depends. if it’s standard issue vanilla sex I’m fine with cuddling after but don’t actively want it. if it’s particularly rough, intense, or otherwise draining, i absolutely do not want to be touched in any way for like half an hour. i need time to regulate or I’ll be overstimulated in the bad way.
i realize this is a very unpopular take in most circles. I’m not writing off the importance of aftercare. but aftercare is giving someone what they need, and what i need is (usually) space and solitude.
In a committed relationship, very important . Cuddles and talking and soaking in (figuratively) the emotional connection (hopefully) from the physical connection. It’s been years since that’s happened for me but there’s a collection of reasons why.
In a casual sex situation, cuddles are almost kind of a turn off.
I like cuddles.. except when it is hot. Then I like leg snuggies and touching my partner.
I REALLY like cuddles with the absence of sex. I live with chronic pain, so sex is unfortunately not always on the table even if one of us would like it to be.
Mmm… not a lot. I want some connection… a hand on the thigh, an invite to put my head on his chest, or just a kiss. Im happy and secure in our connection, which is intensified by sex already.
Depends who it’s with. If I’m in a relationship, they’re pretty important. If it’s just a casual, fun thing, not at all. In fact, in that situation, I’d rather they just get dressed and leave.
I like some snuggles but its not mandatory. We’ve been together nearly 10 years. In the beginning it was mandatory and guaranteed to lead to round two.
Not at all. As soon as we’re done we go into the bathroom, share a quick rinse in the shower, get into some comfy clothes and do our own thing. There’s a lot of laughter and affection and joking in between but we don’t have to cuddle.
Depends on if we have time lol. If it’s a quickie then no. If it is at night before bed, then for a little while till we m separate since our bodies are both diesels. Afternoon sex on the weekends (if the kids are napping and leave us alone) ends in cuddles and falling asleep for a little nap ourselves.
I had a girl tell me there was a minimum of 6 min. I think she thought it was a smash and dash kind of deal. Im not like that. Out of respect I bumped it up to 13 min. (Supposed to pee with in 15).
Not a big deal over thirty years into the relationship, but his giving me all the ice water I need, having made sure there are clean towels at hand for clean up, and a quick chat about how great we both feel now, make me feel cared for.
Very. How long depends on the time of day and whether I’m feeling dozy or energised and what else I might have/want to do, but some amount of cuddling (and also random babbling) is pretty much necessary. Might be ten minutes, might be an hour, but I can’t imagine sex without it tbh. It’s just instinctive, to both me and my husband.
I’d flick that nipple till it’s tender and he asks for me to stop lol, it’s the part of the sex that I look forward to the most other than the sex itself
Alot, I love them and have found most men do as well. If the sex is particularly good then he’s really drained anyway and so lying there immobile with my head on his chest isnt such a big deal 😂
Cuddling and aftercare is very important.. don’t just leave me there feeling used and shit. It’s like a giant “fuck you, I got what I needed and now I’m done with you” feeling and that suckssss
Depends. If it’s simple, « vanilla », then I don’t mind not getting cuddles. But back with my ex when I would submit, then I needed the aftercare and cuddles very much, otherwise I would just feel used.
But yeah, if it’s « just » lovemaking and there’s no specific kinky stuff involved usually I’ll just hold hands until I fall asleep, that’s enough for me.
Honestly sometimes I enjoy the cuddling after more than the sex itself. That closeness just hits different. I actually felt so strongly about it I ended up creating an app called Cuddles to help people connect who feel the same. It’s been really cool seeing others resonate with that energy.
I read a study a million years ago that people need, on average, seven minutes of after sex care so I always tell my husband or he tells me that we need our seven minutes.
We have a few non negotiable in our marriage. We always kiss before leaving, kiss first thing when we come back together and we get at least seven minutes of cuddles after sex.
