I’m a very boring individual, I don’t have interesting hobbies the only hobbies I really have are playing through childhood video games and reading. I don’t go on holiday and I have no friends or any close relationships at all. Over the last 18 months I’ve been going to all these group meet ups and I’ve come to the conclusion that my boredom and having nothing to talk about are part of the problem.
So any guys that used to be super boring and never really enjoyed doing anything what changed? How did you become less boring?
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Start learning new things and having new experiences.
I was and will forever be boring. My hobbies are phases at best, so I never get entrenched in any community and move on pretty quickly without much at all to talk about. You’ve done more in the last 18 months socially than I have in my adult life.
You’re not boring, just need to find your group is all.
There isn’t anything wrong with being boring as long as you’re happy with yourself. I literally cause people within my vicinity to become drowsy, and women often fall into comas after 10 minutes of speaking to me. You can be boring if you want to, it won’t kill you or anything.
I have plenty of hobbies. I’m still boring. People are seldom exuberant when I’m around, and if they are, it usually isn’t directed towards me. I’m definitely interesting and knowledgeable, but that in itself doesn’t equate to a lack of boredom. People still don’t express major excitement to see me, even if they feel it.
I think it has less to do with what you may or may not do or have to talk about and more with how people express things and how people react to that. If you’re subtle, people will react with subtlety. If you’re closed off, people will mirror that. It becomes a silent appreciation of what you provide. As for how to fix it, damned if I know. I can’t fix how certain things are expressed. If I force it to match their level, everyone just gets weird about it. Best to learn other ways to show how interesting you are and learn how to process the ways people react. Teach them to speak your language and you learn theirs as well. Meet them halfway.
Yup, I’m boring as anything. I only go out socially about once every 3 months or so and have absolutely nothing to talk about even though I listen to a lot of audiobooks. I’m really into deep stuff like philosophy and spirituality and find it difficult to click with most people.
I’ve been working at my current company for 8.5 years now and I still feel like an outsider – they recently had a big party as they do every year at summer and Christmas and I didn’t go, I’ve never been to any in all the years I’ve been there as the worst thing I can imagine is the embarrassment of coming into work on a Monday morning after spending a night at a works party sitting alone in a corner. No thanks to that.
By becoming an interesting man. Have things to talk about and develop your social skills. You need more life experiences and skills overall.
You will make yourself more miserable trying to change yourself to make friends. You aren’t boring, you just have a low opinion of yourself.
Why not embrace that’s part of who you are ? Why try and change it ? If you want more relationships, friendships, then get to know other boring people.
Maybe you start “The Boring Group” for boring people. I’d probably go to that! I bet others would too.
Think about what things interest you and pursue them.
Learning something together is a fantastic way to connect with other people because you naturally have something to talk about. It can be anything (language lessons, cooking, music, tabletop role games, board games, etc)
Once you’re actually having conversations, my advice is:
Conversation is more than exchanging facts and this is specially true if you want to talk to women.
You should be exaggerating, teasing and conveying how things make you feel
Censoring yourself is a great way to make yourself boring. If your hobbies are too nerdy you might feel that being too open will end up with you being ridiculed, but if you can’t express your honest opinions openly you will look like a blank sheet. Don’t be afraid to offend others, let those people filter themselves out for you
Also, work on your physical appearance. People are always more willing to open up to someone who’s good looking (or at the very least not bad looking).
Work out, dress with fitting clothes, have a clean shave and haircut and keep good general hygiene.
I also wish I knew. I think I’ve been really unlucky throughout life and constantly got pushed to be and stay boring. If you figure it out lmk
First off, I think stable and reliable can often be mistaken for boring. That said, the difference between a boring person and an interesting person is whether or not they leave their comfort zone. Start small like ordering things off a menu that you normally never would. Break your routine a bit and don’t do the same things over and over. Most importantly, embrace the feeling of being uncomfortable when trying new things. That’s the feeling of growth, like that burn when you work out. Sometimes those new things will backfire and blow up in your face, but honestly, it’s those times that usually make the best stories and shape us in the most interesting ways.