I’m (32M) married to my wife (30F), we’ve been together 6 years, married for 4. We have a 4-year-old who thinks dinosaurs are real (we’re letting him have this), and we’re both full-time working parents tired, overcaffeinated, and half-alive like everyone else in their 30s. So last week, I was using her iPad to stream Bluey for our kid when I accidentally swiped up and saw an app titled:
“Notes, Husband Chaos”
Naturally, I tapped it. Because HOW could I not??
What I found was… a full-blown manifesto.
Like, dated entries, bullet points, even EMOJIS.
Examples include:
“April 4: Left his towel on the bed again. Is it a towel? Is it a wet sock? IDK. Burn it.”
“April 12: Asked me if I was mad. I wasn’t. Now I am.”
“April 15: Breathed so loud during Bridgerton I wanted to throw a fork at his soul.”
There’s like 40+ entries. Some of them are petty. Some of them are oddly poetic. One just says:
“He chews like a raccoon who pays no taxes.”
I was laughing at first… then I kinda spiraled. Because YES I leave the sponge in the sink sometimes and YES I forget the laundry exists if I can’t hear it crying, but DAMN. She never told me half of this stuff. I asked her about it and she turned red and said: “It’s just how I vent so I don’t lose it and set your Crocs on fire in your sleep.” Like… I get it. Marriage is hard. But now I’m overthinking every movement. Am I chewing too loud? Breathing weird? Is this becoming a whole new paragraph? She says it’s healthy and that I should start one too if I’m that pressed. I said I didn’t think we needed secret diary warfare to be a team.
So Reddit… am I being too sensitive? Or is this lowkey emotional note-taking warfare disguised as “self-care”?
We’re still married btw. She just added another note while I was typing this. I saw her do it.
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Start your own log with one entry – “wife keeps complaint notes instead of talking about issues”
😅 she loves you. I’ve seen the flip side. Trust me.If you were considerate of the space you shared together, the breathing wouldn’t even be on the list. So, clean up behind yourself.
I’m gonna need you to clarify re: dinosaurs…
This is why one is meant to respect others’ private property like a journal. You ready her virtual vent list, which she is probably using to regulate her emotions and make sure passing overstimulation doesn’t stop her from treating you with the respect you deserve in the relationship. I would try and let it go. Maybe even write your own journal entry to get it off your mind? Otherwise, you could talk to her about it and see if you can make some small helpful changes by picking up after yourself better.
How is this warfare? Sincerely, how?
Or is she never allowed to have a single ungenerous thought about you ever? If you feel bad, that’s what you earnt by snooping.
Also, that is not a manifesto.
I know this isn’t funny, and it really isn’t, but fuck me this is so catastrophically funny
Your wife lacks the maturity to talk to you about these things and instead is journaling them like some hormonal teenage girl. Does she even like you?
Your reaction to laugh it off as first is also concerning. It would instantly make me mad or take it as a moment about self reflection about myself and also why she can’t simply talk to you about those things.
That dinosaur comment about your kid has me baffled though…..
There is a technique of venting that includes short Journaling. She loves you and is using her vent app to channel temporary frustrations so they do not spill onto you. Sorry you found it, but we all leave a wet towel on the bed and breathe too loud or chew like a raccoon. He’ll, I bring the house down with my snoring, but the person I live with never mentions it unless I do. Forget you saw it.
Dude chill. She’s venting things she knows are too petty in the moment to complain about to you because she knows she shouldn’t say anything but wants to get it out. You effectively read her journal, congrats you’re actually the mean one. This is your fault for snooping.
The whole ‘ick’ trend from women is so devoid of self-awareness, it’s unreal. It seems to start from a basis of women being unquestionably perfect – because society tells them they are. Whereas us men – no, we are toxic and the cause of all of their woes.
There have been many statements made about your predicament over the years, some include:
curiosity killed the cat:
don’t ask questions, you don’t want the answer too:
don’t start none, won’t be none:
don’t go looking for things you aren’t ready for.
and now YOU”ve learned information that wasn’t ment for YOU, so how are YOU going to get over it, or do you want this to be a marriage ender? and now everytime she picks up her phone you are gonna think she is writing about you, and now she isn’t going to have any peace because you will now CHECK HER PHONE to see what else she’s added. Make sure you take note when she adds “keeps looking at my phone, i have no privacy”.
and you should check out the post from a few days ago about the guy that kept reading his wife’s diary and used that against her because she wasn’t allowed internal thoughts. Maybe read it, and NOT turn into that guy.
