For example:
“He’s insecure if he doesn’t want his girlfriend posting swimsuit photos.”
“She’s just a little jealous. That’s normal.”
“He’s insecure in his masculinity if he doesn’t want people to say he’s gay.”
“She’s doesn’t want to be called fat because it’s insulting.”
The insecure man is mocked. The jealous woman is often normalized or even sympathized with.
Both men and women experience insecurity. But when men show it, it’s often treated as a character flaw. Why?
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It’s a gendered shame tactic they use to try and get you to act against your best interest and protect their ego. She isn’t a bitch you don’t want, you’re insecure.
This must be a new online thing, because women have always been branded as insecure
It’s used to describe plenty of women.
Because men are generally held to a higher standard of responsibility. Insecure targets the man´s decision making.
Why? Just chalk it up to another privilege women enjoy, they get 60% of the jail sentence men get for the same crime, they almost always check out of a marriage with cash and prizes, they get custody almost all the time. The matriarchy is real dude,
No fucking way women do not have a universal experience of being called insecure for every little thing they do
Idk, women get called insecure too. Just for different things than men do.
They get called insecure for being upset their partner is watching porn. Get called insecure in their looks. Etc.
There’s just a segment of both sexes that thinks their side is the only ones who gets hit with these types of things, while the rest of us can clearly see both sides get hit with it, just in slightly different ways. Your struggle may be unique, but you’re not the only one struggling.
Women can be insecure. The only thing I’ve noticed you can call a man but not a woman is “pussy.” That seems to only be used one way: woman -> man. Well, “limp, small-dicked motherfucker” might be another lol.
Its being used as a term weaponized against men. People normalize and deflect to blaming men on all sorts of things rather than take accountability. Don’t want to buy expensive things and shower the women with gifts attacks the guys for being cheap. A women who is crude, controlling or demanding is seen as girl power and women empowerment and guys who don’t like it are then insecure. It sucks that in order tolerate or raise one up, the other gets brought down
i’ve seen women be called it all the time, hell i get called it all the time, but maybe its the way men treat dysmoprhia? idk
Because it’s a way to manipulate us. They would laugh if we tried calling them insecure.
Women lob the term insecure when a man tries to explain or set his boundaries, or when he tries to talk to her about something she did that he’s not ok with. It’s a way for them to derail any necessary conversations.
Because American society likes to shit on men and glorify everything about women, that’s why.
Is that just your perspective or is that really happening to everybody because I cant relate to that happening around me. I see everyone getting called out for their insecurity. Victim mentality?
Women have always been called insecure too lol it really is a “call out” to just about everyone tbh.
As a footnote that probably means nothing: recently there was a study that showed full brain development can take as long as 40 for males and women are late 20s but I didn’t read it so take that with a grain of salt.
It’s just a different variant of “I’m not the problem, men are.”
Unable to accept accountability is the main issue for a lot of dudes and their exes.