I am basically no contact with my in-laws. My husband is low contact.
Friends of my in-laws moved to our town, and we saw them in a shopping mall. Neither my husband nor I really liked them. The guy is really nice, but his wife is super irritating, and their children are a good advertisement for birth control. They are our age, and when they moved here, my in-laws tried to pressure us into befriending them. We just ignored it. What irritates me the a lot about the wife is that she and my FIL would walk arms around each other in town and tell everyone that she is his girlfriend. Because she is a “girl” and she is his “friend”. FIL thinks this is hilarious and tells the story to everyone he meets this. During a 3-day visit, he will tell this story 5 or 6 times. We never laugh or react to the story; we just ignore it and change the topic. I have considered saying something. I have been working on what and how to say it, and I probably will next time.
Anyhow. We saw them in a shopping mall, and they saw us. We were in a restaurant but stood up to make small talk for a minute. Within two hours, MIL called. Why were we at the mall? Why were we eating brunch at a restaurant? Why didn’t I make breakfast? What did it cost? It was ridiculous. Husband shut it down quickly, and you could hear he was extremely irritated by the line of questioning.
This is the third or fourth time that my in-laws got an update on what we were doing (or not doing). I am just so annoyed with the whole situation. We don’t tell them anything because we don’t want them to gossip about us. And now they have eyes and ears near us updating them on our movements. Am I overreacting, or is it a bit weird?
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It’s weird 100%, but what are you gonna do not live your life because you might run into this couple?
I would ignore her calls, if she happens to call the same day you run into those people. Maybe your husband can set a stricter boundary? Why does she need to know how much breakfast was and why you didnt cook? God forbid you want to go out and enjoy your morning.