She sounds hilarious! I might start doing this too 😁
Try not to get in your head about it though, if it helps her & she’s not using it as a weapon during fights etc. let her have her thing.
Your wife needed a private place to vent to herself. She probably even wrote some of them so silly so she could look back and chuckle and reframe the negative thoughts she was having. You invaded her personal space by reading these. I have the feeling she knows this stuff is not crucial to her love for you and that’s why she didn’t actually bring them up. She just wanted to get them off her chest. Now you have to ask yourself if you can look past and get over what you saw and give her the space to vent to herself about little things or if this is going to be some kind of dealbreaker for you?
You know how people say wives remember everything their husbands did with exact time and date and will bring up stuff during arguments?
Well, you just found how technology helps those with bad memory.
She writes it there because she knows it’s slightly ridiculous she feels that way.
So instead of fighting with you over life-stuff… she writes it elsewhere, and it stays there instead of inside her head.
You’re going to annoy each other sometimes. It happens.
Let it go. There are so many more toxic ways she could handle these minor inconveniences.
Change your perspective – consider being glad she’s not nagging you…or setting your crocs on fire.
Side note- your wife is hilarious.
Leaving wet things on the bed is wild. Maybe the self awareness is good. Forget about the breathing stuff, try focusing on putting wet things away.
If you forget about the laundry, try making yourself a reminder that pops up on your phone every few days to check the laundry basket. Same thing for other tasks.
I got better at chores because it drove my husband bonkers that I was not good at it, especially at the part of finishing a job and not creating more mess following it. My best example is don’t just do dishes, dry around the sink afterwards and leave it tidy. Now people who don’t finish jobs annoy me, lol. WTF is doing dishes and leaving the kitchen a huge ass wet mess?!!? That’s bad for the countertops!
Also maybe consider if you do chew with your mouth open. I also personally pay attention to this one knowing that it is a pet peeve for my OH. I didn’t grow up thinking about it, but now I do to keep the peace. Along with not putting my elbows on the table anymore and trying to sit up straight, lol. Changing habits is possible and eventually you internalize it.
She isn’t telling you because she knows they’re insignificant and unimportant, she knows raising these issues would cause so many problems between you when they’re fleeting.
She way she has written them seems light and funny, they’re minor irritants and she writes them down to get it out of her system
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She doesn’t want to hold onto them because she values you so much more than she does leaving a towel on the bed.
Shes a weirdo.. plain simple
My dude, you deserve how you are feeling. She vents in her notes app when she frustrated with you. She doesn’t get revenge or yell, she doesn’t vent to friends or family and impacting how they view you and your relationship with her, she doesn’t try to make your house or life miserable.
You owe her an apology for the invasion of her privacy. If you think she’s not allowed to be annoyed, frustrated, or upset with you ever then you need to reevaluate if you are treating her as a person or a stepford wife.
See it this way: she stays with you despite your loud breathing and inconsiderate placing of wet towels. She loves you. Take the win.
Your wife is both a good writer and very funny. This list should make you love her more
Try to be better, otherwise you might lose this amazing woman
Dinosaurs were real homeslice.
I don’t think you’re being too sensitive with the breathing comments, sit down and have a conversation about it all, not an argument, a conversation – and listen to each other. You’re both allowed to feel. And this notes list has hurt you – she needs to understand that.
I’d also suggest prioritising some time away from your kid just for each other – a date night of sorts, regularly. If you don’t have any support network in place to help with that, look at other options – they don’t just have to be at night, can you get up ridiculously early one morning? Can you both take an afternoon off work together semi-regularly? You get the idea.
However…
>Forget the laundry unless it’s crying
…weaponised incompetence is not a reason to not do something. You’re a fully grown adult. With a child. Do you really forget, or do you just think you’ll leave it because your wife will do it? Kids need laundry doing more than once a week, he’s 4…you’ve had 4 years to work this out.
Also, the towel on the bed thing…guessing it’s something she’s mentioned more than a few times to you, and you don’t really see it as a big deal so shrug it off…if she’s mentioning something multiple times, it really bugs her and is a big deal for her if it’s not that big of a deal for you, why not just move it?
