Most obscure or extreme fetishes are hard to find a committed partner for, I have found. It’s simply because unfortunately more often than not, having some kind of “depraved” sexual desire or interest seems to be more in line with hedonistic type people who just want casual sex and no committed relationship. It’s often hard to find someone who is interested in the kink or fetish but also wants to settle down, get married, be committed etc. Also if you are someone who is only casually into the kink, or likes it a little bit, most people into it are almost obsessive about it and want to do it all the time during every sexual encounter, or even outside of sex.
That’s been my experience with the handful of extreme kinks I have at least.
I don’t know if it counts as a fetish, but what turns me on the most is what you can’t see. What is implied. What you hear from another room, what someone whispers in your ear, what I read, what is about to happen but doesn’t happen. It excites me more to imagine than to see. And that’s hard to find in porn, or in someone who knows how to maintain that joy without rushing it.
I know it’s simple but BDSM….every guy says they’re into it and then they’re like “so you like being choked?” Like yes Brian I also enjoy being whipped until I bleed but I’m guessing you’ve never made it that far
Face/ear licking. Plenty of ASMR exists but it’s just not the same. Very rare to find good videos of it that don’t focus much more heavily on other kinks. And partners are like… Eh no most of the time
I mean, a lot of porn situations are difficult if not impossible for average people. Double penetration comes to mind (vaginal and anal). There are 6 legs back there, they all have to be somewhere and not overlap. Not to mention the one in the middle needs to have cleaned out.
For me it’s facials. Most people at…multi person events…dont want to finish because of high refractory periods. Once they’re done they’re done for like 3 hours. If they are up to it they likely haven’t been saving up so not much comes out.
Reading threads like this, makes me happy that my brain is wired to be quite vanilla in terms of what I like personally. I don’t struggle – although I have preferences but I’ve been around on the internet since porn was pictures you’d have to wait to download so I can find whatever I like very easily. My SO is in tune with my kink so I suppose I’m really lucky.
I really like passionate emotionally complex intimacy. It happens to work alongside a pretty wide range of kinks, but it doesn’t work with a long term partner very easily and porn always goes the depraved route.
Romance movies do a much better job, but they’re obviously not designed with climax in mind.
A vanilla example would be a guy trying to stay away from his older sister’s friend, but his sense of duty to his sister and the friend’s sense of taboo of being with a younger guy aren’t enough to keep them apart when left alone one night. They guiltily embrace not being able to stop themselves, and just hope while they fulfill their passion that the world can forget their transgression.
Not really the kind of stuff you can do when you’re married, and porn just goes “hot sister friend! monkey noises“
i’ve always liked women’s hair, really long, wavy, mostly girls that dance and flip it around a lot.
i don’t really know what i want, besides running my hands through it. there is no hair porn, outside i think a woman that has grown hers down to her feet and has sex. that doesn’t do anything for me.
i know that this is my thing because one late night i ran across the Adult Swim show “Off The Air” and it was an episode called “Hair” and i remember being incredibly turned on by the title crawl and then completely let down because nothing that followed was even tangentially erotic.
This is gonna sound lame as hell, but for me? Real, genuine romance. Foreplay with inside jokes and gentle physical and verbal teasing. I’m asexual in that I don’t enjoy physicality with other people, but I do enjoy a really in-love couple. The actual sex is WAY less interesting to me than the romance and fun they’re having. That’s where I think it enters “weird kink” territory, because it’s not about the sex so much as the enjoyment and love. Honestly, I find this kind of stuff more in softcore, because they have to really focus on the intimacy since they don’t show the explicit stuff.
Jerk off buddies. Harder to find than I thought it would be. Yes, I know there’s apps, but I just want someone to move in next door or meet them at work or something, and have it happen naturally.
I love women with huge titties bro. I don’t mean inflated balloon style neither, I’m talking big, wanky, sagging types. I also love chubby girls something fierce, they tend to have really pretty, round faces.
I don’t know if it’s a kink but it’s such a preference that everything else feels bland by comparison.
Like if big Hollywood blockbuster movies with good story and production value had detailed and explicit sex scenes like you see in pornos. And didn’t shy away from taboo topics.
