I found out a few days ago that my boyfriend (m 23) of 2.5 years cheated on me (f 22) by trying to sleep with a female friend of his. I was told this by said female friend over the phone and was absolutely devastated. This was during the time I flew out to California to spend time with my family for 2 weeks as I needed a mental reset from everything that was happening in my personal life, and then this happened and I was ultimately devastated. I ended up calling him and confronting him about it to which he denied it ever happened, however I received prove that it did in fact happen. I ended up breaking up with him over this and now I am just in complete despair. I really loved him and we even had talked about moving in together. I’m not sure what to do, has anyone experienced this kind of betrayal from someone they had a long relationship with and how did you move past this? Does it get any easier?
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You move past this by thinking about how the story ended, he cheated on you, i know it has been 2.5 years, that’s a very long time, but even if the good memories come by to you, remember the outcome, i used to think that he wasn’t worth the nights that you cry onto, it’s like he stabbed you completely even if you trusted him. Take your time to heal, a year? maybe more? But to heal to distance the thought of him and not to remind yourself what you did wrong or nonless why didn’t u satisfy him enough that he cheated.
I’m sure it gets better, nature doesn’t let you forget but you have to improve urself in getting better for your future and mental health. Hope everything will go well for you.
It gets easier, I promise. I know it sucks to hear, but you’re young. You still have time. I’m so SO sorry this happened to you. The best thing you can do is learn from it and keep moving forward, do what feels right for you. That being said, my best advice to you is do not go back, don’t seek comfort in someone that hurt you.
Always remember; when you’re stuck, the only way out is to take a step forward. Take it a day at a time, cry when you need to cry, feel your emotions and let yourself grieve. Time will pass and you will come out of this. Sadness doesn’t last forever, just keep going.