You both work, which means you both should be splitting everything 50/50 where possible, and yes, sometimes that’ll be 60/40 or 30/70…thats life, are you pulling your share?
Honestly I don’t see the problem maybe because I’m the wife that kind of feels her frustration LOL.
Not going to lie I laughed pretty hard at chews like a raccoon who plays no taxes😂🤣🤣🤣
My literal nickname for my man is Captain Obvious because even though it’s something simple or plain as day or right in front of you it doesn’t matter he still has to comment on it😂😂 honestly its harmless to me. You have to understand something women need to be able to vent about men because you guys drive us insane we love you but y’all just do some things I sometimes we just sit back and think what the f is wrong with you?
The moment you identified this was not meant for prying eyes is the moment you should have respected her privacy.
The only path forwards is to accept that you’re human and stop leaving your crap on the bed.
Might be helpful to sort out how you communicate about little things like this. I always tell my partner that if there’s something small that bugs them to let me know cause I want to do better, but they’re also aware that I’m human and give me the grace to have rough periods.
That is a bit odd to me and would hurt my feelings if I saw it. I would be overthinking everything I do! I think it’s more healthy to just realize that we all do things that annoy our partners and to let those things go. Building a list seems the opposite of that 😂 There might be some underlying communication issues or maybe she needs more from you around the house.
Shes just venting to the void. If shes using this the “right” way. These are things she feels for 2 secs and writes down to let the feeling go and not hold onto it. And if it was a big enough issue or cared for more than a few seconds she would probably bring it up. She might keep the daye logs and not delete them bc she finds them like you said funny or poetic and maybe she reads them back sometimes and chuckles like “ah, yes, I love this raccoon”
This is venting. Shes probably told you 50 times you leave the sponge in the sink. The rest are dumb shit she doesnt feel like starting a fight over that annoys her. My husband breathes too loudly too, but I love him!
I laughed pretty hard at the last paragraph soz
I keep a journal where I, among other things, vent about my wife. Because sometimes, I am a grumpy bastard and completely normal behavior will piss me off. Talking about it would serve no purpose, because the stuff that gets on my nerves is petty and nothing that she should even think about changing it (we are talking about as severe as your breathing to loudly). Venting those idiotic thoughts on paper helps with that.
I would be really pissed off if she read that stuff and on top of violating my privacy had the gall to make a fuss about it.
Which is to say: find a way to cope, youre reading her notes is much more severe than everything you found in the there.
I’m here for clarity on the dinosaur comment as well.
There’s a positive here (except for the hilarity) – at least you are now aware of things the irritate her, and you can choose to modify your behaviour if you wish.
Your wife sounds hilarious. The fact she’s using humor in her entries indicates an awareness that these are trivial, and she’s using a journal as intended: emotional regulation. Honestly, if my wife threatened to throw a fork at my soul because I was breathing too loud, I’d 1) laugh, and 2) get the Nasonex. She’s done nothing wrong here.
As for you, GTFO of people’s diaries. They’re essentially meant to be unfiltered thoughts. You’re accusing her of thought crimes at this point.
Also, wet towels on the bed? Dude, no one likes getting into damp sheets at night. You don’t need to overthink every little thing, just don’t be a slob.
P.S. Dinosaurs are real. Fight me.
How the fuck does a raccoon chew when it’s not paying taxes?
Yea YTA. This is on you for snooping.
People sometimes need to vent. Sometimes people KNOW they’re getting irrationally irritated by something and don’t bring it up to the person irritating them.
Frankly? Those notes amuse me, your wife seems pretty cool.
Calm the fuck down. Stop snooping without cause. pretend you never saw this.
EDIT to add: Dino’s are real, they’re just fucking dead. I assume this is what you meant.
Yeah, it makes sense that it hit you weird being the punchline in someone’s private vent log isn’t exactly fun. But it sounds like her notes are less about you and more about staying sane in the daily chaos. If it’s sitting heavy, it’s okay to say so, just without turning it into a fight. You don’t need your own list bro, you probably just need a little more space to feel like a teammate, not a target.( Those notes are making me crack man)
Honestly she sounds funny and it doesn’t sound like she hates you too much. Move along.
Well, don’t be nosy and read people’s journals. Just because you are married, doesn’t mean you’re privy to every single thought your wife has. The same goes for you. Learn to respect others’ space and perhaps she’ll have less to vent about.
