I don’t know if this is a subject that will interest anyone, but I was just thinking that the only time I tried to offer some insight about this life experience on a popular forum I got banned within two minutes for ‘aggressive blue pill propaganda’, so maybe Reddit is a better place to try to reach out to other people.
Basically, at the age of 25 I had never even kissed a girl yet, and those years I had essentially no social life, I would spend almost all of my time in my room, on the Internet. I was quite shy and socially awkward. Needless to say, my life is very different now, and I think I’ve gained some pretty useful insight on how your life can improve drastically just through some incremental change.
Where I am it is 1:33 am now, so (if this post does not get removed) I don’t think I’ll be answering any questions until the morning!
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What changed? Just met the right girl?
Do you have a good recipe for seared scallops?
Also, have you ever been dogging, or do you intend to go dogging in the future?
Has it changed your views on the world/society as a result? If so, how so?
I’ve heard of red and black pill, what is blue pill? I tried to google it but it keeps coming up as viagra lol.
Also, what changed for you that turned things around? Was it simply a matter of actually putting yourself out there or were there other changes you think contributed?
What forum banned you?
How did you come to begin hanging out in different social circles? What exactly does that look like? If I wanted to reproduce what you did, exactly what would I do?
How old are you now? Do you approach women now, and if so, how? 🙂
Do you believe that red pill ideology is hurting or helping men?
How did you learn to do a 180?
Are you still celibate or abstinent? Would you say that your confidence has gone up? Also when you were an “incel” did you find that you were often in limerence or thought that every girl that gave you attention liked you in a more than a friend or romantic way?
So wait, were you an incel before? Like, would you say you were angry towards women and held sexist or misogynistic views? Or were you always wary of the red pill ideology and sort of had success with women later? What made you change? Was there anything you did to change your life that really increased your success?
Although you’re in no way obliged to do so, have you thought of reaching out to the incel community and try to give them another perspective.
How was your first time connecting intimately with a woman? How did you feel?
I actually have a slightly similar story to you… Essentially a blackpill incel (minus the anti-women ideology) until I was 24, began socializing a lot more (through meetup.com, not couch surfing), and ended up having a pretty good run until I reached my 30’s
Which leads me to my question: did you find that dating in your 30’s was noticeably harder than in your 20’s? I swear since I hit 30 I’m nearly back to my incel days in terms of how little success I’ve been having
TL;DR : basically you just gotta get out there and live. It will happen.
Today I learnt that “incel” is an abbreviation lol
I have a friend who i fear is going down a similar rabbit hole. What would you recommend in helping him get better at dating? I’ve tried taking him out to events to get him more confidence in public but he just reverts back shortly after.
Based on what I understand from incel ideology, your experience will probably be dismissed by that community.
By that “theory” you are that “naive beta male”. No women looked at you when you were younger, but now that you’re more established, the women of “low value” that nobody wants anymore feel like they can settle with you.
I think you’ll gain nothing by sharing your experience in their forums, in fact… you will only enforce the ideology.
Thanks for coming here and doing this. It sucks being apparently the only person on the internet trying to tell these guys what the simple fix is, so thanks for letting me know there’s at least two.
Do you mean you have casual sex or do you mean you found someone meaningful?
what’s your definition of successful dating? having sex with lots of people or did you find one special person?
Can you post a picture of your face? Or describe if you are conventionally attractive at least?
Amazing what a Catholic Priest can do with Altar Boys and Girls?
Forget “the Blue pulls” when you got “Communion Wine”.
I understand in Protestant Churches, “The Laying On Of Hands” opens up more than palms and fingers of hands!
How to build a good social circle of women all by myself? I want to be more interesting and been thinking about getting into philosophy books to have more interesting conversations, but not the nihilistic kind but hopeless romantic kind/hopeful kind.
“I’m conventionally attractive, AMA”
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