do guys find overly excited chripy women annoying?
for context im in a group chat with predominantly guys (we’re just aquintances and all of us are 22-28) and i asked for pictures of someone’s cat and they posted a video of their cat and i got excited. In a chirpy way i said, “thank you for cat story !!!!!! i wanted you to post a video instead and you did !!! i watched it 50 times !!!! I LOVE CATS” and all the guys there started to make fun of me and discussed if they should ban me or not.
I was kind of bothered by it and asked my sister. She said guys find overly excited chirpy girls annoying. if i want my ideal guy, I have to change myself for him and be less chirpy or else i’ll always be too much for him and will never find someone who will like me or my chirpiness. She also said the guys who will like my chirpy behavior will never be my ideal type.
is this true? i’m starting to think it’s true because of how the guys reacted in the group chat but i just want to know based on others experiences.
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Sorry, I know we are the way we are but, as a chill guy, overexcitment really annoys me.
I think it’s fine, there’s more than enough gloomy/emotionally dead personalities out there so high energy excitement over the smallest things is a breath of fresh air in most cases.
Be who you want to be, and leave the people who hate on you behind for others who will appreciate you.
It can be overwhelming, bringing it into an environment that’s normally quiet and chill is really hard to tolerate.
With most traits like that it’s no big deal, it’s about how the woman in question interacts with us. If she does stuff that pushes us away, and isn’t accountable for her actions that’s the real issue. Like my best friend is basically like Amythyst from Steven Universe personality wise, and it doesn’t bother me because she knows how to carry herself.
Traits you mentioned might be portrayed as annoying on tv shows and other forms of media, but in reality it’s not that bad most of the time. We got to have something to work with, being like how you said might be annoying if you expect us to match your vibe or something else like that.
Individually, I enjoy talking to women.
But in groups, women’s brains seem to switch off. Everyone talks at the same time… no one listens… 5 conversations cross-talking each other. The topic… if a topic exists at all… changes every 10 seconds.
In fairness, regardless of gender, the more people in a conversation the more shallow it becomes, but conversations in groups of women seem to self-destruct faster.