For many of us, the post-sex cuddle is as powerful as the sex itself. It’s that safe, warm feeling that makes it all feel more intimate and real. It’s not always the deciding factor, but it definitely matters 🤤🤤
Don’t really need it, but maybe because my husband is extremely affectionate all the time, so I don’t feel unloved after sex. Also I want to get clean quickly
They are a requirement. Sex is not finished until we cuddle, touch non-sexually, and discuss our feelings about what we did. It’s just a way for us to maintain the intimacy.
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Gimme that leg.
Leggie cuddles, hydration, nap time.
Very.
depends. if it’s standard issue vanilla sex I’m fine with cuddling after but don’t actively want it. if it’s particularly rough, intense, or otherwise draining, i absolutely do not want to be touched in any way for like half an hour. i need time to regulate or I’ll be overstimulated in the bad way.
i realize this is a very unpopular take in most circles. I’m not writing off the importance of aftercare. but aftercare is giving someone what they need, and what i need is (usually) space and solitude.
100%! Need all the cuddles lol
Those exist 😭💔
Not a huge deal. I give him extra hugs and kisses after we’re cleaned up and then roll over and pass out. I feel like we do more cuddling before sex
Mega important. I’d say essentially as important as foreplay
In the beginning of our relationship they were important. Now that we’ve been married 16 years. Get off of me! You’re all hot and sweaty. 🥵
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Not during summer, or spring
If things were intense I need aftercare or I’ll freak out. When it’s routine vanilla sex I don’t mind just rolling over and sleeping.
I’m not the cuddliest person. I get restless fast.
In a committed relationship, very important . Cuddles and talking and soaking in (figuratively) the emotional connection (hopefully) from the physical connection. It’s been years since that’s happened for me but there’s a collection of reasons why.
In a casual sex situation, cuddles are almost kind of a turn off.
I hate it. After sex I just want to get cleaned up and then relax with a scotch. Once it’s done it’s like get the hell off me
They’re nice but don’t necessarily need to.
I always cuddle my gf after she’s finished but she rarely cuddles me after I finish 🙁 she prefers to clean up and sit and have a smoke after.
not at all. they need to leave. NOW.
I feel like pre sex cuddles are way more important. After sex I usually wanna drink water, pee and then go night night 🤣🤦🏼♀️
I like cuddles.. except when it is hot. Then I like leg snuggies and touching my partner.
I REALLY like cuddles with the absence of sex. I live with chronic pain, so sex is unfortunately not always on the table even if one of us would like it to be.
Mmm… not a lot. I want some connection… a hand on the thigh, an invite to put my head on his chest, or just a kiss. Im happy and secure in our connection, which is intensified by sex already.
Immediate post sex isn’t important to me anymore. Its what happens between the last time and this time that is important.
Not a huge deal to me to be honest
Meh.
Meh. I love cuddles but after sex, I don’t need it.
Depends who it’s with. If I’m in a relationship, they’re pretty important. If it’s just a casual, fun thing, not at all. In fact, in that situation, I’d rather they just get dressed and leave.
Sometimes I like those more than the sex itself, and the sex is top tier
Sometimes I like those more than the sex itself, and the sex is top tier
I like some snuggles but its not mandatory. We’ve been together nearly 10 years. In the beginning it was mandatory and guaranteed to lead to round two.
Not at all. As soon as we’re done we go into the bathroom, share a quick rinse in the shower, get into some comfy clothes and do our own thing. There’s a lot of laughter and affection and joking in between but we don’t have to cuddle.
A lot. Luckily, he seems to think so, too.
Important for like 5 minutes then let me roll over and get cozy for sleep
Depends on if we have time lol. If it’s a quickie then no. If it is at night before bed, then for a little while till we m separate since our bodies are both diesels. Afternoon sex on the weekends (if the kids are napping and leave us alone) ends in cuddles and falling asleep for a little nap ourselves.
We stay embraced and…connected… for a good while after we finish. Let it all simmer. The. It’s off to the shower and leg cuddles after.
The most important part
I had a girl tell me there was a minimum of 6 min. I think she thought it was a smash and dash kind of deal. Im not like that. Out of respect I bumped it up to 13 min. (Supposed to pee with in 15).
