I used to really like my MIL – she talks a ton but she was sweet and seemed to really like me. But she changed when I got pregnant. She had a long convo with me about how concerned she was that we were having a baby (I was 7 mos pregnant at this point), that she had just gotten used to us being married (wtf lol) and she wasn’t expecting us to have a baby this soon, and that having a baby means if you split up you’re tied to this person for life. Mind you, my husband and I had been together for 5+ years and were 30+ years old. It’s fine to have concerns, but she never mentioned any of this to my husband and I feel like it all stemmed from the fact that she felt like she was losing control of her son. That she realized he makes his own decisions, even life changing ones like having a baby, without consulting her. She then told me like 3 times how she was only 1 lb over her pre pregnancy weight the day after having her first baby, and that she didn’t think my sister dropped the weight till after she had the baby (literally wtf???!!!) She’s constantly making comments about how they used to do things, the other day she was making fun of people who have their kids ride backward facing in the car. She’s a boomer, so a lot of it is generational I think but Jesus it’s too much!!!
She’s visiting next week and I’m dreading it. I just know she’s gonna make passive aggressive comments and how we do things, and I know she’s gonna be looking at my body and judging me. My daughter is almost 15 weeks old, and of course my MIL acts obsessed with her but the things she’s said just play in the back of my mind and I’m like… remember all the things you said? Idk. I’m a new mom so I’m probably being dramatic but the thought of her holding my baby, trying to comfort my baby, and trying to play mommy again makes my skin CRRRAAAWWWL. She also keeps saying she wants me & my husband to go to dinner and she’ll babysit. I said no thank you and she kept saying it would be good for us and we need to go. I said no thank you, she’s still little and I don’t feel comfortable leaving her. I could tell her was annoyed. I feel like she isn’t wanting to babysit because it would be good for me, she’s doing it so she can play mommy without me there. I ain’t doing it! Rant over lol.
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