As an European female I find it weird that no one approaches anyone, no one looks at anyone, flirting is almost non existent here… i dont get it 🤷♀️ how the hell do yall meet each other?
Then American women complain about it, but accuse men of being “creepy” if they try talking to them? 🤔
Why American men dont approach?
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Women: “don’t approach us, it’s creepy”
Also women: “why don’t men approach us?”
Well that’s kinda why we don’t.
Because American women can (not all of course) be absolutely fucking awful when rejecting us, and will call us creepy even if we weren’t being so, so we learn to not even try because of the risk of being made a fool.
You answered your own question.
It wasn’t this way when I was younger in the 90s/2000s. I think it changed around the Me Too time, when men were shamed as creepy for approaching women they were interested in.
Rage bait post trying to stir up comments.
The women here got brainwashed by feminism and everything men do is creepy or sexual harassment.
You’ll probably have to do the approaching if you want the kind of man you want.
And it’s not that men don’t approach anymore. It’s that most of us don’t approach them. I do approach when I leave the country. 🙂
Never saw a point. I always met enough people through friends of friends, school later work, etc… those we know each other at least by rep and it’s easy to get a feel for what might work out.
Why bother with randos?
I have stopped approaching women for the longest time now, and I’ve only dated one woman for 3 months in the past 4-5 years. Prior to this I was quite social and had a few relationships/hookups.
Women in America have weaponized sex. It is not worth the risk of being accused of harassment or rape. I’d rather be single and just enjoy my life and jerk off, than risk meeting the wrong woman and having her destroy my entire life on a whim.
Even when you try to just be cordial to them, for example in a work setting, not being attracted to them somehow damages their ego so much they start to treat you like shit. It is insane, no thanks.
My guess? American men are paralyzed and traumatized by the culture here in the US with regards to woman. We have to tread very carefully on how and when to engage with females. Remember: The country was founded by Puritans who had a very different view of sex and nudity. That stigma is here hundreds of years later. We are also tired of hearing “ I have a boyfriend” etc. It’s exhausting. So I imagine many gave up?
I love how European women EMBRACE their beauty and sexuality.
You haven’t encountered American “pickup artists” yet…
When you do, you’ll wish that they didn’t approach you because of how gross it’ll be lol
You kinda just answered your own question lol 😅. Sadly a common thought among men in the current social climate is that there’s a little too much risk in approaching random women. Assuming you’re not actually weird or creepy, it’s like a coin flip whether or not your attention is gonna be received well. It’s just less stressful and zero risk keeping to yourself 🤷🏾♂️
Ok, let’s answer your question with another question: Why don’t you, as a European woman, approach American men? How do you expect to meet other people?
It’s an ouroboros of a situation. Men are awkward when they approach, women read it as creepy, men feel less desirous of approaching for fear of looking creepy. Then there are the actual horror stories of actual creeps, and overreactions to advances that end up painting everyone into a corner.
Honestly there’s a lot of reasons for it but a lot of it boils down to lack of confidence, lack of communication skills, actual assholes ruining the social sphere for us all, and the inability to read flirting for what it is and usually mistaking it to be friendliness.
you answered your own question.
You answered your own question
Morbid obesity is the answer.
Try to gravitate around them.
They beat us down.
Yeah it’s extremely unfortunate but it is what it is fr. At least it will invite women to start approaching themselves. Bring back dropping the handkerchief for something
Feminism, MeToo, and the women-are-wonderful effect have made the juice no longer worth the squeeze, when it comes to most American women.
How often are you approached by men you don’t want to talk to?
I think most people today get together through apps and mutual friend setups.
Yes, our culture now is that every man is some type of creep. Men have adapted to this recent idea and simply don’t bother taking the risk. All the power to you brothers, save your money 😂✊
A lot of people are meeting now via dating apps if they’re not good at socializing with new people. It makes dating more direct since there’s supposed to be an attraction from the get go. Plus, the brainwashing companies can make their money as Corporate America does.
This looks like rage bait, enjoy the free karma
Because they’re an incomprehensible mass of contradictions. A losing battle made manifest.
In general, not interested in American women.
We’ve been told for years that women don’t want to be approached, they kept telling us how annoying (or even threatening) it was to have guys come up and talk to them when we should just assume they want to be left alone. Lot of us listened.
>how the hell do yall meet each other?
We don’t lmao. Lot of people use apps which are trash at best. But right now socialization of all kinds are at abysmal levels. People just aren’t meeting each other in third spaces anymore.
You answered your own question in your comment FYI.
welcome to the culture shock! we’re conditioned not to approach anyone because it’s potentially creepy. meanwhile in well adjusted countries, it’s normal for random humans to strike up a conversation with each other.
I did approach alot and after getting denied for years i stopped and got hobbies.
It may be a semi unintended consequence of MeToo