For example I find movie sex scenes hotter as it has establish the emotional connection between the characters for the last hour. And this is just an expression of this emotion. And I wish they could go all the way instead of artistically dancing around that pg-13 sticker
I struggle to find any good bi mmf porn.
I feel like most bisexual mmf is either two twinks fucking and a girl fingering herself on the side, or a guy getting cucked with some fuck licking.
Would love to find some stuff where everyone is getting equal action.
I also rarely see full figured women/ big tits in bi mmf, its almost always a very petite, small chested girl.
Would also just love to find hot 40-something people fucking. Like a hot dude with a dad bod and a milf.
More stuff akin to Manuel Ferrara and Angela White’s videos, that shit is hot af. (Yes AW is super popular but she isnt all filled with plastic like other women in the industry around her age and MF isnt as corny as people like danny d or jordy)
Premature ejaculation, but without any degrading. Just oral or sex that starts and ends super fast. Ultimate quickies and the girl enjoys it too. Love when they time it even to see how fast they can make them cum
I like swinging. But I don’t like cuckold. Is very hard to find the first one that doesn’t degrade into the other. I don’t like humiliation, raceplay, or anything that means degrading each other.
I rarely find good porn about it and definitely harder to find a partner to talk about it.
Finding someone who will genuinely be aggressive with me. I want to be slapped, hit, & thrown around/used like an object. My boyfriends aren’t into it & it suuuuucks.
I want to believe they are romantically involved. That film industry has a reputation for poor acting, and that makes my search a challenge.
Give me flirting across the table before running to bed. Make me feel her excitement when he tears her blouse off. I want to be convinced the actors have known each other for years when she whispers “I love you” before the camera cuts to another scene.
I’ve whacked off the Black Lives Matter porn. Yes, it’s a thing, yes, there’s not much of it. It’s usually a black guy having sex with a white girl who’s moaning,”black lives matter….black lives matter”.
“That’s right bitch, what did you say, say it louder.”
I have a very specific fantasy of having sex in an apartment on the highest floor of a building, with big windows, watching the rain. It’s harder to get done than you would think
CNC for sure. With porn, it’s so over-the-top and dramatised and that really puts me off. Irl, I’ve yet to find a partner who has been comfortable with the idea unfortunately.
Not obscure at all, but just didn’t find it yet. Naturally dominant woman. And I’m not talking about paid “professionals” and such. A woman that is really dominant and when we make out, she grabs my dick, throws me on the bed and fucks me. Contrary to reddit norms, I have lots of sex but in more than 100 partners, never found a dominant one
All the wild kinks in here and the one I always had trouble finding was gentle and tender love making instead of rough or super sexy sex.
I like tender slow caring sexy times, but most people are really impatient and like what I feel is “angry” sex.
Probably haven’t said this well, its no disrespect to anyone, but the VAST majority of people just don’t seem to be into patient and tender or gentle sexy times
First, when the woman is actually legitimately enjoying sex. Not the fake porn jackhammering sounds like an alarm clock kinda enjoyment. Actual, genuine enjoyment.
Second, when a woman is “teaching” the man what to do. Idk why, but this has always turned me on. Something about power dynamics? It’s not exactly BDSM or Femdom. Beyond order the man not to cum, it’s not really orders either. It’s kinda hard to explain. It’s just, softer than BDSM or Femdom. And sometimes, I want to turn my brain off and listen to the “teachings”. Sure they’re JOIs, and they somewhat hit the spot, but I still prefer when they’re “teaching” me how.
For porn, i really just want a real drama with real sex. I’ve never found something like that.
For partners, I want someone whos actually into hardcore sex. Bruises, slaps, real marks left behind. I wanna be thrown through plexi glass and wrestled in a dark alley but god forbid a woman has a kink
A mommy dom kink. Like someone who takes command not just in sex but out of it. Like being told what to wear. What we are going to play. What movie to watch, praising me a lot. Deciding what to eat for us. I don’t like making decisions
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Public rave play
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I enjoy a good booty hole unfortunately
Breastfeeding
Professional wrestling.
