Milk allergy

So long story I think? Baby is now 5 months.

Since baby was born I suspected a milk allergy (don’t ask why her symptoms just seemed more than the average baby sick) so after multiple talks with health visitor. She decided to start documenting, I was passed pillar to post from GP, hospital and health visitor to make sure all symptoms were documented. It was really obvious baby was in pain though! Almost constantly. Everytime I was passed to diffrent places I kept being blocked with she’s not bleeding so we can’t confirm allergy. Until one day boom blood in her nappy and from then on was every few days. Was given hypoallergenic milk (nutramigen) and was told not a lot of babies take to this milk so essentially what we recommend (health visitors, GPs) starve the baby until you know she’ll eat it.

So MIL is staying the night we finally got this new milk, I say you can feed baby during the night but only give her 4 ounces because she needs to be hungry enough to eat the nutramigen tomorrow and I’ll sort that in the morning. Obviously this point baby is bleeding, it’s obvious this is an allergy and I want minimum pain for baby but didn’t want to start the diet during the night so was ok with 4 ounces because yknow… trying to not feed a baby in the middle of the night would not work. Also didn’t want to risk giving her the new milk incase she wasn’t hungry enough and decided she didn’t like it and it became an issue to try feed her it as she was already quite a bit underweight.

So MIL gives her 4 ounces… I wake up in the morning and find her sitting giving her a bottle at like 8 o’clock? She says oh babies dad made another bottle because she was hungry, 5 ounces. They did not follow my instructions I got from medical professionals! Why??! Oblivious!! My baby is in pain and I need her off this asap!! Why couldn’t they have used the new milk? Woke me up? Anything? Instead of deciding between them how this was gonna be handled

I spoke with my health visitor after this and she told me basically if I couldn’t get her off that milk because they hadn’t taken this seriously. I’d have had her up at the hospital within the week because of the bleeding it would have just gotten worse

I just want other peoples thoughts? Am I over reacting? Babies dad is now ex partner. This has caused a lot of issues because of my reaction but to me it’s the principle no one listened and she needed off dairy as soon as possible.

I’ll add in now I feel like I can’t trust them to make good choices. Their excuse was she wasn’t officially allergic yet even though I’d been saying it the whole time and I think the bleeding, crying, sick, mucus poop, everything was enough to confirm once the hospital were on board