My bf growing up had a traditional mom where she would do everything including taking the plate off the table and cleaning it for you. I was raised where I was doing laundry and my own dishes by 10.
I feel like I’m doing a lot of the housework compared to my partner. Yes he still does things which is great! But he slacks off and won’t do anything unless I force him to and even then it might not get done.
I’m wondering for those of you who had a mom that did all cleaning and chore work for you, how are you now with contributing to housework as an adult?
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My wife cooks because she’s brilliant at it and I do the cleanup of the bomb site after. Everything else 50/50 (no forcing required).
He’s just being lazy, you need to let him know he’s not in Kansas anymore and you’re not his mother.
I do all of it. I’m learning now to dial it back and do things that bring me joy. It ain’t always supposed to be spotless at home.
Pretty terrible at it, but a lot of that is depression and living alone. When I had roommates for a spell, just having folks around that would help out and that were impacted by my choices meant I was far better about keeping the household chores going, since there was a sense of accountability keeping everything moving. But no, I’m godawful at basic home maintenance and housekeeping, fairly useless in a lot of ways.
Oh stop flattering yourself. My wife does the same BS where she over-exaggerates what she does and diminishes what I do.
Started cooking for myself about age 11 and had my one bowl, cup, flatware, ect. to clean in addition to the skillet which was a super-easy nonstick job. Took out the trash I made in small plastic bags and got the neighbor to teach me how to do laundry. Basically handled all of *my* stuff from that point until we got into an actual house and there was a lot of conflict over the yard getting mowed.
I still pretty much just pick my battles. Disposable dishes i don’t have to clean, eating/drinking from a container, so on and so on. Basically ended up doing everything i can to minimize the amount of work i have to do around the home.
I did my laundry starting at 10 years old.