Hopelessness/depression to the point where suicide seems blissful. Been there a handful of times, acted twice, and it sucks. Words of encouragement feel invalidating. Nothing brings you joy, and you’re stuck in a constant loop of trying to maintain a logical approach and battling the emotional lows that eventually turn numb.
Are we talking physical or mental? Because being left at the hospital with your new baby by your husband is top tier in the emotional fuckup category 😑
Gout. It is excruciating, debilitating and constant. There is no working through it, pain pills won’t help, only prescription meds that are targeted towards Gout can slowly provide you with relief, but if you don’t get the meds in time you they will not be effective for days or even weeks. I don’t wish it on my worst enemy .
Homelessness just know there’s people out there that have no family or loved ones to welcome them to a warm home or help them out in a time of need. It’s HARD being 100% independent… I mean true independent.
Death of someone you loved/someone who loved you in return in a healthy way (whether human or pet). Sometimes that understanding comes too early in life, sometimes quite late.
Either way, for most of us, it changes you and how you look at your life and the lives of others, forever.
stillbirth. my wife and I are both black-hearted Registered Nurses, so now we can joke about it…but we weren’t prepared at all. born on my half birthday, and she looked so much like me. that shit stings like nothing else.
Shingles. Get ready for three weeks with no sleep, constant pain and irritation and there is physicaly no way to position yourself to minimize the discomfort. I got it when I was 28, at a time I was under alot of stress and it really has a rough time with the affliction.
Not sure if the new vaccine works, but at the time there was no way out but working through it.
Losing a loved one, missing them and then forgetting how hard the grief hits you and when it happens again you remember instantly how hard the grief hits and wonder how you forgot that in the 1st place.
Becoming chronically sick, disabled or going through a life threatening illness. It changes the way you see the world and life. And you become hyper aware of how fragile and fleeting life-as-you-know-it can be
going a diff route, mental illness bc a job/sleep deprivation. Not sleeping is not somethng to fuck with. U can take the smartest kindest person, and u make them not sleep for honestly not that long of a period and ull see how fucked they get. If u make that years? its a train wreck
For me, it’s about losing someone who’s still alive but no longer the same person to you. I feel like that kind of grief doesn’t come with a funeral, but it hurts just as deep.
Having to regularly reassure my 78 year old mom, a US Green card holder for 50 years, that she won’t be kidnapped off the street, but not being so sure of it myself.
IUD replacement/initial insertion. Medical professionals are convinced that the procedure can be done with the patient fully conscious, taking TYLENOL 1-2 hours before the appointment and return to work the same day…
Period pain. Men don’t get it obviously, but not all women have excruciating pain. Mine is debilitating enough that I am bedridden for a day every month. A friend of mine just admitted to me that she always thought I was being dramatic and looking for attention. She just recently had a painful period, and called me to tell me that she was sorry.
Physical: an abscessed tooth. I always knew they were painful, but actually experiencing it was something else. I have an extremely high pain tolerance. The pain I was in was crippling to the point I was having trouble forming coherent thoughts. All I wanted was to rip it out of my head and at one point in my desperation I contemplated jumping in front of a car. They gave me an ungodly amount of lidocane until they could pull it. The relief had me woozy.
Mental: losing a child. I’ve lost many people that I considered dear to me and I am no stranger to grief. But losing my infant son was like someone had scooped every part of who I was out of my soul with a melon baller and then shoved it back in like they were trying to put a can of biscuits back in the tube. Its been 4 years. I am still alive, and for most intents and purposes I’m functional and mostly happy with life. But every once in a while it hits me like a freight train and I can’t breathe. I will never be who I was before.
Having an ER doctor say to his nurse that I was a junkie because I had been there twice that week begging for pain management…for a BB sized kidney stone. That hurt worse, having 2 jobs, no insurance, and having a rich prick suggest I was a junkie. I couldn’t afford a $5k laser procedure to break it up to pass it.
That was 20 years ago, and I still despise wealthy people, only worse now. Never was and still am not a junkie.