There are actually several “fetish wrestling” producers, but it’s really all just ballbusting, grappling, and whump but with costumes.
That’s not what I find sexy about wrestling.
I guess I’d have to say food play or ice cube play.
Sharing my nudes with her friends in a group chat and sending me the screenshots of what everyone says.
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Porn for prostate cancer survivors.
Overdue library books
Being loved
CNC and piss play. It’s rare to find porn who get the seriousness and intensity I want
Getting a lot of things done in a day.
My kink is actually anti-kink hate speech. Weird I know
Breeding
I like nice people
body worshiping but more from female pov not from a 3rd person and any porn where the guy has natural grunts/moans
Sleep sex
Most obscure or extreme fetishes are hard to find a committed partner for, I have found. It’s simply because unfortunately more often than not, having some kind of “depraved” sexual desire or interest seems to be more in line with hedonistic type people who just want casual sex and no committed relationship. It’s often hard to find someone who is interested in the kink or fetish but also wants to settle down, get married, be committed etc. Also if you are someone who is only casually into the kink, or likes it a little bit, most people into it are almost obsessive about it and want to do it all the time during every sexual encounter, or even outside of sex.
That’s been my experience with the handful of extreme kinks I have at least.
I don’t know if it counts as a fetish, but what turns me on the most is what you can’t see. What is implied. What you hear from another room, what someone whispers in your ear, what I read, what is about to happen but doesn’t happen. It excites me more to imagine than to see. And that’s hard to find in porn, or in someone who knows how to maintain that joy without rushing it.
Cnc with a partner
Don’t know if it’s a kink, but mom bods are hot! 🔥
Period drama roleplay where they say things like ‘you’ve dishonored the crown’ while unbuttoning a corset
CNC and fighting…
Virtual reality POV from a woman’s POV. My wife wants this.
Being a sub and having a FLR with a muscular woman
I wish my husband would be into guys so I could have all my holes filled at once.
I know it’s simple but BDSM….every guy says they’re into it and then they’re like “so you like being choked?” Like yes Brian I also enjoy being whipped until I bleed but I’m guessing you’ve never made it that far
i struggle to find twinks that are not gay
Hooking up with horny redditors on Ask Reddit threads about all the sex we’re not having.
Bald women
Face/ear licking. Plenty of ASMR exists but it’s just not the same. Very rare to find good videos of it that don’t focus much more heavily on other kinks. And partners are like… Eh no most of the time
Pegging and anal sex
I have a sensitive nose… I love the smell of pussy and when I encounter women I find attractive I want to know what they smell like down there.
I mean, a lot of porn situations are difficult if not impossible for average people. Double penetration comes to mind (vaginal and anal). There are 6 legs back there, they all have to be somewhere and not overlap. Not to mention the one in the middle needs to have cleaned out.
For me it’s facials. Most people at…multi person events…dont want to finish because of high refractory periods. Once they’re done they’re done for like 3 hours. If they are up to it they likely haven’t been saving up so not much comes out.
Pulling off the condom midsex
Senior administrative nurses
Half and half. Basically when the Creampie begins in one girl and is finished in another
Reading threads like this, makes me happy that my brain is wired to be quite vanilla in terms of what I like personally. I don’t struggle – although I have preferences but I’ve been around on the internet since porn was pictures you’d have to wait to download so I can find whatever I like very easily. My SO is in tune with my kink so I suppose I’m really lucky.
Breeding kink / plenty of this in porn though for obvious reasons it’s almost impossible to find a good partner to carry this out with.
Mermaids
I really like passionate emotionally complex intimacy. It happens to work alongside a pretty wide range of kinks, but it doesn’t work with a long term partner very easily and porn always goes the depraved route.
Romance movies do a much better job, but they’re obviously not designed with climax in mind.
A vanilla example would be a guy trying to stay away from his older sister’s friend, but his sense of duty to his sister and the friend’s sense of taboo of being with a younger guy aren’t enough to keep them apart when left alone one night. They guiltily embrace not being able to stop themselves, and just hope while they fulfill their passion that the world can forget their transgression.
