How do men 35+ feel about finding love again and starting a family after divorce and a having had a vasectomy (reversal planned)?

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Title. (I am 37)

Going through a divorce, near the end. Had a vasectomy 5 years ago as wife had kids already. Now divorcing and feel an overwhelming sense of regret not having my own children.

Have researched vasectomy reversal and seems very possible. Researched and decided where I will book to have this done. However still worried at 37 that time is ticking to not only Father a child/children, but fully enjoy and embrace having children.

I may be over reacting, and maybe I’m scared.

Comments

  1. SomethingMildlyFunny Avatar

    You got this. I’m on a similar (though I have three kids of my own and don’t plan to have my vasectomy reversed – unless whomever I find next wants that) journey. Just take it all a day at a time and walk through life like you own it!

  2. Longjumping-Oil-7419 Avatar

    35 is plenty young enough to enjoy kids

  3. MikeRadical Avatar

    My dad had me at 40. I’m 33 so not in the same boat, all I can say is that worrying isn’t going to solve anything – action. will. Focus on building your body back so that you can be healthy and active in the case that you do have kids.

  4. omnimon_X Avatar

    Snip snap snip snap!

  5. free_da_guys1107 Avatar

    You got a vasectomy so someone else baby mother didn’t have more kids? Now she’s divorcing you 😆. Can’t make this shit up. Good luck

  6. hnkhfghn6e Avatar

    I’m 35 and planning to get mine reversed. I wanted to wait until I met the right person though. Still waiting. The surgeon seemed very confident in his abilities. He said he has a 95% success rate across all men, regardless of age

  7. Silverlupin Avatar

    Sorry am woman but had to comment. My husband met me at 39 after ending a 7yr relationship. I was 29. Never too late.

    Dont feel rushed like ur backed into a corner. U have time. The worst thing u can do to urself is rushing and having kids with the wrong person.