Did it occur to you that your wife turning these things that annoy her into hilarious commentary is how she regulates her emotions as well as maintains her affection for you?
Plenty of spouses leave over the little things. In fact, most do. It’s the small inconsiderations that build up over time that eventually tire a person out, and then when spmethimg big happens that requires grace and understanding from both parties to manage, there’s nothing in the tank.
Keep breathing loudly, but maybe do something about the other stuff. And make your own funny observational list of things that she could reflect on to be more considerate for you. Don’t do it in a tit for tat. Wait a bit, leave it out somewhere she’ll find it. Maybe a ‘Spotted in the Wild’ sort of list mixed in with dinosaur sightings/proof. Something that says you’re a bit miffed, but you’re still a team and family.
And then never read things meant for you again.
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
You totally invaded her privacy by reading that. And now face the consequences.
It is up to her if and when she wants to bring things up. Sometimes it is enough to just write it down to get it out of your head, does not say anything about her love for you.
imho an apology and a promise to never invade her privacy again is in order. I would have a hard time trusting you after this.
Karma farming. Go away
My man. You’re overreacting. I love my husband to the ends of the earth, but also have a sensory processing disorder that means there are times when innocent noises and actions make me want to burn the entire world to the ground. I simply either tell him I’m overstimulated, or I’ll write it in my journal if he’s say sleeping or talking to his game friends.
Seriously. If your wife brought every one of those 40+ concerns to you, you’d be in here complaining what an insufferable nag she is criticizing your every move.
Lastly, dinosaurs? Wtf did they do to you?
June 26th: thinks dinosaurs are not real…. still breathing like a caveman.
Haha. Your wife is funny. I can see how that would be hurtful! We all think these things about people we are around all the time. They just stay in our head usually. The most private diary.
You don’t bring them up because you don’t want to hurt anyone, you don’t want to fight and you know you do things that bug others as well.
Take a breath, stay out of her private notes and learn the lesson you don’t really need to know what everyone is thinking all the time.
She probably looks at you at times and thinks really good things too.
Does she want you to make changes?
That’s the only relevant info.
Maybe the day you breathed too loud she was especially annoyed by life in general and she would have been irked by the sun shining too hot or the rain being too wet. You know, normal stuff that on that specific day you find unbearable because it’s a bad day. You know you’re being unreasonable, and you vent on your diary like a healthy adult.
Maybe she really wants you to stop leaving the sponge in the sink or wet socks on the bed.
Differentiate actual complaints from her random thoughts.
There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship where both parties never, ever get irritated or exasperated or slightly annoyed with each other. And it’s okay to have a vent space for screaming into the metaphorical void about things that wind you up irrationally in the moment, that you know aren’t really terrible issues. Scream (or write, or doodle) out the annoyance and get on with your day with no harm done. That’s what she’s doing. Not picking arguments, being passive-aggressive or venting to friends or relatives who could treat you differently.
And really, don’t leave wet things on the bed. It seeps through to the mattress and can cause mould. Which isn’t going to help your loud breathing during Bridgerton in the least. If you don’t want your soul en-forked, put your soggy towels in the laundry basket.
Well now you know not to read other people’s journals don’t you!!
Would you rather her vent in a (supposedly) private space or bottle everything up and then take it out on you.
Journals are meant for venting and processing. Read someone’s journal and live with the consequence.
You’re lucky that she didn’t take it as the major breach of trust that it is.
This is literally why you don’t read someone’s private notes or journal.
She’s allowed to have “impure” thoughts about the relationship, and about you.
Has she ever treated you like she’s angry about these things? Have you ever even noticed she noticed these things?
Cause it sounds like she’s been perfectly capable of having a thought of “man it’s annoying when he does x”, writes that down sometimes, and still never makes it your problem.
Can you honestly say you’ve never thought anything negative about her? Not once have you ever said to yourself “this is annoying” in regards to her behaviour?
People are allowed their private thoughts. The reason you shouldn’t snoop there is twofold, respect for your partner and their agency, and the knowledge that you might not love what you find while snooping.
Would you rather her journal or complain every time you did something to annoy her? If so tell her.
