hi !! i’m a 19 year old girl 20 in september and i just wanted to know if adults think of 19-21 as young still 😭 i grew up without a stable parental relationship in the house (my dad left and my mom checked out emotionally) so i think that’s why i’m so scared of aging because i know that i’ll just be another adult and i won’t even find a mother or father like figure because i’ll be too old to have one so i just wanted to see if anyone still thinks that that age range is still young. sorry if this didn’t make sense
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So young…
Yes, lol.
You are so young, you have no idea.
Turning 32 this year. You can still meet people with parental-like qualities! Being a legal adult doesn’t mean you have to have it all figured out yet (none of us do, really).
So so young.
Yes 20 is still really young, you’ve still got your whole life, I’m about to turn 30 and still feel young
You’re still young and it’s definitely possible to create your own family. I don’t have much to do with my family. They’re not really people
I want to be friends with.
I was in my late 20s when I found friends who are still a huge part of my life. They ranged in age from my age up to 70ish.
I married one of them, and even though I moved across the country, that group is still my family. I’ve found a family here, too.
Like any family, the older women who were my collective mother are now gone (I’m 56 now) but I am so grateful for them. My collective fathers are dead as well, but I still share their stories.
My husband and I have stray and orphan Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners. He’s the orphan, and I’m the stray. There is a core group that’s there every year, but others are just passing through. But there’s a huge sense of belonging for everyone.
So my long-winded answer is, yes you can find a family no matter your age. But you will need to be an active participant in the process.
Best wishes for your journey.
Yes, it’s still very young, I also think you choose how to grow up.
You can’t really do anything about getting older, but you can do a lot about how you approach the world. You don’t have to be a stuffy adult. You can keep a sense of whimsy and wonder. Do things that make you happy or feel good.
And while getting a new actual parent is tricky, you can find people to learn from everywhere. And you can try to settle into your neighborhood and get people you can depend on, mostlyby being an active participant yourself. You can spread the things you want from a parent around.