Not really the kind of stuff you can do when you’re married, and porn just goes “hot sister friend! monkey noises“
Too specific to search, too weird to explain. I suffer in silence 😔
Hair.
i’ve always liked women’s hair, really long, wavy, mostly girls that dance and flip it around a lot.
i don’t really know what i want, besides running my hands through it. there is no hair porn, outside i think a woman that has grown hers down to her feet and has sex. that doesn’t do anything for me.
i know that this is my thing because one late night i ran across the Adult Swim show “Off The Air” and it was an episode called “Hair” and i remember being incredibly turned on by the title crawl and then completely let down because nothing that followed was even tangentially erotic.
https://youtu.be/aLA7AlnDftE?si=3O-sRRuzOS86bQFL&t=86
Well-dressed women and cocaine fueled sex.
I like to relive the glory days without having to worry about a heart attack or fentanyl.
Finding a female rubberist who wants a relationship is nigh impossible.
This is gonna sound lame as hell, but for me? Real, genuine romance. Foreplay with inside jokes and gentle physical and verbal teasing. I’m asexual in that I don’t enjoy physicality with other people, but I do enjoy a really in-love couple. The actual sex is WAY less interesting to me than the romance and fun they’re having. That’s where I think it enters “weird kink” territory, because it’s not about the sex so much as the enjoyment and love. Honestly, I find this kind of stuff more in softcore, because they have to really focus on the intimacy since they don’t show the explicit stuff.
Girls stroking my/a guy’s balls during sex. Not BJs or HJs, but sex itself.
Some girls are a bit uncomfortable doing it IRL as they don’t seem sure whether to yank, just rest a hand on them, or somewhere in between.
In porn, it’s hard to search for as it’s more of a sideshow to the main event to some people.
Getting 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep
I have a thing for thicc Latinas in shorts wearing brand new sneakers, like black Vans or Nikes. Yes, I know I need therapy
Just getting to have any sex at all is a kink right now
Jerk off buddies. Harder to find than I thought it would be. Yes, I know there’s apps, but I just want someone to move in next door or meet them at work or something, and have it happen naturally.
I love women with huge titties bro. I don’t mean inflated balloon style neither, I’m talking big, wanky, sagging types. I also love chubby girls something fierce, they tend to have really pretty, round faces.
I don’t know if it’s a kink but it’s such a preference that everything else feels bland by comparison.
A porn with a good story.
Like if big Hollywood blockbuster movies with good story and production value had detailed and explicit sex scenes like you see in pornos. And didn’t shy away from taboo topics.
For example I find movie sex scenes hotter as it has establish the emotional connection between the characters for the last hour. And this is just an expression of this emotion. And I wish they could go all the way instead of artistically dancing around that pg-13 sticker
Where’s the wet floor sign guy
Feeling loved and cared for
This guy said period drama role play and now I fear this might be it
It’s really hard to find women actually enjoying sex instead of just pretending. Strong turn off
Girls reacting to porn and actually getting off. Carly Summers’s videos awakened something in me and there just isn’t much out there.
Men having their asses played with in straight porn outside of fetish content. Men moaning and whimpering.
This
https://www.reddit.com/r/MMF_FFM_Threesome/s/PT0yoZgSvj
Taking me to a high-end jewelry store, and telling me to pick out whatever I want. It makes me feel special.
I struggle to find any good bi mmf porn.
I feel like most bisexual mmf is either two twinks fucking and a girl fingering herself on the side, or a guy getting cucked with some fuck licking.
Would love to find some stuff where everyone is getting equal action.
I also rarely see full figured women/ big tits in bi mmf, its almost always a very petite, small chested girl.
Would also just love to find hot 40-something people fucking. Like a hot dude with a dad bod and a milf.
More stuff akin to Manuel Ferrara and Angela White’s videos, that shit is hot af. (Yes AW is super popular but she isnt all filled with plastic like other women in the industry around her age and MF isnt as corny as people like danny d or jordy)
Im a simple man, all i want is categories added for “Glasses” and “Some Bush”. Not full on grizzly bear snatch, but some hair please.
