I’m 27, my wife is 29
We had an 18 month engagement and lived together the whole time. We married 18 months ago on new years
She’s perfect in every way, she doesn’t drive is really the only annoying thing but it doesn’t even bother me anymore. We do a lot together, almost everything to be exact
We moved bought a house a year ago. Once we moved in, she absolutely stopped cooking, cleaning, vacuuming, and any housework
No, she doesn’t work. Her part time job at the school cafeteria, imo doesn’t count as she’s only there when someone calls out so maybe 1 shift every other month
Anyway, 6 months into the marriage, I discover my extremely narcissistic mother in law has a guardianship over my wife and was receiving 1k a month for care of her ward from social security.
I kicked her out,cthen the night before my attorney appointment we made up and her mother said wlshe would end it
Well, a year later, now, she never did. I found out because her sister came over while we were playing a video game and said (my wife) come with me, it’ll only be 10 minutes. She went her real estate office and came back. Apparently she gave her printed a copy of her February bank statement (glad I took her off my accounts a year ago they’d all see my money if I didnt ), and I asked wife why, she didn’t know she just gave because they asked. So I made her ask why, she was directed to her mother and her mother said it’s for Medicaid.
I can’t deal with this again, this is too much. For one that means her mother has stolen well over 35k from her daughter (I read the paperwork, it’s actually supposed to go to me, but since its all fraud, no one should ge it, legally once marriage happens its supposed to be with the husband or immediately dissolved)
I accidentally managed to transfer that to me(I didn’t know what it was) and I got 1 payment when we updated her marriage with social security, but her mother transfered it back and that’s when we found out
I’m pretty sure her sister is in on it too, they are all super close with tight knit family. They all go on girls trips regularly, etc
I know for a fact mother in law asked neighbors to spy on me and they actually told her to f*** off then proceeded to let me know
No wife will not put foot down, she was brainwashed her whole life to think this is normal, and fixing this would require her to actually say this is enough and kick her entire family on her mom’s side and all her friends out of her life. Wife also has asburgers
Also, the weird thing is, I feel like the marriage ended a whole ago when we moved into the house and she quit cooking and cleaning and started the I got a headache. So I really don’t feel bad. I’m just wondering if I will regret this
I want children, but I no longer see myself wanting kids with this family. The mother in law is so controlling and narcissistic, and the wife just dies every command, even cancels vacations and dates to do what her mom says. She tried to control me, but I blasted it so much that her friends overheard it and she went so red in the face she no longer tries to control or even initiate conversation with me now
I have made it very clear to these people that this crap isn’t ok, but apparently my feelings and wanting a normal marriage don’t matter. I was actually told by the mother in law a year ago she had it since wife turned 18
TLDR I’m seeking advice, questions, experiences, and will I ever find love again? I’m 27 with no kids, but now I’m practically a used car
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Would you be willing to do the two cards (counseling or divorce)? How does your wife have money without working? Would you be liable for alimony?
You need to contact a lawyer ASAP. If your wife is in guardianship, your marriage may not be legally valid. Nor any other legal contract (like loans, credit cards, or leases).