Hi everyone, I need some advice. I had a trip planned to another state as my husband was going to do some locum work there for 2 weeks. When my in laws found out, they invited themselves along (they are from this state originally and don’t get to see my son often as we live far away from then).
Unfortunately my husband’s locum job was cancelled but they insisted we still come as they didn’t want to loose money by cancelling. So my husband had to use his holiday leave to go on this trip we didn’t particularly want, but we thought we would make the best of it.
Since then, I got pregnant and 5 days before the trip my nausea and exhaustion got really bad, I feel sick 24/7.
So the next day we made the difficult decision to cancel and loose our money as I don’t feel fit to travel. We called them to let them know and they were very angry. His brother (who lives with the parents but wasn’t coming on this trip) interrupted the conversation and got angry at me for not giving them more notice. I was already feeling terrible and really guilty so I started crying and my husband said goodbye to them. They are even more mad now and texted my husband that he is disrespectful. My husband replied sticking up for me, and we haven’t heard from them since.
I’m quite upset with them as I warned them in advance I may feel too sick to travel and there was no empathy from them at all.
Although I think this incident is relatively minor, it does come after many cruel and insensitive comments from my MIL in the past that I have always let go. For example, she told me I was spoiled and had no motivation in life because I was staying home with my first born son 6 weeks post partum.
I understand it was frustrating to cancel our trip, but they are still going, they have family in that state, and they are wealthy and retired so financially it doesn’t impact them.
Am I right to keep distance from them after this? Or are my pregnancy hormones clouding my judgement?
Thanks!
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