I think it’s healthy to have a journal like that. Most people talk to their friends or therapist or let it explode onto their partners in unhealthy ways
She loves you very much when your biggest flaws are racooning it
I will say tho, some of these things could be a gentle conversation like “sweety it really bothers me when the towel is on the bed, can you please try to remember to put it away so I don’t have to?”
She was writing it down exactly so that she wouldn’t constantly tell you to breathe less loud and potentially make you spiral like now
Sidenote: fuck it’s nice to see a healthy relationship on Reddit for once lol
She’s fucking awesome, you found a gem 😂
But also, dinosaurs are real. Tf? 🤨Tell her to add that to her list
Sounds like he’s married to Harriet the Spy, or someone inspired by her.
This is AI.
wait until menopause she’s a fruit loop now wait until after 50yo. If there’s no kids run hard, RUN fast. Don’t look back
Dinosaurs are real, they’re just all dead.
Think of this like her pooping after getting indigestion. You just walked in on her before she flushed.
Her new note is probably “Reads my Husband Chaos notes and won’t write his own Wife Chaos notes. I am going to set his crocs on fire for sure, now.”
My question is… is everything going okay otherwise? If she’s not exploding on you for no reason, and a lot of the minor annoyances aren’t building up into big ones… Then you’re good. She’s just getting her crap out and screaming into the void.
Everyone gets aggravated at their spouse at some point.
It’s usually not the spouses fault, but if you’re in an unhealthy relationship, that irrational irritation gets spewed back out on the spouse.
If you’re in a good relationship that’s working, the other spouse finds ways to mitigate their issues. Venting in a healthy manner. I.E. Making a funny journal so that you can look back and go “Wow, I was mad about THAT? Seriously?? WTF.”
In most cases the WTF’s are stuff that you’ll forget about completely once you vent it. But your goal isn’t to vent it on the spouse.
And I’m gonna add one more thing….
She’s funny AF. She should turn this into a book so that the rest of us can cackle at her observances. (But you definitely should not be reading it, even if it becomes famous.)
She is keeping a tally of all things you do that piss her off great, where the list of all the good things you do. All the stuff she takes for granted. F her. I’d be pissed and stop doing anything. She can either talk to me like an adult or move the fuck out.
I do everything at my house, and pay all the bills, so if I found this list, I’d add, he kicked me out today, and let her read it.
Journaling is healthy, this list of complaints is not.
tf you mean you don’t think dinosaurs are real? do you mean he thinks they are still alive today? please tell me that’s what you mean
Honestly, this is a great way to deal with emotions in the moment. Write it down and read it later, laugh at how ridiculous it is, then move on.
the breathing too loud entry was definitely added during a luteal phase.
she’s venting about the little things in a private way that let’s her get her frustration out without involving others so she can move on from those feelings.
she must have been in her luteal phase when she wrote these lol. maybe i should start a list to vent when i’m annoyed about how my husband plops on the couch. i absolutely hate it but it’s too dumb and nitpicky to say anything about it.
try not to spiral. she knows these things are unreasonable to actually bring up, i’m guessing these thoughts/feelings are fleeting and most of the time she’s okay with how you breathe, etc. so she’s managing her feelings by venting to a journal. this is something journaling is great for – it gets our feelings out and away without hurting the other person. if you don’t want to know these things then you shouldn’t snoop on someone’s private notes 😬. try to have a laugh about it (your wife sounds really funny) and go on living your life as if you didn’t find this. maybe dress up as a raccoon for halloween.
There’s a whole app for this?
It honestly seems like she is just getting her little petty annoyances out instead complaining to you about little things.
But the towel would be pretty gross.
This is really funny and I just messaged my partner I’d pay money for these tales on me because they’d be hilariously true. Part of the fun and stress of sharing a space.
🤣🤣🤣 your wife is hilarious. The way she phrases things is priceless. I don’t say this often, but yes I do believe you’re overthinking this. Us humans have endless annoying things that we do. She’s found a creative, and healthy outlet for her minor frustrations. It’s really not that serious, which is also something I don’t say often. This is totally not something to trip off of. And could actually be a good communication tool if you wanted to start your own diary. You can laugh and grow together. No one’s perfect, we’re all annoying at times. She’s not bashing you, or degrading you. She’s just randomly venting her experiences, and then carrying on with life.
A friend of mine has a theory about this, actually has a comedy routine about it.