Losing your first dog. My childhood dog was my best-friend in the entire universe. I went everywhere with her and did everything together. I had to bury her. I miss her all the time, I’ve never felt any sort of connection like that to another dog again.
Having your parents get old and start forgetting things.
You think you’re prepared for it but watching someone who taught you everything slowly lose pieces of themselves is brutal. And there’s nothing you can do to fix it.
The role reversal hits different when you’re suddenly the one making decisions for them.
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All of the above. Describing any pain never comes to close to feeling it.
True loneliness
Kidney stones
Broken ribs
Physical: Back Pain
Mental: Losing a loved one
Plantar Fasciitis. When you get up to walk it will feel like you’re walking on broken egg shells.
copper IUD cramps
Losing your parents.
Having to take care of a sick parent.
Becoming disabled. It can happen to anyone. Doesn’t matter how healthy you’ve been or what you eat or anything else.
Menopause..oy
Getting kicked in the balls
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IBS🤣
Hopelessness/depression to the point where suicide seems blissful. Been there a handful of times, acted twice, and it sucks. Words of encouragement feel invalidating. Nothing brings you joy, and you’re stuck in a constant loop of trying to maintain a logical approach and battling the emotional lows that eventually turn numb.
The aftermath of being raped or sexually assaulted.
Grief
Losing a loved one.
Mentally and physically painful to the core.
Sexual assault, fibromyalgia, emotional abuse
A panic attack.
Losing a parent while young, being forced into homelessness, clawing your way out just to be check to check with 10 years of your life gone
Are we talking physical or mental? Because being left at the hospital with your new baby by your husband is top tier in the emotional fuckup category 😑
Gout. It is excruciating, debilitating and constant. There is no working through it, pain pills won’t help, only prescription meds that are targeted towards Gout can slowly provide you with relief, but if you don’t get the meds in time you they will not be effective for days or even weeks. I don’t wish it on my worst enemy .
Losing your dog
Having to deal with someone who has a full blown personality disorder, usually Psychopathy, of Narcissistic Personality Disorder!
Taking care of a parent with dementia and having dysfunctional sibling dynamics can be a nightmare
Homelessness just know there’s people out there that have no family or loved ones to welcome them to a warm home or help them out in a time of need. It’s HARD being 100% independent… I mean true independent.
the nerve pain of shingles.
Shingles
Losing an adult sibling. It’s horrible.
Deportation.
Death of someone you loved/someone who loved you in return in a healthy way (whether human or pet). Sometimes that understanding comes too early in life, sometimes quite late.
Either way, for most of us, it changes you and how you look at your life and the lives of others, forever.
Mental and emotional – the loss of a loved one.
Physical – gallbladder problems
Severe nerve pain
Depression – people think it’s just being sad – it’s not even in the same galaxy
Miscarriages
Having a large secondary cancer growth feeding off your intestines and pushing everything out of the way to grow bigger by the day….
When you’re being sexually assaulted and you realize you have to let them do it so they don’t kill you
Also pancreatitis. Made childbirth seem like a piece of cake
Betrayal, and everyone telling you to “let it go.”
The pain from realizing everyone is protecting the villains whilst turning a blind eye to the victims.
Being cheated on
stillbirth. my wife and I are both black-hearted Registered Nurses, so now we can joke about it…but we weren’t prepared at all. born on my half birthday, and she looked so much like me. that shit stings like nothing else.
Sciatic nerve pain!
Being used for whatever reason during a relationship, like sex or money. It drains tf out of you
That depression that eats away at your soul. People think it’s just sadness but I would take physical pain or sadness over that phase of life again
Death of a child/baby…
Shingles. Get ready for three weeks with no sleep, constant pain and irritation and there is physicaly no way to position yourself to minimize the discomfort. I got it when I was 28, at a time I was under alot of stress and it really has a rough time with the affliction.
Not sure if the new vaccine works, but at the time there was no way out but working through it.
Losing a loved one, missing them and then forgetting how hard the grief hits you and when it happens again you remember instantly how hard the grief hits and wonder how you forgot that in the 1st place.
Da back
Grief and migraines.
