Just curious what you would do if the girl you’re with expresses that she’s turned on but you’re not in the mood. What would/do you do?
Edit to clarify: do you say you’re not in the mood and carry on. Or would you want to help anyway?
What do you do if you’re not in the mood but she is?
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Use your words, most of the time a decent person should be understanding. Like how so many women expect the same from us.
I tell her that but cuddling usually changes things
Tell her I have a headache, then roll over to go to sleep
Use mouth and finger to get her off, or do the finger hook trick that makes her orgasm in like 10 seconds (rinse and repeat until she’s done) if I’m really tired
I tell them.
Dick her down
Honestly im never not in the mood lol
Use your word hole to tell them
I will always at least try unless I’m feeling like shit. I find a lot of time if I’m not in the mood I get into the mood as long as I’m taking my time building up to the sex. If it just ain’t working I’m going to eat that pussy like shrimp fried rice
play games because I have no idea who she is
Usually I just plough through it …
She accommodates my needs so it’s only natural that I do so for her.
I let her ride my face. After that I’m in the mood.
It’s rare for me to not immediately feel reciprocal, but when it does I usually just offer what I can give in the moment, and if that’s not a compromise they can take, I red light them.
Make sure she cums, and if you can all the more happy!
But she cums first and multiple times always. Otherwise your job isn’t done.
Toys are good too.
I would just go down on her. Granted I really enjoy giving pleasure so I am basically always up for that. I would have to be extremely tired or sick to not at least do that. I mean my ex would do the same as well. If she wasn’t in the mood she would give me a bj. Granted she was just like me and enjoyed giving pleasure.
The same treatment they give to us. I’m tired and I feel fat 😂
A man’s gotta do what a man’s gotta do.
Then I have sex. I’ve had problems with ED but I’ll do my best to get her off and let her enjoy herself. I’ve had sex plenty of times when I really didn’t want to.
Tell her she hasnt earned it and you need more help around the house during the day. Sex is a prize for being the perfect spouse. (Sarcasm, but reversed)
I go for it, wholeheartedly. We’re in a relationship, I’d feel like a failure if I wasn’t meeting her needs. We have to accommodate each other, even if sometimes we aren’t in the mood. It’s our responsibility to get in the mood.
Tell her.
Thing is if she keeps flirting/being seductive/other words to describe trying to turn me on, it will eventually work. It just takes time, patience, and knowing not to overdo it (i.e. make me uncomfortable or do smth i dont consent to)
There is a school of thought amongst some that says nobody should ever have sex out of obligation.
Im pretty sure this has never happened to me.
Not in the mood? Bro, just grab her ass and bam, I’m in the mood
If you’re not into it and you’re not in the mood why expect to force yourself and go through it anyways? Women can say no, you can too.
I would happily go down on her then I would absolutely be in the mood. Though I am generally always in the mood unless I am physically ill.
It depends. If there’s some reason I don’t want to be in the mood – legit tired, upset guts, etc. – then I just be honest and say I’m not up to it.
If I’m just feeling super lazy and she wants to do the work to get me going, I’ll probably not protest and let the moment carry me away. I’ll usually be into it pretty soon, at least enough to make sure she enjoys it.