CNC
Premature ejaculation, but without any degrading. Just oral or sex that starts and ends super fast. Ultimate quickies and the girl enjoys it too. Love when they time it even to see how fast they can make them cum
Pegging specifically by chubby big women but in a kind and caring and non-leather-or-bdsm way. Like kind, caring, but also also just sweet and gentle
I like swinging. But I don’t like cuckold. Is very hard to find the first one that doesn’t degrade into the other. I don’t like humiliation, raceplay, or anything that means degrading each other.
I rarely find good porn about it and definitely harder to find a partner to talk about it.
Deep, intense eye contact/sex gaze that implies a strong submissive bond
I had one ex who told me that eye contact and my nonstop whining and dirty talking made it hard to cum, he preferred 0 eye contact and talking.
The next guy loved it but I just got the sense that I could never fully be vulnerable with him.
Finding someone who will genuinely be aggressive with me. I want to be slapped, hit, & thrown around/used like an object. My boyfriends aren’t into it & it suuuuucks.
I want to believe they are romantically involved. That film industry has a reputation for poor acting, and that makes my search a challenge.
Give me flirting across the table before running to bed. Make me feel her excitement when he tears her blouse off. I want to be convinced the actors have known each other for years when she whispers “I love you” before the camera cuts to another scene.
I’ve whacked off the Black Lives Matter porn. Yes, it’s a thing, yes, there’s not much of it. It’s usually a black guy having sex with a white girl who’s moaning,”black lives matter….black lives matter”.
“That’s right bitch, what did you say, say it louder.”
“BLACK LIVES MATTER!”
I’m not saying it was proudest load.
Not easy to search for but I’ve recently started to love it when two bottoms are just gettin’ it, and they’re facing each other and kissing.
Cuddling and dry humping like a couple of teenagers.
I have a very specific fantasy of having sex in an apartment on the highest floor of a building, with big windows, watching the rain. It’s harder to get done than you would think
CNC for sure. With porn, it’s so over-the-top and dramatised and that really puts me off. Irl, I’ve yet to find a partner who has been comfortable with the idea unfortunately.
Simply vomit on me, ever so gently, while I humiliate a pheasant
Not obscure at all, but just didn’t find it yet. Naturally dominant woman. And I’m not talking about paid “professionals” and such. A woman that is really dominant and when we make out, she grabs my dick, throws me on the bed and fucks me. Contrary to reddit norms, I have lots of sex but in more than 100 partners, never found a dominant one
Femdom horror. Most of the porn labeled as horror just has a woman in a cheap monster costume who doesn’t really try to be scary.
All the wild kinks in here and the one I always had trouble finding was gentle and tender love making instead of rough or super sexy sex.
I like tender slow caring sexy times, but most people are really impatient and like what I feel is “angry” sex.
Probably haven’t said this well, its no disrespect to anyone, but the VAST majority of people just don’t seem to be into patient and tender or gentle sexy times
Two kinds.
First, when the woman is actually legitimately enjoying sex. Not the fake porn jackhammering sounds like an alarm clock kinda enjoyment. Actual, genuine enjoyment.
Second, when a woman is “teaching” the man what to do. Idk why, but this has always turned me on. Something about power dynamics? It’s not exactly BDSM or Femdom. Beyond order the man not to cum, it’s not really orders either. It’s kinda hard to explain. It’s just, softer than BDSM or Femdom. And sometimes, I want to turn my brain off and listen to the “teachings”. Sure they’re JOIs, and they somewhat hit the spot, but I still prefer when they’re “teaching” me how.
For porn, i really just want a real drama with real sex. I’ve never found something like that.
For partners, I want someone whos actually into hardcore sex. Bruises, slaps, real marks left behind. I wanna be thrown through plexi glass and wrestled in a dark alley but god forbid a woman has a kink
somnophilia >.>
A mommy dom kink. Like someone who takes command not just in sex but out of it. Like being told what to wear. What we are going to play. What movie to watch, praising me a lot. Deciding what to eat for us. I don’t like making decisions
I want to find people to go hiking with.
Naked.