Becoming chronically sick, disabled or going through a life threatening illness. It changes the way you see the world and life. And you become hyper aware of how fragile and fleeting life-as-you-know-it can be
Inflamed pilonidal cyst.
Shingles nerve pain
Losing a child in the NICU and coworkers thinking its rude when you avoid being around their newborns.
Migraines. People that don’t get migraines think it’s just a headache that will go away with a couple Tylenol when it’s actually debilitating.
Emotionally is betrayal from a long time spouse.
going a diff route, mental illness bc a job/sleep deprivation. Not sleeping is not somethng to fuck with. U can take the smartest kindest person, and u make them not sleep for honestly not that long of a period and ull see how fucked they get. If u make that years? its a train wreck
Learning what the death of a loved one really means. This also includes the loss of a pet.
A big ovarian cyst rupturing. Indescribable.
Grief
For me, it’s about losing someone who’s still alive but no longer the same person to you. I feel like that kind of grief doesn’t come with a funeral, but it hurts just as deep.
Having to regularly reassure my 78 year old mom, a US Green card holder for 50 years, that she won’t be kidnapped off the street, but not being so sure of it myself.
Death of a child.
IUD replacement/initial insertion. Medical professionals are convinced that the procedure can be done with the patient fully conscious, taking TYLENOL 1-2 hours before the appointment and return to work the same day…
Tinnitus. It’s just awful. It doesn’t stop. It doesn’t change. It’s torture. Silence basically doesn’t exist for me anymore.
Go read the comments on a white noise YouTube video or hang out on /r/Tinnitus, it sucks. 🙁
Losing someone to suicide
Period pain. Men don’t get it obviously, but not all women have excruciating pain. Mine is debilitating enough that I am bedridden for a day every month. A friend of mine just admitted to me that she always thought I was being dramatic and looking for attention. She just recently had a painful period, and called me to tell me that she was sorry.
Death of your spouse.
Losing a parent when you’re a teenager.
Fibromyalgia, nerve pain, cptsd and traumatic grief all at the exact same time… great painful combo
Physical: an abscessed tooth. I always knew they were painful, but actually experiencing it was something else. I have an extremely high pain tolerance. The pain I was in was crippling to the point I was having trouble forming coherent thoughts. All I wanted was to rip it out of my head and at one point in my desperation I contemplated jumping in front of a car. They gave me an ungodly amount of lidocane until they could pull it. The relief had me woozy.
Mental: losing a child. I’ve lost many people that I considered dear to me and I am no stranger to grief. But losing my infant son was like someone had scooped every part of who I was out of my soul with a melon baller and then shoved it back in like they were trying to put a can of biscuits back in the tube. Its been 4 years. I am still alive, and for most intents and purposes I’m functional and mostly happy with life. But every once in a while it hits me like a freight train and I can’t breathe. I will never be who I was before.
Having an ER doctor say to his nurse that I was a junkie because I had been there twice that week begging for pain management…for a BB sized kidney stone. That hurt worse, having 2 jobs, no insurance, and having a rich prick suggest I was a junkie. I couldn’t afford a $5k laser procedure to break it up to pass it.
That was 20 years ago, and I still despise wealthy people, only worse now. Never was and still am not a junkie.
Emotional- The loss of a child
Physical- kidney stone or exposed nerve of a tooth.
Watching a loved one slowly die
Grief
Migraine. Not just a headache. If you don’t get them, you think you know, but you don’t.
Anxiety attacks, losing a parent, and contractions. 🙂↕️
Being betrayed by your partner that you absolutely trusted.
Migraine with the works for days on end.
Schizophrenia. No one really understands what it’s like for your mind to attack you all the time until they break
Not having any close friends.
Death of a loved one by suicide.
Cancer diagnosis
Losing your first dog. My childhood dog was my best-friend in the entire universe. I went everywhere with her and did everything together. I had to bury her. I miss her all the time, I’ve never felt any sort of connection like that to another dog again.
Having your parents get old and start forgetting things.
You think you’re prepared for it but watching someone who taught you everything slowly lose pieces of themselves is brutal. And there’s nothing you can do to fix it.
The role reversal hits different when you’re suddenly the one making decisions for them.