Men are dogs. Eat, sniff stuff, hang out with my human, chase cats, sleep. Life is simple.
Women are cats on meth.
Pet me, pay attention to me, but don’t touch me.
I’m hungry, but I want a slave to feed me, then I’ll reject it.
My slave has something nice, I must shred it!
I have 100 cat toys, but I’m bored. Time to knock glassware off the shelves.
How DARE that dog take a peaceful nap! This means WAR!
I have no idea why I ran in the room, bit that human and ran right back out… The human MUST have deserved it…
I will neither confirm or deny I agree with any of this.
This is a great idea. I will now start a complaint notes about my significant other immediately. Completely brilliant.
Oh my, I have one to, and am terrified my hubby would find it and think it’s serious. Cos of course he can drink his things however he likes, but I still dislike the sound of someone drinking. I’m not gonna mention it to him, because I DON’T WANT HIM TO CHANGE, I just want to be annoyed for a while and then I’m done.
Hahah. Your wife is funny.
I think you are both exhausted, and it’s natural to be unreasonably annoyed at small things. Personally, I wouldn’t worry too much. She needs to vent about things that aren’t serious enough to bring up with you. How do you tell your partner they are breathing too loud?! Lmao. I would bet that she knows that these things are unreasonable thoughts, but she needs to express them somewhere.
You may want to talk to her about it. She’ll probably be mortified.
I find it harmless. Imagine she’d bring it up every time you do something to annoy her? You’d be at each other’s throats all the damn time.
Annoying each other comes with the territory when you live together, especially when you work full-time and have a child to raise.
I’d interpret it that you two are stressed. Who in your situation would not be?
Are you two doing things to relax, destress and connect as a couple? Can you drop off the little one with family or a sitter a couple times a month?
Your body needs water and food, your mind needs me-time and your relationship needs time spent as couple. See to it that you both remember that.
Okay, so two things. First, I need you to explain the dinosaurs comment. Do you mean are still alive or never existed?
This is the equivalent of a diary. It’s healthy to get your feelings out and not explode on your partner over something that she knows is trivial. This is what you get when you invade her privacy.
Now seriously, explain the dinosaurs comment.
June 26 : had to explain once again that dinosaurs were real
She sounds insane.
When you’re in love, you find the most annoying things really endearing.
I hope she isn’t using you.
Are you rich?
It’s really odd and offensive honestly.
The only time someone has hated every single thing i did, it was envious bullies, not friends nor someone who loved me.
She sounds like she secretly hates you and is just there to use you….
You’re not being oversensitive, she’s mentally a teenager still. Building a little resentment folder isn’t a healthy coping mechanism. Fuck that.
probably going to get downvoted for this but this is insane. do we all complain about our partners? yes. do some of us do it in a journal? also yes. but it seems this is almost every day and she also doesn’t tell you any of this is bothering her. it’s also super small things, which can be a sign that something bigger is bothering her. it almost sounds like she hates you. idk, if i found this i couldn’t look at my partner the same.
I felt the towel thing in my soul – my partner does it too lol. It might be hurtful to find out she sometimes think these things about you, but I’m sure at times you are annoyed or frustrated with her too. She is dealing with those feelings in a healthy way though – instead of fighting with you or screaming at you over it, nagging, complaining about it to over people – she deals with those feelings by herself in her writing. Writing is known as a great way to process feelings. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t love you – it just means that sometimes living with another person can be rough. And she needs her time and space to process things – in her case through writing. You need to remember that her writing was not meant to your eyes – she never meant to hurt you. If what you read made you feel insecure – talk to her about it. Apologies for reading her diary, and tell her how reading that made you overthink everything you do. Talk about how you both feel.
Nah, this is normal. You have to pick your battles imagine if every single slight you committed was called out and argued about in real time.
Sometimes is not about what you did but more about other things that were going on. Hungry, not enough sleep, stress… suddenly someone is breathing too loud while you’re trying to watch the climax to a tv show you were looking forward too and it just fills you with rage. You’re allowed to breath but she isn’t allowed to get upset and ruin you day because of it.
It’s a very healthy way to let got of small issues. If she wanted to fight you she would have
Dinosaurs were real and have living relatives today. Please tell your wife that I’ve got a list for my own husband, and I think she and I should compare notes.
Tell your wife I said thank you for the inspiration.