I’m not really used to receiving any, so I guess it’s not that important
Very and that’s why I can’t do one night stand.
It’s the best part
Meh
very important! it’s so nice to lay together and talk or fall asleep after <3
Get off me ! …I honestly don’t care 🤷♀️
Very. It’s not good sex if there’s no aftercare.
Not a big deal over thirty years into the relationship, but his giving me all the ice water I need, having made sure there are clean towels at hand for clean up, and a quick chat about how great we both feel now, make me feel cared for.
I love them sometimes and other times not so much
Not important at all.
Very. How long depends on the time of day and whether I’m feeling dozy or energised and what else I might have/want to do, but some amount of cuddling (and also random babbling) is pretty much necessary. Might be ten minutes, might be an hour, but I can’t imagine sex without it tbh. It’s just instinctive, to both me and my husband.
Very :3
Not a huge deal but a cuddle and sleep are nice. Depends on the type of sex, if it’s a quickie for example, cuddles aren’t a must.
It’s a key component to the act as a whole. Best NOT to skip it…even if it’s brief.
I love melting away with my bf post sex. It’s lazy cuddles, deep talks or a quick nap
It is important to me. I love it when we cuddle afterward. It allows me to bask in affection and feel close.
Havent yet, but it’d definitely be important
I’d flick that nipple till it’s tender and he asks for me to stop lol, it’s the part of the sex that I look forward to the most other than the sex itself
11/10 times out of 10 important 🥺
It’s like more important than sex
Alot, I love them and have found most men do as well. If the sex is particularly good then he’s really drained anyway and so lying there immobile with my head on his chest isnt such a big deal 😂
I have kids so cuddles after would be extremely lucky lol
We’re gonna have problems if I don’t get to snuggle after. Idc if it’s just 5 minutes. It’s a must, non negotiable.
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Depends on the person. Casual sex partner, I dont care if they want to cuddle or not.
Emotional/Romantic partner, very important.
Cuddling and aftercare is very important.. don’t just leave me there feeling used and shit. It’s like a giant “fuck you, I got what I needed and now I’m done with you” feeling and that suckssss
Depends. If it’s simple, « vanilla », then I don’t mind not getting cuddles. But back with my ex when I would submit, then I needed the aftercare and cuddles very much, otherwise I would just feel used.
But yeah, if it’s « just » lovemaking and there’s no specific kinky stuff involved usually I’ll just hold hands until I fall asleep, that’s enough for me.
Aftercare, shower, then we can snuggle if we want.
Honestly sometimes I enjoy the cuddling after more than the sex itself. That closeness just hits different. I actually felt so strongly about it I ended up creating an app called Cuddles to help people connect who feel the same. It’s been really cool seeing others resonate with that energy.
It’s essential for me. If we don’t cuddle there will no next time for us.
I read a study a million years ago that people need, on average, seven minutes of after sex care so I always tell my husband or he tells me that we need our seven minutes.
We have a few non negotiable in our marriage. We always kiss before leaving, kiss first thing when we come back together and we get at least seven minutes of cuddles after sex.
If I orgasm, I don’t want anyone to touch me or go anywhere near me. I get very dysphoric
For many of us, the post-sex cuddle is as powerful as the sex itself. It’s that safe, warm feeling that makes it all feel more intimate and real. It’s not always the deciding factor, but it definitely matters 🤤🤤
Don’t really need it, but maybe because my husband is extremely affectionate all the time, so I don’t feel unloved after sex. Also I want to get clean quickly
Pre and post sex cuddles are sooo important!
I like curling up in my partner’s lap after intense sessions but if the sex is vanilla, just regular cuddles please.
Either way, I feel a strong emotional connection in the post sex cuddles
They are a requirement. Sex is not finished until we cuddle, touch non-sexually, and discuss our feelings about what we did. It’s just a way for us to maintain the intimacy.
Not at all