself and I am healthier.
Mixed bag tbh. While pre 25 was overall easier, post is much more rewarding. Pre 25 had basically no responsibilities so I got to do whatever I wanted. Post 25 has an amazing wife and daughter and a career I enjoy. So while it might be “harder” the payoff for everything is so much better
welp….pre 25 i had a number of failed relationships, twice being cheated on, but at least i had a shitty job and still lived with mommy, right?
after 25, i got engaged, finished school, got a better job….that i got fired from, set my fiances house on fire (we ‘bought it together’ but my credit score was horrendous and her’s was not, so everything was/is in her name), got married, and have a job thats not bad with ok benefits, isnt my thing but its close to home and the other things around it are good and i live in my inlaws basement…..
for me its a toss up lmao
though to be fair, if i hadnt set the house on fire, i’d be rockin it right no lol i have good friends that we enjoy each other’s company, im married, etc. life after 25 would be WAYYYY better than life before 25 if i wouldnt have set my house on fire lmao
I’m 40, this is my best year. Next year 41 will be my best year. Life has just been an upward trajectory since 17.
I turned 63 a few months back. I’m having the time of my life.
So I’m going to to say “neither”
Because if you are putting in the work, every decade should be better than the last.
I turn 26 this year, and this has been the best year of my life. Making more money than I anticipated, moved a few times, and positioning well in my career. Some things shifted, like I don’t go out partying anymore and instead spend my time golfing, hiking, and chilling on the beach. I love it
Every stage of your life will have plusses and minuses.
The key to happiness is to enjoy the the good things you have when you have them, and not to fixated on the things you’ve lost or the to delay feeling happy until you’ve achieved the things you want.
I would say yeah they keep getting better, more emotionally stable, had enough experiences to not make the same mistakes, and all around a calmer mood.
Oh and by your 30s, you pretty much have filtered out all the fake people and keep the real ones around you.
Both have upsides and downsides. i dont really separate them its just a continuous journey.
The best and worst times of my life so far were both pre 25, but while the post has been more boring, its the good kind of boring, the one that is more stable and comfortable. The former is chaos.
I do miss being healthier but i also recognize that most of my health issues are self inflicted so…cant really complain.
Being a kid and experiencing a new candy bar or sci-fi movie in the theaters will never be surpassed.
Life starts at thirty.
Life before 25 was awesome. At 28 I met the antichrist (my ex fiance) and while I thought i was happy, I was always overcome with overwhelming feeling of dread as the relationship progressed. Called off the wedding and life has been better than pre 25 since and im turning 40 next week. All in all, id call it about a draw
After, big time.
Pre 25, just the freedom and lack of responsibilities.
Post 25, financial freedom and kids!
Both were Great in different ways
You are just on the cusp of life getting really good! Plenty of time to do fun stuff!
It all sucks. I just didn’t know any better when I was younger.
Pre 25 was shit, after 25 is shaping up to somehow be worse
doing whatever you want. and not being able to do what you want. applies to both actually
My 30s were pretty cool, most of my 40s as well. I had some big health stuff after that. I’m 55 now
I peaked at the age of 25 and then things went south business wise. Everything else seems to be fine, baby on the way, gonna become father at the age of 30 just as planned. Life is good.
Post no more depression
Pre-37 wasn’t bad but I spent over a decade studying and working very hard. I spent majority of it studying medicine. I’m now ready to retire next year. Lots of lessons learned (both making and watching others) that I can now avoid and not risk the investments I’ve made to have this life
Honestly my 18-24 years were pretty aimless. 25 & 26 were some rough years for me. 27-29 (about to be 30) have been pretty great though and trying to get set-up so my 30s can be hopefully awesome.
30s are great. 40s I’m not a fan of so far.
38 here and life is so so so much better. At 25 I was a broke wastoid, at 38 I’m a successful lush.
I’d say after 25. I’m 31 and aside from this year which has been relatively rough for me 25 and up has been better then pre 25
Less money , more money. Best years are right now
Oh, you missed it! 18-25 was everything, it’s where your career starts, your love life takes hold, and all your best friends are made.
After 25 is mostly doing the dishes and figuring out tax filings, it’s all pretty tame on this side. Maybe some birdwatching